Haven't been allowed access to my children for 14 months
Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2025 8:05 pm
Hi all,
In September 3rd 2024, I was arrested for sexual communication with two children under 16. Something I'm extremely embarrassed and it's something I regret and have no excuse over. I'm not looking for any judgement but just need some advice.
I have two children who are now aged 10 and 15. Both know about everything that has happened as well.
Now this is where I need a lot of help. I was arrested and questioned that night last year in September but that was the first and very last time I have had any official communication with the police. I was initially on bail for 3 months, that was then extended 3 more months and once again 3 more after. Each time this happened I only found out about it when going to my bail signing appointment.
Now since June this year when my 3rd extended bail expired it was not extended and I was told I would not be on bail but under investigation. Again only found out by phoning up the police and asking what happens now.
So for now nearly 14 months , my ex who is the mum of my girls, is refusing me to have any contact whatsoever with them, including blocking me on their phones and never seeing them at all.
Social originally did a safety assessment from September to December last year which said the girls would benefit from seeing me but since December last year social haven't spoken to me at all.
Now I do see my eldest one day a week for a few minutes when she is on the way home from school and she has begged her social worker at school to allow her and her sister to see me. Both really want to see me and spend time with me, as both girls were very close to me before all this.
Is there any help I can get? As I have already missed over a year of their lives and knowing both want to see me and knowing I could not be charged for months still, I desperately don't want to wait months and months before I can see them again
In September 3rd 2024, I was arrested for sexual communication with two children under 16. Something I'm extremely embarrassed and it's something I regret and have no excuse over. I'm not looking for any judgement but just need some advice.
I have two children who are now aged 10 and 15. Both know about everything that has happened as well.
Now this is where I need a lot of help. I was arrested and questioned that night last year in September but that was the first and very last time I have had any official communication with the police. I was initially on bail for 3 months, that was then extended 3 more months and once again 3 more after. Each time this happened I only found out about it when going to my bail signing appointment.
Now since June this year when my 3rd extended bail expired it was not extended and I was told I would not be on bail but under investigation. Again only found out by phoning up the police and asking what happens now.
So for now nearly 14 months , my ex who is the mum of my girls, is refusing me to have any contact whatsoever with them, including blocking me on their phones and never seeing them at all.
Social originally did a safety assessment from September to December last year which said the girls would benefit from seeing me but since December last year social haven't spoken to me at all.
Now I do see my eldest one day a week for a few minutes when she is on the way home from school and she has begged her social worker at school to allow her and her sister to see me. Both really want to see me and spend time with me, as both girls were very close to me before all this.
Is there any help I can get? As I have already missed over a year of their lives and knowing both want to see me and knowing I could not be charged for months still, I desperately don't want to wait months and months before I can see them again