broken mum who is trying to stay strong

[brokenmum2013]

Hi my baby was admitted to hospital after having seizures i was out of mind with worry not sleeping and eating I am a nursery nurse and I have a degree in early years education. Everything was fine our baby was developing really well bbut it all went down hill at hospital they said she had a bleed on the brain and hemorrhaging behind the eyes and they told us it was non accidental injury me and my partner are absolutely devastated our baby girl is our world and we would never hurt her. She did have a jumperoo and the 2 day's leading up to this was bouncing very vigorously. Also we had Trumatic birth and she still has scars from the forceps. I feel like I am living a nightmare which I can't get out of, I want her in family care but my Mum was arrested with us because she looked after her 3 days before this happened now they have compromised her continuing care. I jus. Want my princess back some support would be nice too. Thankyou for listeningI am a lovening Mum who has been broken by this and being falsely accused is making me upset beyond belief

[blueplain]

The doctors have stated that this was not a natural injury. There for the children services have no choice but take the action in regards to the information they have been given. The fact that you do not know how this injury came to be is very unfortunate and must be very distressing for you. However I am afraid that the current motions the children services have started can not be stopped at this point.

The only way forward now is not to try and enforce or prove it was some form of accident but to demonstrate that you are a caring sensible parent who has her welfare at heart. Unfortunately for you there has been a lot of cases in which a child has been picked up and shook in the heat of the moment. This is called shaken baby syndrome, here is a link to the Wikipedia regarding this.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shaken_baby_syndrome

As such you are likely to be accused of this. I would highly recommend that you take parenting and nurture classes, anger management and other related parental courses. You should state that you did not harm your child however you are aware that given the evidence produced by the doctor you are unable to provide evidence contradicting this, so therefore you shall take the courses as a demonstration that if this was the case (which it is not) you are taking the steps to prove that the incident will not occur again.

I would like to console you and approach the matter more delicately but I feel that time is important and that I should inform you of the direction you should take clearly to stop this motion progressing further.

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear brokenmum 2013,

I am so sorry to hear about your baby daughter suffering potential injuries which might be non accidental. You must be very worried about her. If you do not already have a solicitor, then I recommend that you find one who specialises in children law and who is on the children panel. You could also find a firm who have experience in potential non accidental injuries to babies.
law society-find a solicitor.

You do not say whether children services have issued court care and related proceedings or whether you agreed to her going into care (called accommodation). Here is our advice sheet about Duties to children in the care system. It explains how your daughters everyday care will be managed, how decisions about your daughter will be made, how you should be consulted and your daughters contact with you and your family.

I know that your mum was not able to care for your daughter because she was also arrested. What about other members of your family or friends’ network-or people connected to your daughter?
Has children services suggested holding a Family Group Conference to look for people in your network who could care for your daughter and who could also offer support (such as helping with contact)?

For further advice, please post back or if you want to discuss in depth, please think about calling our advice line on 0808 801 0366. It is free and confidential and open between 9:30 and 3pm Monday to Friday.

Best wishes,
Suzie

[brokenmum2013]

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