Criminal conviction and child services.
Posted: Fri Nov 06, 2015 2:17 pm
Hi, I have had children's services involved since may.. well that's when the did an initial assessment. Deemed me to be failing in my ability to protect.. I still have my children. This is as a result for my ex husband becoming jealous of the fact i had moved on. My OH has a conviction for assaulting a minor sentences to 16 weeks which was supended for 18 months. Hes never been inside and this is the only wrong thing he did. something which he has been honest about with courts and SS. The conviction is now spent but i know this has no effect where children are conserned. After the initial assessment they said my OH cannot have contact with my children for now which I understand and we are happy to work with them. They then assigned me a SW.. I met them once and never heard nor seen them since... after 3months of contacting SS I eventually found out that the SW had been changed. But it took me a further 2 weeks to find out who the new one was and for them to contact me. Still my OH has not contact with my children. The original assessment said I needed referals to courses so I could pick up on signs of controlling behaviour and violence. I left my children's dad because of those very reasons and they think I'm falling into a pattern... even though the new SW has been more involved I still feel like there's something they are not telling me.. re how to move forward. I have agreed to go on courses and my OH has allowed them to view all in relation to his conviction.. except they don't seem to be doing so.. there has been nothing that has shown up on his record I didn't know. We both understand it's a long process we are in for but don't know how we can urge the SW to obtain his probation records so she can see the steps he took to ensure he wont never to do it again also to speed up for the courses they want me to go on. He's completely remorseful and ashamed of his past. Before SS became involved our family was settled the children happy loved and protected.. now they are confused and not as happy. I have known my OH for years so knew about his past before I met my children's father. He's has never as much as raised his voice to any of us since we first met. He knew once he hurt the minor he did wrong..
How can I progress this as it's causing my children to be unhappy. They want my OH back in our lives as he was before..
How can I progress this as it's causing my children to be unhappy. They want my OH back in our lives as he was before..