I’m being supported by my local community mental health team and have a care coordinator. Due to a variety of stressors my mood has spiralled and I’m now at risk of harming myself. This is alongside drinking heavily- my risk escalates considerably when I’m alone and drunk as I’m far more impulsive. I only drink in the evenings and hold down a job and am a mum to my 3 children. I’m working with local alcohol services and have the funding approved for an inpatient detox - we’re just waiting for me to be strong enough mentally to begin the detox.
My kids are 21, 20 and 11. The older 2 aren’t at home much (1 is in Australia and 1 spends half the week with her partner). My 11 year old daughter lives with me but spends 2 or 3 nights a week with her dad.
My CMHT care coordinator recently referred my daughter to children’s services due to my mental health and alcohol addiction. Her main concern is my ability to keep myself safe especially when drinking and the impact this is having on my daughter. I understand why the referral was done but it’s obviously an extra pressure on what is an already overwhelming situation.
A social worker called me the day after the referral and I spoke honestly about what had been going on. She said she needed to speak to my ex- husband (this is a huge panic due to past abuse), my daughter’s school and the GP. I gave her consent for all of that.
I expected to have further contact soon after but I’ve heard nothing. The referral was done on 11.3.26. My care coordinator who did the referral hasn’t heard anything either. Is this unusual for such a long gap of no communication? What does the assessment period entail? For the reasons I have written are children’s services likely to want to be involved?
Parent mental health
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Winter25
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Re: Parent mental health
It takes a massive amount of courage to be as honest as you’ve been about the self-harm risk and the drinking. That kind of transparency is actually your best defence. In the world of social services, they spend a lot of time chasing parents who are in total denial. When they meet a parent who says, "This is exactly what is happening, and I’ve already got my funding for detox," it completely changes the dynamic. You aren't a problem they need to solve but more a parent who is already solving the problem, and they are essentially just there to watch the safety net while you do it.
silence since March 11th is incredibly draining for your mental health, but in procedural terms, it isn't necessarily a bad sign. A standard "Single Assessment" usually has a target completion date of 45 working days. Since you are currently about five weeks in, you are right in the middle of their usual window. If the social worker had spoken to the school or the GP and found anything that suggested your daughter was in immediate danger, they would have been at your door within 24 hours. The fact that they are taking their time suggests they are just working through their mountain of paperwork and gathering information from the different agencies.
The assessment itself is a 360-degree check of your daughter's life. They look at her "lived experience", is she doing okay at school? Is she getting to her dad’s house safely? By speaking to the GP, they are confirming that you are engaging with the CMHT. They are essentially making sure that your daughter is protected while you are unwell.
It is completely understandable that involving an abusive ex-husband feels like a total nightmare. However, they are legally required to contact the other parent to see if they can act as a "protective factor." They need to know if he is a safe place for your daughter to stay while you go through your inpatient detox. If you have already been honest with the social worker about the history of abuse, they should be viewing his comments through that lens. Your honesty about your struggles before he could "expose" them takes the power away from him.
Given your situation, they will likely want to stay involved for a while, but almost certainly under a Child in Need (CiN) plan. This is a voluntary level of support. It isn't about removal; it’s about the local authority providing a formal structure to help you. They will want to see a solid plan for who looks after your daughter while you are in the detox facility. A CiN plan is actually a good way to ensure you aren't doing all this heavy lifting on your own.
This should not go to a Child Protection (CP) Plan. If they do feel the need to suggest that, you should ask them exactly what "significant harm" they believe is present that cannot be managed by the voluntary detox and the safety plans you have already set up. Child Protection is generally for situations where a parent refuses to engage or there is an immediate, unmanaged risk. Since you are being proactive and already have your treatment funding secured, a voluntary CiN plan is the more proportionate and appropriate path to take.
Don't let the silence feed your anxiety. I suggest sending a short, professional email today to force them to give you a timeline.
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Dear [Social Worker's Name],
I am writing to check on the progress of the assessment following the referral on 11.03.26. I have been continuing my work with the CMHT and alcohol services, and my inpatient detox remains the priority for my recovery. Since I haven't had an update for a few weeks, I would be grateful if you could let me know the current status of the assessment and the expected timescales for completion. This will help me factor your involvement into my long-term recovery and detox planning.
Kind regards,
[Your Name]
By sending this, you are proving that you are organized, calm, and child-focused. It shows that even when things are overwhelming, you are the one managing the situation. You are doing the hard work already. Take the silence as a sign that there is no fire to put out righ now, and keep your focus on getting "strong enough" for that detox. You are getting through this.
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For transparency, I am not an official adviser. I am a parent with lived experience of the system, offering support and strategic guidance. Always consult with your solicitor regarding anything if you have one.
silence since March 11th is incredibly draining for your mental health, but in procedural terms, it isn't necessarily a bad sign. A standard "Single Assessment" usually has a target completion date of 45 working days. Since you are currently about five weeks in, you are right in the middle of their usual window. If the social worker had spoken to the school or the GP and found anything that suggested your daughter was in immediate danger, they would have been at your door within 24 hours. The fact that they are taking their time suggests they are just working through their mountain of paperwork and gathering information from the different agencies.
The assessment itself is a 360-degree check of your daughter's life. They look at her "lived experience", is she doing okay at school? Is she getting to her dad’s house safely? By speaking to the GP, they are confirming that you are engaging with the CMHT. They are essentially making sure that your daughter is protected while you are unwell.
It is completely understandable that involving an abusive ex-husband feels like a total nightmare. However, they are legally required to contact the other parent to see if they can act as a "protective factor." They need to know if he is a safe place for your daughter to stay while you go through your inpatient detox. If you have already been honest with the social worker about the history of abuse, they should be viewing his comments through that lens. Your honesty about your struggles before he could "expose" them takes the power away from him.
Given your situation, they will likely want to stay involved for a while, but almost certainly under a Child in Need (CiN) plan. This is a voluntary level of support. It isn't about removal; it’s about the local authority providing a formal structure to help you. They will want to see a solid plan for who looks after your daughter while you are in the detox facility. A CiN plan is actually a good way to ensure you aren't doing all this heavy lifting on your own.
This should not go to a Child Protection (CP) Plan. If they do feel the need to suggest that, you should ask them exactly what "significant harm" they believe is present that cannot be managed by the voluntary detox and the safety plans you have already set up. Child Protection is generally for situations where a parent refuses to engage or there is an immediate, unmanaged risk. Since you are being proactive and already have your treatment funding secured, a voluntary CiN plan is the more proportionate and appropriate path to take.
Don't let the silence feed your anxiety. I suggest sending a short, professional email today to force them to give you a timeline.
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Dear [Social Worker's Name],
I am writing to check on the progress of the assessment following the referral on 11.03.26. I have been continuing my work with the CMHT and alcohol services, and my inpatient detox remains the priority for my recovery. Since I haven't had an update for a few weeks, I would be grateful if you could let me know the current status of the assessment and the expected timescales for completion. This will help me factor your involvement into my long-term recovery and detox planning.
Kind regards,
[Your Name]
By sending this, you are proving that you are organized, calm, and child-focused. It shows that even when things are overwhelming, you are the one managing the situation. You are doing the hard work already. Take the silence as a sign that there is no fire to put out righ now, and keep your focus on getting "strong enough" for that detox. You are getting through this.
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For transparency, I am not an official adviser. I am a parent with lived experience of the system, offering support and strategic guidance. Always consult with your solicitor regarding anything if you have one.
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Catzmle
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Re: Parent mental health
Thank you so much for taking the time for writing such a helpful reply. I really appreciate it.
When I spoke to the social worker initially she did indicate that by having support in place with both the CMHT and alcohol services, it is viewed favourably. However as my risk of harming myself is high especially when I drink they need to know if my daughter will be safe in that moment. My closest friend who is like a mum to me (my own mum died of cancer) is dying of cancer- she has very little time left. This is hugely triggering for me and there is a concern of how I will react when I get the news - I do have a history of suicide attempts. In my logical mind I will ensure my daughter is looked after and take myself to a place of safety but I cannot guarantee that will be what I will do.
I am absolutely no risk to my daughter and I would never harm myself with her in the house- she is my ultimate protective factor.
So there is a lot of uncertainty ahead in relation to a potential crisis team referral and the inpatient detox. My daughter would be able to stay with her dad for a period of time but that would involve him knowing everything and that is a very distressing thought. He would regain power over me- something that took me so much strength and courage to achieve.
I’m fearful of having children’s services involved- I feel like such a bad mother as it is and this is just proof of that. I do want to get better and stop drinking- I want to be the best mum I can be.
I would definitely send that email but I don’t actually have any contact details for the social worker- no mobile number or email address- just a name of the lady who did the initial phone call. I don’t know if contact has been made with the school or GP. I would’ve thought they would want to meet me and my daughter- is that what would normally happen in an assessment?
Thank you again for your reply and advice
When I spoke to the social worker initially she did indicate that by having support in place with both the CMHT and alcohol services, it is viewed favourably. However as my risk of harming myself is high especially when I drink they need to know if my daughter will be safe in that moment. My closest friend who is like a mum to me (my own mum died of cancer) is dying of cancer- she has very little time left. This is hugely triggering for me and there is a concern of how I will react when I get the news - I do have a history of suicide attempts. In my logical mind I will ensure my daughter is looked after and take myself to a place of safety but I cannot guarantee that will be what I will do.
I am absolutely no risk to my daughter and I would never harm myself with her in the house- she is my ultimate protective factor.
So there is a lot of uncertainty ahead in relation to a potential crisis team referral and the inpatient detox. My daughter would be able to stay with her dad for a period of time but that would involve him knowing everything and that is a very distressing thought. He would regain power over me- something that took me so much strength and courage to achieve.
I’m fearful of having children’s services involved- I feel like such a bad mother as it is and this is just proof of that. I do want to get better and stop drinking- I want to be the best mum I can be.
I would definitely send that email but I don’t actually have any contact details for the social worker- no mobile number or email address- just a name of the lady who did the initial phone call. I don’t know if contact has been made with the school or GP. I would’ve thought they would want to meet me and my daughter- is that what would normally happen in an assessment?
Thank you again for your reply and advice
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Winter25
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Re: Parent mental health
Hi Catzmle,
I’m so glad you shared those extra details, though I can hear how much pain is behind them. Dealing with the loss of your mother-figure while you’re already in a storm is almost more than anyone should have to carry. I want to speak to those thoughts of ending your life, not as a lecture, but as someone who hears your pain.
You know better than anyone right now what it feels like to lose a mother. You are carrying that grief every single day. The reason you are fighting so hard is that you are the only person in the world who can protect your daughter from having to feel this exact same pain. She doesn't need a "perfect" version of you, and she doesn't need a version of you that never struggles. She just needs her Mum. Staying here, even when the noise is loud, even when feel so hard is the most powerful act of protection you can ever give her. You aren't failing her by being unwell you are loving her by staying in the fight to get better. I lost my mum in November and the pain is there, my partner ( whom the reason I got involved with SS) lost his entire family, Kids, parents, friends all of them. The strongest thing we can do as human beings is push through the pain because I can promise you it doesn't last forever. Getting yourself well, starts with today and being well and happy for your daughter is the most powerful thing you can aim for.
Regarding the "system strategy," you mentioned that your daughter is your ultimate protective factor. I know that’s true in your heart, but you must be very careful not to say that to a social worker. They view that as "emotional burdening", the idea that the child is responsible for keeping the parent safe. To protect your position, tell them she is your
"huge motivation" for recovery, but that your actual safety plan relies on adults like your CMHT coordinator, alcohol services, and your own coping strategies. This keeps the responsibility on the adults, which is exactly what they want to see. You protect her from all things as a mother should and SS need to know you protect HER, in return in your heart she will protect you .
The silence since March 11th is exhausting, but it likely means they don't see an immediate emergency. To get some clarity, your next practical step is to call the main Children’s Services switchboard. Ask for the name and email of the worker handling your assessment. Once you have that, you can send a calm update to show them you are the one "managing" your recovery.
You could say: "Dear Social Worker, I am writing to check on the progress of the assessment started on 11.03.26. I am continuing to engage with CMHT and alcohol services, and my inpatient detox remains the priority for my recovery. I would be grateful for an update on the assessment stage and expected timescales so I can factor this into my detox planning. Kind regards, [Your Name]."
As for your ex-husband, you don't owe him your medical details. You can tell the social worker that because of the history of abuse, you want any involvement from him to be handled carefully and only for the daughter’s care. You can tell him she’s staying for a few nights for "medical reasons" without ever mentioning the word "detox" or "mental health" to him.
None of this makes you a bad mother at all. You are being honest and seeking help, which makes you a brave, protective parent. If the thoughts ever get too loud, please reach out to the crisis team or 111 immediately. You are worth the fight, and so is the future you’re building for your daughter. She needs you, be there for her fight through the cloud and come out the other side to see her grow up so you can look back one day and know you made it through.
I understand your thoughts, they took my daughter placed her with my ex and i felt the same as you , but I knew she needed me to fight and I did i go her back..so can you.
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For transparency, I am not an official adviser. I am a parent with lived experience of the system, offering supportive and strategic guidance. Always consult with your care coordinator or a solicitor regarding the specifics of your assessment.
I’m so glad you shared those extra details, though I can hear how much pain is behind them. Dealing with the loss of your mother-figure while you’re already in a storm is almost more than anyone should have to carry. I want to speak to those thoughts of ending your life, not as a lecture, but as someone who hears your pain.
You know better than anyone right now what it feels like to lose a mother. You are carrying that grief every single day. The reason you are fighting so hard is that you are the only person in the world who can protect your daughter from having to feel this exact same pain. She doesn't need a "perfect" version of you, and she doesn't need a version of you that never struggles. She just needs her Mum. Staying here, even when the noise is loud, even when feel so hard is the most powerful act of protection you can ever give her. You aren't failing her by being unwell you are loving her by staying in the fight to get better. I lost my mum in November and the pain is there, my partner ( whom the reason I got involved with SS) lost his entire family, Kids, parents, friends all of them. The strongest thing we can do as human beings is push through the pain because I can promise you it doesn't last forever. Getting yourself well, starts with today and being well and happy for your daughter is the most powerful thing you can aim for.
Regarding the "system strategy," you mentioned that your daughter is your ultimate protective factor. I know that’s true in your heart, but you must be very careful not to say that to a social worker. They view that as "emotional burdening", the idea that the child is responsible for keeping the parent safe. To protect your position, tell them she is your
"huge motivation" for recovery, but that your actual safety plan relies on adults like your CMHT coordinator, alcohol services, and your own coping strategies. This keeps the responsibility on the adults, which is exactly what they want to see. You protect her from all things as a mother should and SS need to know you protect HER, in return in your heart she will protect you .
The silence since March 11th is exhausting, but it likely means they don't see an immediate emergency. To get some clarity, your next practical step is to call the main Children’s Services switchboard. Ask for the name and email of the worker handling your assessment. Once you have that, you can send a calm update to show them you are the one "managing" your recovery.
You could say: "Dear Social Worker, I am writing to check on the progress of the assessment started on 11.03.26. I am continuing to engage with CMHT and alcohol services, and my inpatient detox remains the priority for my recovery. I would be grateful for an update on the assessment stage and expected timescales so I can factor this into my detox planning. Kind regards, [Your Name]."
As for your ex-husband, you don't owe him your medical details. You can tell the social worker that because of the history of abuse, you want any involvement from him to be handled carefully and only for the daughter’s care. You can tell him she’s staying for a few nights for "medical reasons" without ever mentioning the word "detox" or "mental health" to him.
None of this makes you a bad mother at all. You are being honest and seeking help, which makes you a brave, protective parent. If the thoughts ever get too loud, please reach out to the crisis team or 111 immediately. You are worth the fight, and so is the future you’re building for your daughter. She needs you, be there for her fight through the cloud and come out the other side to see her grow up so you can look back one day and know you made it through.
I understand your thoughts, they took my daughter placed her with my ex and i felt the same as you , but I knew she needed me to fight and I did i go her back..so can you.
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For transparency, I am not an official adviser. I am a parent with lived experience of the system, offering supportive and strategic guidance. Always consult with your care coordinator or a solicitor regarding the specifics of your assessment.
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: Parent mental health
Dear Catzmle
Welcome to the parents’ discussion board. My name is Suzie. I am Family Rights Group’s online adviser. Thank you very much for your two posts. I will reply to them both here.
I am sorry to hear about the difficulties you and your family are experiencing. I can see that it is a stressful time for you.
It is positive that you say that you want to be the best mum you can be. You want to stop drinking too. You are also working with your local community mental health team where you have a care coordinator. You have also engaged well with your local alcohol services and secured funding for an inpatient detox. Every positive step you take to overcome your own difficulties helps your daughter too. She needs you to be well, which you are working on, so that you can continue to care for her safely. Your daughter spends time with her dad also. I know that this is complicated and not easy as he was abusive to you in the past, but it offers you some respite from your sole care of your daughter.
I am sorry to hear though of the distress you are currently experiencing. You say that you are at high risk of self-harm and that your mood has spiralled. You describe how you attempted suicide in the past and are aware that you are vulnerable to this. You explain that the risk is heightened when you are alone and drinking. In addition, you are dealing with the trauma of the terminal illness of a very close friend.
Your care coordinator made a referral to children’s services on 11th March, and you have had minimal contact from children’s services since. You understand why they referred. However, your care coordinator has also not received any update from children’s services. You describe how you had one call from a social worker when they received the referral; I assume this was a MASH worker who was doing basic checks before passing to children’s services for them to decide whether to offer an assessment or not. You spoke openly to the social worker about your situation. I understand that it is not easy to do so but it is to your credit that you were willing to be honest with her and that you gave her consent to do network checks. Having social work involvement does not make you a bad mother; it means that you and your daughter would benefit from extra support, because of your difficulties, to promote her welfare and keep her safe.
It is not ok that you have not heard anything since and that the referrer has also not been given feedback. Children’s services should decide within one working day whether to offer an assessment and if so what type of assessment. I would expect them to want to assess the situation to coordinate a plan of support for your daughter and for you to minimise any risk of harm and to progress your access to treatment. As you are worried about how you are feeling and what you might do it is really important that children’s services are updated and that they discuss with you how they will work with you to promote your daughter’s welfare and to keep her safe.
I would strongly encourage you to:
• Contact your care coordinator to discuss your concerns about your risk of self-harm and mood changes. They can coordinate a plan of support for you. You mention a referral to the crisis team; that may be helpful to you.
• Your care coordinator can also chase up children’s services to clarify their current role. It is important that all the services are working together and sharing information to help you and your daughter.
• You can also contact children’s services’ directly. I know you don’t have specific details but if you contact your local authority MASH or Front Door (or similar service) which you should be able to find online and provide your daughter’s details (name, date of birth and postcode) they will be able to find her record and put you through to the right team. Please do update them on your situation.
Please see links below to mental health, family support and alcohol support services for additional support and advice in addition to the current services:
Samaritans ; freephone 116 123 and online chat
Mind:0300 102 1234
Shout: text 85258
Family Line charity
Adfam.
You can find out more about how children’s services work here. It is not possible to predict the outcome of an assessment as the social worker will gather and analyse information from a range of services including your GP, your daughter’s school, and the adult services with which you are working. They will look at your daughter’s developmental needs, your and her father’s parenting capacity and family and environmental factors to explore strengths and concerns.
There is already a plan in place for you to have an inpatient detox and you may, I believe, be referred for crisis mental health support. You can refer yourself too if you need to. Your daughter could stay with her dad for a short time while you detox but you have concerns about how much information would be shared with him about your health needs and alcohol use. It will be important to discuss and try to agree with the social worker how/what sensitive information may be shared with him and to ensure their decisions are informed by awareness of his past abusive behaviour. We have a FAQ about domestic abuse and keeping personal information private which provides further advice on this issue.
You may find it helpful to consider asking for a family group conference (FGC) to bring together your family and friends’ network to help draw up a family safety plan to support you and your daughter better. Please see here for more details about this.
I hope that my advice has been helpful to you.
Please do post again if you have more questions. You can call our free, confidential adviceline on 0808 801 0366 (Monday to Friday, 9:30am – 3pm) to speak with an adviser if you prefer. We also have a webchat which is currently open on Monday and Thursday afternoons and an online advice enquiry form.
Best wishes
Suzie
Welcome to the parents’ discussion board. My name is Suzie. I am Family Rights Group’s online adviser. Thank you very much for your two posts. I will reply to them both here.
I am sorry to hear about the difficulties you and your family are experiencing. I can see that it is a stressful time for you.
It is positive that you say that you want to be the best mum you can be. You want to stop drinking too. You are also working with your local community mental health team where you have a care coordinator. You have also engaged well with your local alcohol services and secured funding for an inpatient detox. Every positive step you take to overcome your own difficulties helps your daughter too. She needs you to be well, which you are working on, so that you can continue to care for her safely. Your daughter spends time with her dad also. I know that this is complicated and not easy as he was abusive to you in the past, but it offers you some respite from your sole care of your daughter.
I am sorry to hear though of the distress you are currently experiencing. You say that you are at high risk of self-harm and that your mood has spiralled. You describe how you attempted suicide in the past and are aware that you are vulnerable to this. You explain that the risk is heightened when you are alone and drinking. In addition, you are dealing with the trauma of the terminal illness of a very close friend.
Your care coordinator made a referral to children’s services on 11th March, and you have had minimal contact from children’s services since. You understand why they referred. However, your care coordinator has also not received any update from children’s services. You describe how you had one call from a social worker when they received the referral; I assume this was a MASH worker who was doing basic checks before passing to children’s services for them to decide whether to offer an assessment or not. You spoke openly to the social worker about your situation. I understand that it is not easy to do so but it is to your credit that you were willing to be honest with her and that you gave her consent to do network checks. Having social work involvement does not make you a bad mother; it means that you and your daughter would benefit from extra support, because of your difficulties, to promote her welfare and keep her safe.
It is not ok that you have not heard anything since and that the referrer has also not been given feedback. Children’s services should decide within one working day whether to offer an assessment and if so what type of assessment. I would expect them to want to assess the situation to coordinate a plan of support for your daughter and for you to minimise any risk of harm and to progress your access to treatment. As you are worried about how you are feeling and what you might do it is really important that children’s services are updated and that they discuss with you how they will work with you to promote your daughter’s welfare and to keep her safe.
I would strongly encourage you to:
• Contact your care coordinator to discuss your concerns about your risk of self-harm and mood changes. They can coordinate a plan of support for you. You mention a referral to the crisis team; that may be helpful to you.
• Your care coordinator can also chase up children’s services to clarify their current role. It is important that all the services are working together and sharing information to help you and your daughter.
• You can also contact children’s services’ directly. I know you don’t have specific details but if you contact your local authority MASH or Front Door (or similar service) which you should be able to find online and provide your daughter’s details (name, date of birth and postcode) they will be able to find her record and put you through to the right team. Please do update them on your situation.
Please see links below to mental health, family support and alcohol support services for additional support and advice in addition to the current services:
Samaritans ; freephone 116 123 and online chat
Mind:0300 102 1234
Shout: text 85258
Family Line charity
Adfam.
You can find out more about how children’s services work here. It is not possible to predict the outcome of an assessment as the social worker will gather and analyse information from a range of services including your GP, your daughter’s school, and the adult services with which you are working. They will look at your daughter’s developmental needs, your and her father’s parenting capacity and family and environmental factors to explore strengths and concerns.
There is already a plan in place for you to have an inpatient detox and you may, I believe, be referred for crisis mental health support. You can refer yourself too if you need to. Your daughter could stay with her dad for a short time while you detox but you have concerns about how much information would be shared with him about your health needs and alcohol use. It will be important to discuss and try to agree with the social worker how/what sensitive information may be shared with him and to ensure their decisions are informed by awareness of his past abusive behaviour. We have a FAQ about domestic abuse and keeping personal information private which provides further advice on this issue.
You may find it helpful to consider asking for a family group conference (FGC) to bring together your family and friends’ network to help draw up a family safety plan to support you and your daughter better. Please see here for more details about this.
I hope that my advice has been helpful to you.
Please do post again if you have more questions. You can call our free, confidential adviceline on 0808 801 0366 (Monday to Friday, 9:30am – 3pm) to speak with an adviser if you prefer. We also have a webchat which is currently open on Monday and Thursday afternoons and an online advice enquiry form.
Best wishes
Suzie
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Catzmle
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- Joined: Sun Apr 05, 2026 8:55 pm
Re: Parent mental health
Thank you for the replies I’m very grateful.
As suggested I’ve just contacted children’s services and they found my daughter’s account. They advised that there is no further action at present but my daughter can be re-referred if the situation changes. Apparently the social worker who I spoke to initially should’ve made it clear - if there’s no contact from them after a couple of days it means they’re not taking it any further.
I am of course very relieved- it is a big pressure lifted.
I will continue working with the CMHT and alcohol services through this difficult time.
Thank you again for taking the time to respond
As suggested I’ve just contacted children’s services and they found my daughter’s account. They advised that there is no further action at present but my daughter can be re-referred if the situation changes. Apparently the social worker who I spoke to initially should’ve made it clear - if there’s no contact from them after a couple of days it means they’re not taking it any further.
I am of course very relieved- it is a big pressure lifted.
I will continue working with the CMHT and alcohol services through this difficult time.
Thank you again for taking the time to respond
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VD2ER
- Posts: 18
- Joined: Sat Dec 13, 2025 1:52 pm
Re: Parent mental health
Catzmle - there are a number of drugs that can be prescribed to reduce the craving of alcohol or even make you feel ill if you drink an alcoholic drink.
Since it seems your main concern is what you might do if you do drink then perhaps this is an avenue you can discuss with your doctor?
Since it seems your main concern is what you might do if you do drink then perhaps this is an avenue you can discuss with your doctor?
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: Parent mental health
Dear CatzmleCatzmle wrote: Fri Apr 17, 2026 2:58 pm Thank you for the replies I’m very grateful.
As suggested I’ve just contacted children’s services and they found my daughter’s account. They advised that there is no further action at present but my daughter can be re-referred if the situation changes. Apparently the social worker who I spoke to initially should’ve made it clear - if there’s no contact from them after a couple of days it means they’re not taking it any further.
I am of course very relieved- it is a big pressure lifted.
I will continue working with the CMHT and alcohol services through this difficult time.
Thank you again for taking the time to respond
Thank you for the update. I am so glad that you reached out to Children's Services and got the clarity you needed. It sounds like a huge weight has been lifted. It's good that you're staying committed to your mental health and alcohol misuse support - you're taking the right steps; when you're feeling supported, it will make a positive difference for your daughter too.
Best wishes
Suzie
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