Husband arreseted for upskirting, Indecent images . Social Services now involve help please

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Husband arreseted for upskirting, Indecent images . Social Services now involve help please

Post by JT123 » Sat Sep 08, 2018 2:30 pm

Eleven years ago when i first met my husband he told me he was on probation for voyerism in a public place and possession of indecent images. I met with his probation officer and he assured me his progress was excellent, he had done all the things expected of him and he was low risk at low offending, no reason i shouldn’t consider etc.

Fast forward to two months ago, we have been married 9 years and have a three yr old daughter. He was arreseted while shopping for upskirting . Police came to house and seized pcs / phones / laptops etc. He immediatly started councelling admitting he had a problem with porn and the act of upskirting. A week a go social services knocked on the door and after a good deal of quizzing me gave me a form to sign (voluntarily i wasn’t forced, but there was the implication that i SHOULD sign it) saying I would not allow my daughter to be alone with him at any time until a child protection meeting was held due to the previous charges. We have received a letter today saying this will be held in one weeks time.

If i was in anyway suspicious of my daughter being harmed i would be out of here, but they have a great, loving relationship and my little girl gets upset even when daddy is late home from work or cannot take he out at the weekend like she is used to (she is a great one for routine!) How can we prove he is innocent and maintain, at least until he is charged and sentenced, the family unit that she is secure in?

Please what can i do to prepare for this meeting?

What can i expect the outcome to be?

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Re: Husband arreseted for upskirting, Indecent images . Social Services now involve help please

Post by Suzie, FRG Adviser » Tue Sep 11, 2018 2:24 pm

Dear JT123,

Welcome to the parents board.

I can see that your partner is being investigated by the police in respect of an alleged sex offence and they have removed his phone and computer devices for forensic examination. He also has previous convictions for voyeurism and downloading indecent images.

Police made a referral to children services who have decided to hold an initial child protection conference (meeting) to decide whether your daughter should be made subject to a child protection plan.
Until the meeting takes place, children’s services have asked that you supervise your daughter at all times she is present with her father. You have agreed to do this and signed a voluntary agreement.

You ask what you can do to prove his innocence.
We are not able to advise you about the criminal investigation. Your husband can seek advice from his criminal solicitor and you could also call the Just stop it now helpline on 0808 1000 900–who advise about sex offences or look at the Lucy Faithfull Foundation website.

You ask about maintaining the family unit until at least your husband is charged and or sentenced.
This will depend on how children services/police assess your husband’s risk to you daughter and your understanding of that risk and so ability to protect your daughter from him.
At the moment they are satisfied that you can supervise dad at all times. Did the social worker detail the level of supervision needed. For example, if you needed to use the bathroom, are you expected to take your daughter with you, so that there would be no minute when she is left alone with her father?
Is there anyone else (a family member or friend) who could also be assessed to supervise your husband to give you a break?

Do children’s services know of his past convictions? Are they aware of any support, therapy or courses that he has done to lower his risk?
The current agreement may be reconsidered in light of information that is shared at the child protection conference (meeting).

You ask for advice about the child protection conference (meeting). Here are our
FAQ’s about child protection and our films about child protection meetings .
These give an idea about what is going to happen at the meeting.

The purpose of the meeting is to decide whether or not your daughter should be made subject to a child protection plan.
The criteria is whether the professionals at the meeting suspect that your daughter has suffered significant harm or is at risk of suffering significant harm and the risk is ongoing.

If the meeting decide that she is at ongoing risk, then your daughter will be made subject to a child protection plan.
A child protection plan is compulsory and you will be expected to work to the plan which will be padded out at core group meetings and will be reviewed within 3 months.
If it is decided that your daughter is not at risk from dad,( for example, because you are protecting her from him and you are both fully cooperating) then a child in need plan may be suggested (with your consent) or no plan.

To prepare for the meeting, look at these tips.

• You should ask the social worker to give you a copy of her report as soon as she can. The report will be based on her assessment. You should have the chance to correct any errors and make sure that your views are reflected in the report. That report will be circulated to the professionals who are attending the meeting so they can read through it. It will outline the risks to your child as well as the positive things about your family.
• You can also ask the social worker to let you have a copy of the written reports for the conference prepared by other professionals such as your child’s school, health visitor and GP. However, please be aware that this is not always possible and that the conference Chair and police must agree if these reports are to be shared with you before the conference.
• It is a good idea to meet with the chair person before the meeting. That person will explain what the meeting is about and you can ask to see some of the reports (such as the police report) that you will not get before the meeting. If you are worried that you may become very distressed or agitated in the conference, you can discuss with the Chair having a short break if need be. Discuss with the social worker and Chair before the conference if you have concerns about any particularly sensitive information being shared at the conference.

• Ask the social worker about whether there are any advocacy services. An advocate could support you at the conference. Or you could consider having a solicitor support you at the conference, although their role at conferences is limited.

• Write down notes of the main points you want to make at the conference as a reminder. Ideally these notes should be brief, focused and should include:
- your views about the social worker’s main concerns about your child;
- any information or factors that you think are important about the concerns, for example, the support you could receive from your extended family, friends or community;
- any major areas of disagreement and why you disagree; and
- any specific support that you feel would help your child.

• Professionals such as your daughter’s health visitor, GP, nursery worker and the police will be invited to the meeting. They will share any information about your daughter and you and dad at the meeting. Be willing to cooperate with the professionals to draw up plans that will best meet your child’s needs now and in the future.
• Make sure that you attend any appointment offered by any professionals. The health visitor may want to see your daughter before the meeting.

It is difficult for me to say what the outcome will be but hopefully my advice above will help.

If you need further advice, please post again or call our advice line on 0808 801 0366.
Best wishes,

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