Social workers not supporting a reconciliation
Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2022 12:36 pm
Hi I’m looking for advice for future and too scared to ask social worker.
My then partner had been removed from our family home due to an incident not long ago where he was under the influence of drink and drugs (he’d been on a night out) he hadn’t slept and came home in the morning not being able to get in. Eventually I’ve answered the door and thinking he’s slept out and had sobered up (id kicked him out the house the night before after a big row) I let him in. He hurled a few nasty comments my way and I lost my temper pushing and shoving him, he retaliated but it wasn’t just pushing and shoving back. He kicked me in the head and flung me about. My two young children saw all this and I had to ring the police. SS became involved and after assessments I am NO risk and my partner HIGH risk. Now I know it was because of the influence of drugs and alcohol as he would never normally get that angry with me. SW has said they are dropping the section 47 and he is still on bail, no contact with the children has been sorted as of yet. She also said she is not supporting a reconciliation as it would just take one incident and she would take legal action. Now my questions are, is there anything he can do to rectify this, is her saying that just for now until he is reassessed and is no longer a risk, is he always going to be a risk in their eyes, would they take legal action to take my children if I so much as get in to a relationship with him even after engaging with SS and the courses he may have to attend and they assess him as no/low risk, or is she saying you could get into a relationship with him again but if one incident happens we will take legal action?
I know I can’t get involved with him right now and don’t intend to, I wouldn’t risk my children.
I just need help understand what she’s saying as I’m too scared to ask just in case she says I’m thinking of getting back with him and decides to take legal action as she’s dropping their involvement on my part. No child in need or child protection has been put in place as they’re happy with me. I’m so confused and wish I could just move on from this mess. I just need to know if their is a chance of rectifying this without putting my children at risk
My then partner had been removed from our family home due to an incident not long ago where he was under the influence of drink and drugs (he’d been on a night out) he hadn’t slept and came home in the morning not being able to get in. Eventually I’ve answered the door and thinking he’s slept out and had sobered up (id kicked him out the house the night before after a big row) I let him in. He hurled a few nasty comments my way and I lost my temper pushing and shoving him, he retaliated but it wasn’t just pushing and shoving back. He kicked me in the head and flung me about. My two young children saw all this and I had to ring the police. SS became involved and after assessments I am NO risk and my partner HIGH risk. Now I know it was because of the influence of drugs and alcohol as he would never normally get that angry with me. SW has said they are dropping the section 47 and he is still on bail, no contact with the children has been sorted as of yet. She also said she is not supporting a reconciliation as it would just take one incident and she would take legal action. Now my questions are, is there anything he can do to rectify this, is her saying that just for now until he is reassessed and is no longer a risk, is he always going to be a risk in their eyes, would they take legal action to take my children if I so much as get in to a relationship with him even after engaging with SS and the courses he may have to attend and they assess him as no/low risk, or is she saying you could get into a relationship with him again but if one incident happens we will take legal action?
I know I can’t get involved with him right now and don’t intend to, I wouldn’t risk my children.
I just need help understand what she’s saying as I’m too scared to ask just in case she says I’m thinking of getting back with him and decides to take legal action as she’s dropping their involvement on my part. No child in need or child protection has been put in place as they’re happy with me. I’m so confused and wish I could just move on from this mess. I just need to know if their is a chance of rectifying this without putting my children at risk