Coercive control. Struggling 😭
Posted: Mon Jan 22, 2024 1:18 pm
Hi all. I'm really struggling ATM and don't know what I can do, I feel like I'm trapped with my ex and he will continue to control me through our children as long as he has the lives with order. Everything he accused me of I have went and proved myself and I am in auch better place, unfortunately though he is being very obstructive and not willing to work around work or anything. He has made the children leave early, demanded I go elsewhere for him to collect, tried to stop me from my first day at work by not agreeing to swap the days and now when my relative has passed a message on about me at work and when it comes to school holidays. his reply was "If your unavailable then you just miss family time. Thats it. Theres an order and until someone tells me otherwise it stays the same. Please stop messaging unless its really neccassary"
He was able to lie and control me from the moment he took the children,he is now continuing this more since he has the live with order, he has cut out all communication and regularly ignores my family member when they try contact around communication with the children. I am currently working with domestic abuse support worker and I have applied back to court to get shared care-live with me or live with both. Had anyone else been in my situation and could give me some information on how things went? I'm so anxious and I feel like I'm trapped and will be controlled by him for the rest of my life and he will continue to want to cut me out of our children's lives.
He was able to lie and control me from the moment he took the children,he is now continuing this more since he has the live with order, he has cut out all communication and regularly ignores my family member when they try contact around communication with the children. I am currently working with domestic abuse support worker and I have applied back to court to get shared care-live with me or live with both. Had anyone else been in my situation and could give me some information on how things went? I'm so anxious and I feel like I'm trapped and will be controlled by him for the rest of my life and he will continue to want to cut me out of our children's lives.