Advice on dealing with social services.

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BBV76
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Advice on dealing with social services.

Post by BBV76 » Fri Apr 01, 2022 2:00 am

Hello to everyone and thank for having me on this forum.

I've joined this forum regarding a situation where I'll have to deal with the social services.

To provide you with more information, my brother is on the sex offender registers. 4 years ago, he had a relationship with a 15 years old girl, my brother being 19 . After a fight between them, in an excess of jealousy, he shared a video with them having sex on social media. Asa a result of his stupid actions, he got a 4 years suspended sentence in Romania and in the UK, he's been added on the sex offender register for 15 years.

Now, My 9 months daughter and my wife are living in Romania and I'm planning to bring them over in the UK for a couple of weeks. My brother had to notice the person from the Police whose in charge o him (I don't how are they are called) that a child will be living in same house with him. The person in charge of him replied back asking for our personal details and informed him that she will have to involve the social services to asses the situation and approve a safeguarding plan with myself and my wife prior to their visit.

I personally spoken with my brother's coach and apparently she will arrange an online meeting between the social service, my wife and I and based on their assessment, a decision will be taken if they'll be allowed to live in the same house with my brother.

Although what his done was very stupid, I don't consider my brother being a pedophile or a danger to my daughter.

What should we except during this meeting and after if we have their endorsement? I'm quite nervous about this situation and I'm even thinking of cancel their visit into the country. I felt quite odd that the person from the police asked for the personal details of 2 persons which are not even residents of this country and threated me over the phone that she will have to take my brother to court if I fail to provide this information.

Any advice and guidance is welcomed. Thank you

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Re: Advice on dealing with social services.

Post by Need help 2021 » Fri Apr 01, 2022 9:01 am

Hi they would want to do a man risk assessment I will be honest with you it’s not that easy you are better of telling her not to come here socail service will not make it easy for you I am still waiting for my husband husband to be done it will be a year in April still no assessment and my husband doesn’t stay with us he only sees his son in contact centre twice a week so you are better of tell her not to come honestly

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Re: Advice on dealing with social services.

Post by Suzie, FRG Adviser » Mon Apr 04, 2022 12:29 pm

Dear BBV76,

Welcome to the parents' board and thank you for your post.

You say in your post that your brother is on the sex offenders register in the UK for 15 years due to a relationship he had with a 15 year old when he was 19, and disseminating pornographic material of her on social media.

Your wife and your 9 month old daughter live in Romania and you plan for them to
visit the UK for a couple of weeks. Your brother has notified the officer he reports to that your child will be in the same house of him, who asked for your details and said she would need to inform children's services so that they can do an assessment and approve a safeguarding plan. You have been informed that a meeting will take place and that a decision will be made as to whether your child can be in the same house.

You say that you do not think your brother is a paedophile or a risk to your child. You want to know what you can expect from this meeting and say that you are quite nervous about the situation.

Firstly, as your brother is on the sex offenders register, it will part of his requirements to notify his officer of any children who may share the same address as him. You do not say whether your brother is subject to a sexual harm prevention order, but he may also be subject to other conditions such as sleeping in the same home as anyone under the age of 18. The reporting officer has contact children's services so that they can do an assessment and make a recommendation regarding the safety of the situation and the risk your brother poses. This assessment will include speaking to your brother, to you and your wife and looking at what safety measures will be put in place. You may find it helpful for the social worker about how the assessment will take place.

It is important that you understand why children's services are doing the assessment. Whilst you may not think your brother poses a risk, the social worker will want to see that you are prioritising your child's safety and that you are able to act in a protective capacity. If the social worker thinks it is safe for your child to stay in the same home, they may make some recommendations about how this should happen, such as constant supervision. They may advise that the risk is too high and that your child does not stay in the same home - if this is the case, it is important that your brother follows this as he may be in breach of a sexual harm prevention order if he is subject to one. Children's services may also be concerned that you are not protecting your child. If this does happen, you and your wife should consider your options, such as staying at another residence.

I hope you have found this helpful.

Best wishes,

Suzie.



Any advice and guidance is welcomed. Thank you

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