Partner arrested for iioc

Terrifiedparent
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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Terrifiedparent » Mon May 09, 2022 9:15 pm

Hey,
I'm still none the wiser!
She phoned me this morning had a chat which basically was just questions like do you know what he was arrested for, do you believe he won't do it again etc
She then came to the house to speak to my daughter but did this without me in the room and hasn't given me any information as to what she said.
I'm due a phone call tomorrow to talk about things but other than that I have no idea what's going on.

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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Terrifiedparent » Tue May 10, 2022 10:40 am

Small update: my partners solicitor has phoned today
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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Need help 2021 » Tue May 10, 2022 2:22 pm

Why have they said he can’t talk to her what about see her in contact centre did they tell you the reason ?

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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Terrifiedparent » Tue May 10, 2022 4:01 pm

Nope nothing at the moment, I never got my phone call from social services today
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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Need help 2021 » Tue May 10, 2022 5:02 pm

When you do speck to the socail Woker you can ask for supervise contact as it’s not fair on her but also it really depends Wht they have found on his phone has he tould you Wht he had .

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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Terrifiedparent » Tue May 10, 2022 5:21 pm

7 counts no idea on category.
2 were a cancelled download but still 5 fully downloaded.

She needs some sort of contact shes crying for her dad and there's only so many lies I can come up with to try and calm her

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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Need help 2021 » Tue May 10, 2022 5:24 pm

Did he say what made him download it or unless they have found something else that’s y they said she can’t speck to him they need to be honest Whts you it’s not fair

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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Terrifiedparent » Tue May 10, 2022 5:29 pm

He said he just wasn't thinking straight it's no excuse but he was and still is in a very low space right now.
Hes getting help both from the GP and the stop it now website and has said he has no interest and felt physically sick when he downloaded them, he said he never watched them.
As far as we are aware nothing else has been found

I'm just at a loss right now
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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Bossman1959 » Wed May 11, 2022 7:35 pm

Hi...

I am so sorry to hear that the outcome is not good, might I suggest you talk with the social workers about how the no contact is working for her. It might also be worth at this point asking about what they call letter box contact, at least then they can write to each other. This has been done in some cases, my daughters dad was given only letterbox contact that was some years ago now though. Its not fair on any of you at the moment as you can't see a light at the end of the tunnel and social workers can be economical with the information they share.

Hope things start to improve , chin up. X

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Re: Partner arrested for iioc

Post by Terrifiedparent » Wed May 11, 2022 11:18 pm

Thank you, I'm still waiting to hear back from the social worker so I'm going to give her a call myself tomorrow to see what next steps are etc and suggest letterbox contact.
It's the not knowing and the being stuck in limbo all the time thats frustrating, I just want things sorted for my daughter :(

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