Talking is abuse???!!!
Posted: Thu Apr 15, 2021 8:40 am
Hi, we got our computer back this week - absolutely no iioc on it at all. That's the good news.
The bad news .... our daughter made sexual assault allegation against her dad, my partner of 18 years. Since her ABE in February she's told me that what she said in her statement wasn't completely true and basically no sexual assault took place. I mentioned this to the SW and police. They are not interested. Whatever was said in her ABE stands. So her dad now has a sexual allegation on his records. He's never been in trouble for anything like this. He has not been arrested or charged. Daughter does not want to take it any further and police have even said that it is her word against his.
However, because my daughter has talked to me and also her older brother about what happened - I have been accused of abuse because talking to a victim is abuse apparently. SW has told me that her dad is still seen as a risk, they will do assessments and understand how much both our children want him home. But SW thinks we may now need a child protection plan instead of a child in need.
I was accused by the police of not protecting my daughter when her older brother stupidly spoke to her about what happened. I wasn't even there as I'd gone out to the shops. I explained that I didn't know he was talking to her but apparently that's not good enough. I have a couple of weeks to decided what to do now regarding where we live. We are paying for the family home and partner's accommodation, which he has to leave by end of April. It looks like we might have to split up and live separately indefinitely now and we are devastated.
The police told partner yesterday it will take a long time before he can be back with the family and yet there is no proof of anything that he has done wrong.
Totally distraught that our family is now split and it could be permanent.
The bad news .... our daughter made sexual assault allegation against her dad, my partner of 18 years. Since her ABE in February she's told me that what she said in her statement wasn't completely true and basically no sexual assault took place. I mentioned this to the SW and police. They are not interested. Whatever was said in her ABE stands. So her dad now has a sexual allegation on his records. He's never been in trouble for anything like this. He has not been arrested or charged. Daughter does not want to take it any further and police have even said that it is her word against his.
However, because my daughter has talked to me and also her older brother about what happened - I have been accused of abuse because talking to a victim is abuse apparently. SW has told me that her dad is still seen as a risk, they will do assessments and understand how much both our children want him home. But SW thinks we may now need a child protection plan instead of a child in need.
I was accused by the police of not protecting my daughter when her older brother stupidly spoke to her about what happened. I wasn't even there as I'd gone out to the shops. I explained that I didn't know he was talking to her but apparently that's not good enough. I have a couple of weeks to decided what to do now regarding where we live. We are paying for the family home and partner's accommodation, which he has to leave by end of April. It looks like we might have to split up and live separately indefinitely now and we are devastated.
The police told partner yesterday it will take a long time before he can be back with the family and yet there is no proof of anything that he has done wrong.
Totally distraught that our family is now split and it could be permanent.