Child does not want contact
Posted: Wed Jan 24, 2018 9:53 pm
I need advice for my friend. Her 13 year old son is autistic. There is a court order giving his father access fortnightly. He was so controlling manipulative and aggressive the boy was scared of him. He had to sleep in bed with him and his dad would kick him hard. He would plead to go back home and his Dad opened the door and told him to walk there on his own at midnight. In the end he refused point blank to go. After a year he took the mum to court for breach of the court order. She risked jail because he wouldn't go. But got community service. Even though social services said she was not to blame and it was her son's anxiety stopping him.
He is now being forced to spend 4 hours every other Saturday with his dad. His mum has to drive him from *** to *** and wait around for him.
He hates it. He's screaming and crying, self harming and saying he wishes he was dead so that he never had to go again. He's not sleeping, not coping at school, constant outbursts and running out of the house. He keeps screaming at his mum "help me! I hate him! Nobody is listening to me! I don't want to see him! "
His poor mum is at her wits end but bound by the court. Court costs have so far cost her £7000 all borrowed from a bank loan and her parents. She's a single mum with 3 boys, she's working and really struggling financially. Can hardly feed them with the debt and rent. She's lost so much weight and looks close to a breakdown. Is there anything she can do? She's going without food to pay for a counseller for her boy.
*** amended by Suzie.
He is now being forced to spend 4 hours every other Saturday with his dad. His mum has to drive him from *** to *** and wait around for him.
He hates it. He's screaming and crying, self harming and saying he wishes he was dead so that he never had to go again. He's not sleeping, not coping at school, constant outbursts and running out of the house. He keeps screaming at his mum "help me! I hate him! Nobody is listening to me! I don't want to see him! "
His poor mum is at her wits end but bound by the court. Court costs have so far cost her £7000 all borrowed from a bank loan and her parents. She's a single mum with 3 boys, she's working and really struggling financially. Can hardly feed them with the debt and rent. She's lost so much weight and looks close to a breakdown. Is there anything she can do? She's going without food to pay for a counseller for her boy.
*** amended by Suzie.