Social Services have lost paper work while I moved to a different district.
Posted: Thu Oct 05, 2023 11:31 am
Social services become involved due to a domestic incident that happened between Me and my children father back in April 2023. Social services came out to visit me and my children after the incident happened as police made a referral due to my children being in the property while the incident happened. However did no wickness this. My children's father was released on bail conditions not to contact me and only to see the children through a third party.
I made the decision to withdraw my statement. My children's father bail conditions where then dropped and he returned back to the family home.
Within a week I moved to a new area. This was already placed way before social services got involved. I made my social worker aware of my move and provided my address.
May arrived and I had moved to my new home however their was no contact made from my social worker until later May I had a knock at the door where my social worker presented her self angry shouting Infront of my self my children's father and my children which coursed a lot of upset. My social worker insisted that my Children's father would need to leave the property right away. I was so upset and confued with what was being said. The social worker waited in her car at the bottom of my drive while my children's father said his good byes to our children. After my children's father left my son ran after him devostated. The social worker asked for my children's father to sit in the car for a chat.
After their chat the social worker and my children's father come in to the house, the social worker apologized for her actions and agreed that the children's father was allowed to stay. This agreement was updated and a email was sent to me with the information of the new safety plan.
Unfortunately the social worker had already sent this to child protection as she was concern that she couldn't get in contact me and it eas later to believe all the evidence with my communication was looked at.
A child protection conference was held however my allocated social worker didn't attend instead another person attened which didn't know about the new up to date report with the work thst has been done with myself and my children's father for the last 4 weeks.
My children ended up being up on child protection. It was later to be found that the read of the old report and not the up to date one.
July I was transferred over to my new district social worker. I had a visited from my new social worker who told me that the children's father was not allowed in the family home.
This coursed a lot of upset again and I knew instantly that she didn't receive the new up to date report and safety plan. I then insisted to send the evidence of the safety plan to her email address. My new social worker told me she would go back and report this to her manger and she would be in touch. Worried and unsettled my children father decided to leave the home. A week on I made serval of ways to try and make contact to find out what was going on. I than finally had the chance to speak to my social worker who told me that because of the confusion they will make a new safety plan which would be my children's father is not allowed to the family home and if he wants to see the children this must be done through a third party. I was so shocked that this had happened. My children where again subjected to child protection with my new district area having rasied my concerns with my social services and their unprofessional ways I was given an apology.
So here we are now in October 2023.
My social worker wanted my children's father to complete a caring dad's program however he has refused to do this due to the lack of incorrect information.
It's took 2 months for my social worker to now agree to do her own risk assessment on my children's father which takes places once a week. He has his 3rd risks assessment next week however we also have a review confernce this week. I'm worried that because of social services and their delayed ways nothing will be changed.
This is tearing us apart as a family. We have been open and honest about everything. We have told them that we are having to even meet up in the park behind my house as I have no local connection to support us with this. However social services don't like the idea but I was told to do what ever i needed to do.
We have no idea how much longer he has to remain outside the family home. Any advice would help with my situation.
I made the decision to withdraw my statement. My children's father bail conditions where then dropped and he returned back to the family home.
Within a week I moved to a new area. This was already placed way before social services got involved. I made my social worker aware of my move and provided my address.
May arrived and I had moved to my new home however their was no contact made from my social worker until later May I had a knock at the door where my social worker presented her self angry shouting Infront of my self my children's father and my children which coursed a lot of upset. My social worker insisted that my Children's father would need to leave the property right away. I was so upset and confued with what was being said. The social worker waited in her car at the bottom of my drive while my children's father said his good byes to our children. After my children's father left my son ran after him devostated. The social worker asked for my children's father to sit in the car for a chat.
After their chat the social worker and my children's father come in to the house, the social worker apologized for her actions and agreed that the children's father was allowed to stay. This agreement was updated and a email was sent to me with the information of the new safety plan.
Unfortunately the social worker had already sent this to child protection as she was concern that she couldn't get in contact me and it eas later to believe all the evidence with my communication was looked at.
A child protection conference was held however my allocated social worker didn't attend instead another person attened which didn't know about the new up to date report with the work thst has been done with myself and my children's father for the last 4 weeks.
My children ended up being up on child protection. It was later to be found that the read of the old report and not the up to date one.
July I was transferred over to my new district social worker. I had a visited from my new social worker who told me that the children's father was not allowed in the family home.
This coursed a lot of upset again and I knew instantly that she didn't receive the new up to date report and safety plan. I then insisted to send the evidence of the safety plan to her email address. My new social worker told me she would go back and report this to her manger and she would be in touch. Worried and unsettled my children father decided to leave the home. A week on I made serval of ways to try and make contact to find out what was going on. I than finally had the chance to speak to my social worker who told me that because of the confusion they will make a new safety plan which would be my children's father is not allowed to the family home and if he wants to see the children this must be done through a third party. I was so shocked that this had happened. My children where again subjected to child protection with my new district area having rasied my concerns with my social services and their unprofessional ways I was given an apology.
So here we are now in October 2023.
My social worker wanted my children's father to complete a caring dad's program however he has refused to do this due to the lack of incorrect information.
It's took 2 months for my social worker to now agree to do her own risk assessment on my children's father which takes places once a week. He has his 3rd risks assessment next week however we also have a review confernce this week. I'm worried that because of social services and their delayed ways nothing will be changed.
This is tearing us apart as a family. We have been open and honest about everything. We have told them that we are having to even meet up in the park behind my house as I have no local connection to support us with this. However social services don't like the idea but I was told to do what ever i needed to do.
We have no idea how much longer he has to remain outside the family home. Any advice would help with my situation.