Please help us
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2022 11:29 pm
We need some help desperately. Our baby was removed in December at birth and has been ina foster to adopt placement. We found out today that we failed our parenting assessment based on 2 hours. It's mostly all negative, even expressing breastmilk is still not considered a positive.
My baby has always been very content and settled with us but this isn't evidence of a bond, baby is just like that cos he's settled in his placement.
They spoke to the paternal grandmother who's currently caring for the older 3 children, they were removed last May but that's a different case. The baby is more urgent and a priority. Grandmother lied and blames me for the lack of support she gave us. She never helped us, even when we asked so we stopped asking. She says she won't have the baby as it's not fair on the older 3 children. She won't even take them to meet the baby. She has completely disowned 2 of her own children when they were in desperate need of her support, she just turned her back on them.
My middle child has behavioural difficulties and instead of getting him support, we are blamed. They said that the older 2 were "damaged" by us and therefore we are a risk to the baby.
It does say that basic care is not a concern and explains that basic care entails clothing, food, hygiene etc and not suffering from abuse.
My mental health is used as I suffer with depression, it has been especially hard since the removal of the children and it's always used against me. I have done therapy and counselling and it's not enough.
My baby was removed on the grounds of suffering emotional harm and neglect before he was born. I exposed him to my low mood and stress and I failed to completely bond with him as I never knew if I could keep him until 2 days before he was due to be born. We got the pre birth assessment 2 days after he was due. We were never given a chance to even try and keep him.
What can I do? I don't want to lose him, I don't want my kids to lose him. Can someone please advise me on what I can do to stop him being adopted?
My baby has always been very content and settled with us but this isn't evidence of a bond, baby is just like that cos he's settled in his placement.
They spoke to the paternal grandmother who's currently caring for the older 3 children, they were removed last May but that's a different case. The baby is more urgent and a priority. Grandmother lied and blames me for the lack of support she gave us. She never helped us, even when we asked so we stopped asking. She says she won't have the baby as it's not fair on the older 3 children. She won't even take them to meet the baby. She has completely disowned 2 of her own children when they were in desperate need of her support, she just turned her back on them.
My middle child has behavioural difficulties and instead of getting him support, we are blamed. They said that the older 2 were "damaged" by us and therefore we are a risk to the baby.
It does say that basic care is not a concern and explains that basic care entails clothing, food, hygiene etc and not suffering from abuse.
My mental health is used as I suffer with depression, it has been especially hard since the removal of the children and it's always used against me. I have done therapy and counselling and it's not enough.
My baby was removed on the grounds of suffering emotional harm and neglect before he was born. I exposed him to my low mood and stress and I failed to completely bond with him as I never knew if I could keep him until 2 days before he was due to be born. We got the pre birth assessment 2 days after he was due. We were never given a chance to even try and keep him.
What can I do? I don't want to lose him, I don't want my kids to lose him. Can someone please advise me on what I can do to stop him being adopted?