Re: Interim care order - what should I so?
Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2022 11:57 pm
We have had her report, she is backing an SGO based on lies and fear. I haven't spoken too her yet as I am getting no reply.
No one can ever give a straight answer as to what they are scared of happening. The original threshold was absolute rubbish, either lies or twisted information. But we could not defend any of it at the hearing when they applied for an IRO and the judge just accepted it all as true without evidence.
The original social worker lied about my son’s weight losses twice. His red book proves he did not lose when he stated. The list of weights given to the judge was not all of his weights. He had lost weight at home, not when the social worker said. He implied he first lost weight at home and only ever at home when, after maternity he first lost weight on the children’s ward. He also lost multiple times and remained static in hospital, but these weights have never been given to court, the current social worker, or the guardian. I have sent all his weights to the social worker, and a copy of his red book highlighting the weights that prove he lied.
He said I handled him inappropriately and did not support his head. All health visitor records, and hospital records have always said I handled him well and was always calm. All contact reports are the same, not once have any concerns been raised. They never have recommendations and always say it’s a lovely contact.
He said myself and my husband did not raise concerns, again medical records prove we did, and the expert stated I raised concerns appropriately.
He lied about my GP refusing to do an autism referral. They had done one it was the autism team that declined. He knew this he sat in my living room and took a photo of the letter in front of his service manager. He lied to court saying the GP wouldn’t do it. he also told me not to try again as they would probably decline it again then asked court for a private one which was refused by the judge.
He breached GDPR, which his service manager knows about and I can prove and she has done nothing about it.
Despite all this he has had a promotion to team manager. He clearly does not have a good reputation as any contact officer who knows him either doesn’t say anything and just gives a funny look or says no one is a fan of him.
I am told he won’t even be called to court, that the current social worker will have to answer for him. Can we do anything about this? We don’t want him to ruin other families for no reason. It is no surprise the local authority we are dealing with are deemed inadequate by Ofsted. It went from CIN to court proceedings in just over a week of him taking over from the assessing SW, completely skipping a CPP.
The Guardian has been told lies by my own family. Either my mum or sister have told her that I refused to see anyone when I was in hospital, and that I wouldn’t talk to anyone. Its not the first time my sister had lied but no one will look into it.
My sister is not a good parent but was the best of a bad set of options, we never thought it would be for so long. She isn’t letting him have naps when he clearly needs one as he keeps coming to contact tired. Even the contact officers says he is too young not to have a nap, he is only just 19 months. He is wearing shoes that don’t fit because she knows if he has his feet measured I can go too, and without measuring them we can’t but him decent fitted shoes. But the social worker won’t do anything. I have told the social worker that she lied about physical punishment, she has always smacked her children including in the mouth but all she has said is my sister denies it, when she was obviously going to deny it when she lied in the first place. nothing more has been done. She wont talk to anyone else because she knows they will back us and tell the truth.
I have read it, my sister would basically have full control as I know she wouldn’t consult us and would do the exact opposite out of spite and we couldn’t stop her.
The issues raised aren’t issues, they are things like our relationship, which is fine and the only people to see us together are contact officers who have no concerns. Another is my mental health which I have been discharged from as they say it is circumstantial. The hospital also said the same.
The only recommendation not completed is couples therapy, we have been twice, we don’t need it and the therapist says we don’t need it to parent.
I am terrified the judge will believe all the lies as the guardian has. She has lied herself saying she has spoken to my husband which she has not and implying he cancelled a contact with her when he didn’t know she was going, he was ill. How can she write such an important report accurately and fairly when she has never met or spoken to one parent and only spent half an hour with the other. She has never seen our house, she is only going of others reports, which don’t raise any concerns but surely she should want to see herself? She is backing the SGO out of fear.
The social worker has said the date for the IRH is now September which is ridiculous, all reports are in and it is only 1 hour. However, my solicitor has not heard anything, so I am hoping it is a mix up. We have never had to wait so long for a new date.
No one can ever give a straight answer as to what they are scared of happening. The original threshold was absolute rubbish, either lies or twisted information. But we could not defend any of it at the hearing when they applied for an IRO and the judge just accepted it all as true without evidence.
The original social worker lied about my son’s weight losses twice. His red book proves he did not lose when he stated. The list of weights given to the judge was not all of his weights. He had lost weight at home, not when the social worker said. He implied he first lost weight at home and only ever at home when, after maternity he first lost weight on the children’s ward. He also lost multiple times and remained static in hospital, but these weights have never been given to court, the current social worker, or the guardian. I have sent all his weights to the social worker, and a copy of his red book highlighting the weights that prove he lied.
He said I handled him inappropriately and did not support his head. All health visitor records, and hospital records have always said I handled him well and was always calm. All contact reports are the same, not once have any concerns been raised. They never have recommendations and always say it’s a lovely contact.
He said myself and my husband did not raise concerns, again medical records prove we did, and the expert stated I raised concerns appropriately.
He lied about my GP refusing to do an autism referral. They had done one it was the autism team that declined. He knew this he sat in my living room and took a photo of the letter in front of his service manager. He lied to court saying the GP wouldn’t do it. he also told me not to try again as they would probably decline it again then asked court for a private one which was refused by the judge.
He breached GDPR, which his service manager knows about and I can prove and she has done nothing about it.
Despite all this he has had a promotion to team manager. He clearly does not have a good reputation as any contact officer who knows him either doesn’t say anything and just gives a funny look or says no one is a fan of him.
I am told he won’t even be called to court, that the current social worker will have to answer for him. Can we do anything about this? We don’t want him to ruin other families for no reason. It is no surprise the local authority we are dealing with are deemed inadequate by Ofsted. It went from CIN to court proceedings in just over a week of him taking over from the assessing SW, completely skipping a CPP.
The Guardian has been told lies by my own family. Either my mum or sister have told her that I refused to see anyone when I was in hospital, and that I wouldn’t talk to anyone. Its not the first time my sister had lied but no one will look into it.
My sister is not a good parent but was the best of a bad set of options, we never thought it would be for so long. She isn’t letting him have naps when he clearly needs one as he keeps coming to contact tired. Even the contact officers says he is too young not to have a nap, he is only just 19 months. He is wearing shoes that don’t fit because she knows if he has his feet measured I can go too, and without measuring them we can’t but him decent fitted shoes. But the social worker won’t do anything. I have told the social worker that she lied about physical punishment, she has always smacked her children including in the mouth but all she has said is my sister denies it, when she was obviously going to deny it when she lied in the first place. nothing more has been done. She wont talk to anyone else because she knows they will back us and tell the truth.
I have read it, my sister would basically have full control as I know she wouldn’t consult us and would do the exact opposite out of spite and we couldn’t stop her.
The issues raised aren’t issues, they are things like our relationship, which is fine and the only people to see us together are contact officers who have no concerns. Another is my mental health which I have been discharged from as they say it is circumstantial. The hospital also said the same.
The only recommendation not completed is couples therapy, we have been twice, we don’t need it and the therapist says we don’t need it to parent.
I am terrified the judge will believe all the lies as the guardian has. She has lied herself saying she has spoken to my husband which she has not and implying he cancelled a contact with her when he didn’t know she was going, he was ill. How can she write such an important report accurately and fairly when she has never met or spoken to one parent and only spent half an hour with the other. She has never seen our house, she is only going of others reports, which don’t raise any concerns but surely she should want to see herself? She is backing the SGO out of fear.
The social worker has said the date for the IRH is now September which is ridiculous, all reports are in and it is only 1 hour. However, my solicitor has not heard anything, so I am hoping it is a mix up. We have never had to wait so long for a new date.