Ex in prison for dv can we be a family again
Posted: Fri Dec 31, 2021 11:25 am
Hi everyone I’m new here. I don’t really know where to turn. I’ll give as much detail as I can. So, me and my ex was in a relationship for 6 months, I have know him all my life ( he was my first love at 16) i have 2 children he doesn’t have any. The first incident happend a few months in where he slapped me, ( both kids were in bed)I rang the police he was arrested however I dropped the charges and there was no further action. Of course the SS came to visit and said I can’t be with him as they needed to do an assessment. He left for a few days, however he was really apologetic so I let him return but didn’t tell anyone. A few months after this we had an argument and he threw me on the bed and put his hands around my throat for what seemed like forever. He stopped and felt awful and tried to make things ok but I wasn’t having it. I ran to my neighbours with the kids. My sister came to pick me up and called the police. I told them everything that happend throughout the relationship ( looking back I told them too much )but I felt pressured to do so with my family there) they interviewed both my kids , the youngest told them that he seen what he did . I wasn’t aware of this at the time as I closed the bedroom door. Anyway the day after the SS came to visit me and told me they was only a few days away from closing the case, but now they would be placed under child in need because I was dishonest with them . I had to sign an agreement that I wouldn’t have any contact with him which I haven’t. My ex was then remanded until his court date which is in a couple of weeks. This is where things get complicated. A few days ago I found out I was pregnant. I have told the news to his mother so she can tell him as I think he has a right to know. So my question is will we still have the chance to be a family ? I wouldn’t have him back at the house until he goes through therapy and completes all the necessary courses etc and I’ll be telling SS this as I don’t want my children taking away. This will be his first child and I know he will be a brilliant dad , and it will make him a better person. He’s had a really hard life , he was a drug addict for 16 years , and clean for 2 years. He’s never had any responsibility and I believe with the right help he can change . Can anyone tell me what questions I need to ask the SS ? Please don’t judge me I can’t talk to my family about this, they hate him and can’t see my point of view.