Advice on my niece coming to live with me.
Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2020 11:56 am
Hi there.
I hope i'm posting in the right section of the site. I'm looking for some advice and information if possible because the net is a massive place of confusion for us at the moment leaving us with little to no help at all.
My brother and his girlfriend (At the time - their now not together) have been having some really low points in their relationship and from the moment my niece was born in 2013 she has been moved from pillow to post. My brother and her mother have the most volatile pair and my neice has seen and heard alot for someone so little.
Now social services have been in and out of their home, But argee that because the care of my (N) isn't at risk their happy for her to live with one parent. Brother and partner havent listened to this advice and although their not together they cant seem to argee on anything. My brother has just been offered a job 200 miles away which would mean he would have to travel back and forth - Mum has now declosed to me that she cannot cope alone and has asked me if i would have my niece full time.
Dad is refusing this (As much as i love him, my brother is selfish) and he says that (N ) needs to stay with her mother, as thats her job!
Ive been told that because its not a social services inforced move, We wouldnt need to do anything, but my concern is that if brother throws hes toys out the pram and demands (N) back it would cause more problems for everyone concerned. If i do this me and my husband want something in writing to state that she is with us for the long haul which would offer (N) a stable home life until she is old enough to be independant.
There is going to be alot of family members on both sides who will try and cause issues with this because they all have their heads up their and only think as far as their nose about them and their opinions.
I think my main questions are;
Would we be able to get something in writing to say that we are only her care givers - But she must remain with us until shes old enough to make her own decisions?
We dont have an income which would support a small person and all the things she will need such as school trips, uniforms, ect.
Does my brother and N mum need to lose their parental rights for us to get something in writing? Because it would be important for me that N will know what days she will be with mum & dad (As well as other family members?)
Sorry for the long ranted post, hopefully it makes some sense because i have been rushing to get it posted for some answers!
Many thanks
Px
I hope i'm posting in the right section of the site. I'm looking for some advice and information if possible because the net is a massive place of confusion for us at the moment leaving us with little to no help at all.
My brother and his girlfriend (At the time - their now not together) have been having some really low points in their relationship and from the moment my niece was born in 2013 she has been moved from pillow to post. My brother and her mother have the most volatile pair and my neice has seen and heard alot for someone so little.
Now social services have been in and out of their home, But argee that because the care of my (N) isn't at risk their happy for her to live with one parent. Brother and partner havent listened to this advice and although their not together they cant seem to argee on anything. My brother has just been offered a job 200 miles away which would mean he would have to travel back and forth - Mum has now declosed to me that she cannot cope alone and has asked me if i would have my niece full time.
Dad is refusing this (As much as i love him, my brother is selfish) and he says that (N ) needs to stay with her mother, as thats her job!
Ive been told that because its not a social services inforced move, We wouldnt need to do anything, but my concern is that if brother throws hes toys out the pram and demands (N) back it would cause more problems for everyone concerned. If i do this me and my husband want something in writing to state that she is with us for the long haul which would offer (N) a stable home life until she is old enough to be independant.
There is going to be alot of family members on both sides who will try and cause issues with this because they all have their heads up their and only think as far as their nose about them and their opinions.
I think my main questions are;
Would we be able to get something in writing to say that we are only her care givers - But she must remain with us until shes old enough to make her own decisions?
We dont have an income which would support a small person and all the things she will need such as school trips, uniforms, ect.
Does my brother and N mum need to lose their parental rights for us to get something in writing? Because it would be important for me that N will know what days she will be with mum & dad (As well as other family members?)
Sorry for the long ranted post, hopefully it makes some sense because i have been rushing to get it posted for some answers!
Many thanks
Px