I have recently gone through years of hell, involving court cases for my daughter.
Originally it began with my daughter (referred to as 'C' for now) arriving for her weekend at mine in a neglected state. This worsened as the weeks progressed until I had to take her to hospital. They called SS, whom arrived soon after to assess the situation.
C had nappy rash stretching from her knees to the middle of her back and various unexplained bruises over her body.
Following the revelation that she had been neglected under her mothers care, C was placed with me on a more permanent basis, her mother ('E') getting supervised contact.
Over the period of the following six months, SS gradually turned their back on me, giving E more and more contact until eventually primary care was returned to her.
I have no explanation for this. I provided the best safety and care for my daughter.
I jumped through hoops that didn't need to be jumped through.
Yet they only afforded me limited contact following all this.
DESPITE THE PHOTOGRAPHIC EVIDENCE OF SERIOUS NEGLECT.
Understandably this angered me at first, though I quickly regained composure and moved on to focus on the situation as it had evolved.
Some time passed, in which speaking terms were established with E, C had settled into life and contact was routine.
Then one day I go to collect C from school, I was there informed by her teachers evidence of sexual abuse had come to light.
No doubt SS were quickly involved again.
I got very little information once C was subject to the care order and unfortunately this, plus the realisation I had failed my daughter in the most horrible way, I broke mentally and needed hospitalisation.
I spent three weeks in the local psychiatric hospital under watch for SI and to have my exact mental health issues assessed and diagnosed.
Following release SS land on my doorstep and speak to me for five minutes, which I later learn was a parenting assessment.
In this 'assessment' I mentioned that for SS to remove my daughter from me, with no valid reason ( I have always been the one to care for C, there have never been issues of care, neglect or harm in my presence), is akin to removing my heart and carrying it away as I watch, unable to intervene. I told them she is my reason for existing, my reason to get up in the morning with a huge smile and a plan for the day.
TO THIS THEY SAID 'SHE SHOULDN'T BE YOUR REASON' 'THIS SHOULDNT HURT YOU LIKE THIS, YOU'RE A MAN'
Now forgive me if I'm incorrect, but thats not a very nice nor correct thing to be told by a SW?
I digress, the year following this I visited court many times, more to prevent E from dragging me in to a pool of perpetrators I was never in (last abuse occurred within a few days of discovery, I had no contact for three weeks prior due to illness) and to ensure SS knew that no signs had ever been shown that C was being abused.
I dont know how best to describe the aforementioned but from my own perspective.
I have been singled out because of my mental health, despite plenty of evidence that C is safe in my care.
Now this discrimination is continuing, I am in a new relationship with a woman I love dearly. She is the Yang to my Ying and much more.
My partner has three children. Two girls one boy.
Her ex-partner is a jealous and controlling man, who psychologically, emotionally and physically abused 'N' (my partner) for over ten years.
This ex-partner is very jealous of me because he knows his children are perfectly happy to cohabit with me and my partner, much happier (IMHO) than they were and because N is now much more at ease with herself and life.
On learning of my court case and particular information regarding it, 'D' (the ex-partner) made an anonymous referral to SS and had them removed.
Ever since their removal, he has indoctrinated them with lies about me and their mum, to turn their opinion against us so that when SS (allegedly) asked the children where they would like to reside they would say with him.
I am of no risk to anyone, not even myself anymore ( I have had suicidal ideation in the past, some years before C was born and also when I needed hospitalisation). Not only that, but I am not the childrens primary carer, N is. N will also be registered as my carer shortly with my PIP claim, so how does SS have the right to refuse their return? Its obvious that 1) I am being discriminated against because of my illness and 2) SS are yet again not assessing ANYTHING properly.
We are at our wits end.
N has been in tears all day thus far and my anxiety has sky-rocketed.
We are lost in a sea of red tape that prevents us from ever being happy because of other peoples mistakes.
In addition, my partner and I are expecting a baby, 16 weeks in, SS are threatening assessment for this baby too at 20 weeks. N does not need this stress they are piling on us. Neither do I for that matter.
To clarify, we have no support. N and I have ONE FRIEND BETWEEN US. Neither of us has any support from parents, I dont have any contact with mine and my partners are bordering on psychotic, unsavoury and fraught with delusion that I am brainwashing their daughter (apparently her being happy is signs of brainwashing).
We need advice, please help us
