Husband has been arrested for indecent images

[greenfairy]

Hello,

my husband has been arrested for indecent images a month ago. We had the knock on the door by police very early in the morning and they seized all our electronic devices.

My world has come tumbling down. We have children.


Does anyone know how long the police investigations take on average regarding indecent images?

[Need help 2021]

Hi is it possible if you can inbox me I am in a similar situation like you

[Terrifiedparent]

Got the knock in April, investigation still ongoing now!
Social dragging their feet there's been no contact since the arrest between partner and child.

Inbox is open If you want a chat, it's a very lonely place to be

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Greenfairy

Thank you for your post. My name is Suzie, I am an online adviser and will be responding to your post today.

I am sorry to hear of your distress. It must have been a shock to you when the police came to your home to arrest your husband. It is good to know that our parent’s discussion board has provided some support to you at this difficult time. I hope the information provided below is also helpful to you.

Your husband has been arrested for viewing indecent child sexual images. Children’s services are involved and have recommended your husband does not stay at the family home and that all contact between him and the children is supervised. You acknowledge their concerns and have agreed to this.

Your husband is remorseful regarding his actions and is due to start therapy soon. He has instructed a solicitor to advise him during the criminal process and you would like to know how long this process is likely to take.

You have mixed feeling about the situation. You still love and want to support your husband, but you also feel resentful towards him for the situation he has placed you and your family in. You feel ashamed, isolated and unable to discuss your situation with friends or family and worried that your husband’s offence will be picked up by journalists and reported on.

You are concerned that your stance to support your husband whilst safeguarding your children will be viewed negatively by children’s services.

I cannot say how long the criminal process will take. This will depend on the investigation – evidence collecting, interviews, the capacity of the police and the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS). I suggest your husband works with his solicitor to ensure relevant information is presented to avoid delay.

It is important to know that once the police investigation and outcome is completed it does not necessarily mean children’s services will no longer be involved. Children’s services role is to ensure children are safeguarding from harm and potential harm. They may continue to be involved with your family if they feel intervention is needed to ensure this.

I have added a link HERE to the Lucy Faithful Foundation’s Stop it Now! campaign. They are a child protection charity, working to prevent child sexual abuse. They campaign and raise awareness across the UK to help adults to do their part to stop child sexual abuse by addressing personal, family and community concerns. This is their confidential helpline – 0800 1000 900. They also provide a secure messaging service for anyone with concerns about child sexual abuse and its prevention – whether they’re worried about their own thoughts, feelings and behaviour, or about another adult or young person. Callers do not need to give identifying information, so can remain anonymous. You may find this page HERE useful. It provides information and guidance on making a family safety plan and there is also a film to go along with this.

With regard your stance on acknowledging children’s services concerns and wanting to support your husband, children’s services primary concern will be in respect of risk and potential risk to the children. You will need to demonstrate to them that your children are your main priority and focus and you can do this by agreeing, as you have already done, by acknowledging the risk and supervising contact and of also completing any recommended courses or programmes. The same applies to your husband. The Stop it Now! campaign has some helpful information and guidance regarding this.

You have not mentioned what assessment children’s services are or have carried out. I have added HERE to a children and family assessment and another HERE to a Section 47 inquiry for your information. Whichever assessment is or has been completed, you should receive a copy of this which should state what recommendations children’s services are suggesting for your family.

I have also added a link HERE to our ‘top tips’ when working with social workers. It offers guidance and information on how to make the most of this relationship and what you might wish to consider if you are not satisfied with the service provided.

I hope you find this information useful.  Should you wish to speak to an adviser please call our free advice line: 0808 801 0366 (Mon to Fri 9.30a.m. – 3.00p.m) excluding bank holidays. You can of course, post again on here.
Best wishes, Suzie.

[TractorMad]

Hey, Im in pretty much the same position as you. My ex husband was arrested last October for downloading pictures from the Kik app. He says he thought it was just a porn app and downloaded the images accidentally. The case went to magistrates in June to be referred to crown and thats when ss got involved. I have 2 children, boy 9 and girl 11, ex husband isnt girls bio Dad but she used to see him every week. She now isn't allowed to see him and my son is allowed only supervised contact and no overnight stays. Weve had various ss meetings and 2 home visits and there are no concerns for my children aside from what my ex has done. The Crown court case is in September so its taken nearly a year to get to this point. I honestly just want SS out of my life. SS have made it clear I cant be showing any support to my ex or they will question whether I can keep my kids safe. In my eyes I dont want my kids to lose us so Im keeping my mouth closed but he was the best Dad until all this. He will be sentenced next month and we will see what will be. Its a very weird lonely scary place to be, if you need a chat please send me a message