Get help

[Bears11]

Grandson 9 years old was abused by mother's partner, mother threw him out of her house at 8 20pm so he ran to us his grandparents with no shoes on . She did not check if we were at home or if he arrived safe. He told us of abuse , she sent her partner to collect him 3 days later before social services could be called out , she told him if police ever come to a house you are at they will take you away and you will never see anyone you know ever again so when we said about calling them he was terrified She then stopped all contact Social services will not look at messages that proved this happened or at others that confirm he was struck by the partner.

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Bears 11

Welcome to the parents’ forum and thank you for posting. I am Suzie, the online adviser from Family Rights Group.

I am sorry to hear what you and your grandson are going through. I can only imagine how frightened your grandson must have been and I am pleased to hear you were available for him when he needed you. However, I understand he has now returned to the care of his mother and her partner and seemingly has received threats to keep him silent, which is very concerning - no child but be put in such a situation.
From the information you have provided I am uncertain whether you have already attempted to engage with Children’s services . The details you’ve shared represent a serious safeguarding concern and it is clear he has suffered harm. Because your grandson has disclosed abuse and his mother has actively prevented him from staying in a safe environment, it is vital that this is escalated immediately.

I would therefore urge you to contact one of the following agencies, as a matter of urgency, and they can make sure that your grandson receives the help and support he needs:

The Police: If you believe your grandson is in immediate danger while in that home call 999; a welfare check can be requested. Alternatively, you can call 101 to discuss non-emergency concerns.

The NSPCC : you can discuss your concerns with the NSPCC by calling 0808 800 5000 (currently open 11am-5pm Monday to Friday) or send an email to help@nspcc.org.uk. You can remain anonymous

The local Children’s services department in the area your grandson lives in and, as with the NSPCC, you can remain anonymous if you wish

I also want to make sure you are getting the most relevant advice and emotional support during this difficult situation. This specific board is intended for parents; however, we have a dedicated space that would be much better suited for your situation: The Kinship Carers Forum
This forum is specifically for family members and friends (like grandparents) who are raising or looking out for children when parents cannot.

I do hope the above is helpful and that you will be able to get help and support for your grandson.

If you do have further questions I would suggest you call our free and confidential telephone advice line on 0808 801 0366 where you can speak directly to an adviser. The advice line is open from Monday to Friday (excluding bank holidays) from 9:30am until 3pm. The line does get busy, but I'd encourage you to keep trying. Please note though that Family Rights Group is an independent charity and we are not connected to your Local Authority’s Children’s Services department. We are not able to investigate the situation of an individual child. If you are worried about the safety of your grandson you need to contact one of the above agencies.