Re: Consequences of being falsely accussed
Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2014 10:13 pm
Thank you all for your thoughts and comments. I've decided to get the outcome of the police investigation out of the way before I do anything else as it feels like a lead weight around my neck as far as CS are concerned. I should know on Tuesday (Aug 5th) whether the CPS intend to prosecute or take no further action (I just want to get on with life again so really don't want them to extend bail again).
The social worker finally arranged contact between me & my son and we had our first session last Friday. I thought she was trying to redress the contact we had missed out on when she emailed me to say the contact would last 150 minutes, only for the centre to devastate me when they said it was booked for 90 minutes. I have to say on this occasion they were quite good though and compromised on 120 minutes but it made me feel so pathetic to have so little say in my son's life.
Today however the foster carer was late turning up with my son and the contact centre refused to adjust the end time of the meeting to give us the full 90 minutes together. God the power these people wield is unbelievable, sitting there making notes on your every breath and not having the heart to give us the full measly 90 minutes together.
The two actual contacts have been good (but brief) and it's been wonderful to laugh with my son again. But at the end it breaks my heart when my son says he wants me to go with him and he is told (then forced) that he has to go back to the foster carer.
What I do need to do is contact the IRO for a number of reasons:
My sons social worker has failed to pass on the photos the IRO asked me to send to my son via the social worker.
In the meeting with the IRO I put forward my point that 20 minutes on the phone was not long enough for my son to talk to me. In response to my solicitor, their legal department has stated that I refused to comply with their instructions. This is a bare faced lie that I need to bring to the IRO's attention (if she truly is independent and honest she will confirm the inaccuracy of the briefing the legal team have received).
I'm not being sent any notes or meeting minutes and after their propensity to lie to my solicitor, I want to know what they have written about my family and ensure it is accurate and not a total fabrication designed to support their actions so far.
There has been no further mention of a family conference from my sons social worker.
I did get an unexpected call from the social worker shortly after I got back from today's visit. After the emotional roller coaster of the visit and a 2 hour drive I couldn't follow what she was talking about. I think she was trying to tell me that they were writing to my solicitor about a meeting we could go to where they would finally outline their concerns and considerations for my sons future (I do know she kept saying they didn't want to go to court).
I'll call her on Monday and ask her to explain it again if she hasn't emailed me about this meeting as I asked her to do. On the positive side the social worker does now seem to accept my wife has issues with alcohol. On the negative side she is still adamant that I've committed domestic abuse against my wife.
I'm perplexed that CS seem unable to grasp the fact that we only started having problems when my wife started to fluctuate between being a functional alcoholic and a dysfunctional alcoholic. Prior to this there were no problems with my sons health or education, no concerns or worries from health workers, social workers or any of the 3 schools he has attended. Indeed his 3rd & current school said he was back to normal after February (which coincided with my wife trying to gain sobriety).
When my wife made her first allegation to CS, CS took her at her word and decided I was guilty before they had even bothered to talk to me (they brought a letter to my first interview, effectively a contract on my future behaviour, that they expected me to sign). After this I felt I had no option but to protect myself against my wife's allegations and I did this by initially recording any and all conversations we had using an app on my phone. Over the last few days I've been slowly going through all the recordings which tally with what I have said in my police interviews.
There are numerous recordings where I ask my wife to go to hospital / see the GP but she refuses to. There are conversations about all the bruises she has e.g. because morphine had made her itchy she scratched her skin which then bruised badly. There are also lots of recordings when I'm looking after / helping my son which show me to be a patient, caring & affectionate dad (lots of I love you, lots of laughs, lots of kisses, lots of hugs) and that we enjoy a really good relationship. I would say they also confirm I was the primary carer for our son.
When I was first arrested, I offered the investigating office all my supporting evidence. Whilst he accepted my diary, photos and videos as supporting evidence he didn't want the recordings. If the CPS does decide to take the case to court then hopefully these recordings would be admissible as evidence, the conversations are incontrovertible.
Hopefully the recordings will also be useful in dispelling the misconception CS have of me and if this is the end of the beginning, we can get a family conference organised, put our sons well being ahead of everything else and get him back into the care of his family where he belongs.
The social worker finally arranged contact between me & my son and we had our first session last Friday. I thought she was trying to redress the contact we had missed out on when she emailed me to say the contact would last 150 minutes, only for the centre to devastate me when they said it was booked for 90 minutes. I have to say on this occasion they were quite good though and compromised on 120 minutes but it made me feel so pathetic to have so little say in my son's life.
Today however the foster carer was late turning up with my son and the contact centre refused to adjust the end time of the meeting to give us the full 90 minutes together. God the power these people wield is unbelievable, sitting there making notes on your every breath and not having the heart to give us the full measly 90 minutes together.
The two actual contacts have been good (but brief) and it's been wonderful to laugh with my son again. But at the end it breaks my heart when my son says he wants me to go with him and he is told (then forced) that he has to go back to the foster carer.
What I do need to do is contact the IRO for a number of reasons:
My sons social worker has failed to pass on the photos the IRO asked me to send to my son via the social worker.
In the meeting with the IRO I put forward my point that 20 minutes on the phone was not long enough for my son to talk to me. In response to my solicitor, their legal department has stated that I refused to comply with their instructions. This is a bare faced lie that I need to bring to the IRO's attention (if she truly is independent and honest she will confirm the inaccuracy of the briefing the legal team have received).
I'm not being sent any notes or meeting minutes and after their propensity to lie to my solicitor, I want to know what they have written about my family and ensure it is accurate and not a total fabrication designed to support their actions so far.
There has been no further mention of a family conference from my sons social worker.
I did get an unexpected call from the social worker shortly after I got back from today's visit. After the emotional roller coaster of the visit and a 2 hour drive I couldn't follow what she was talking about. I think she was trying to tell me that they were writing to my solicitor about a meeting we could go to where they would finally outline their concerns and considerations for my sons future (I do know she kept saying they didn't want to go to court).
I'll call her on Monday and ask her to explain it again if she hasn't emailed me about this meeting as I asked her to do. On the positive side the social worker does now seem to accept my wife has issues with alcohol. On the negative side she is still adamant that I've committed domestic abuse against my wife.
I'm perplexed that CS seem unable to grasp the fact that we only started having problems when my wife started to fluctuate between being a functional alcoholic and a dysfunctional alcoholic. Prior to this there were no problems with my sons health or education, no concerns or worries from health workers, social workers or any of the 3 schools he has attended. Indeed his 3rd & current school said he was back to normal after February (which coincided with my wife trying to gain sobriety).
When my wife made her first allegation to CS, CS took her at her word and decided I was guilty before they had even bothered to talk to me (they brought a letter to my first interview, effectively a contract on my future behaviour, that they expected me to sign). After this I felt I had no option but to protect myself against my wife's allegations and I did this by initially recording any and all conversations we had using an app on my phone. Over the last few days I've been slowly going through all the recordings which tally with what I have said in my police interviews.
There are numerous recordings where I ask my wife to go to hospital / see the GP but she refuses to. There are conversations about all the bruises she has e.g. because morphine had made her itchy she scratched her skin which then bruised badly. There are also lots of recordings when I'm looking after / helping my son which show me to be a patient, caring & affectionate dad (lots of I love you, lots of laughs, lots of kisses, lots of hugs) and that we enjoy a really good relationship. I would say they also confirm I was the primary carer for our son.
When I was first arrested, I offered the investigating office all my supporting evidence. Whilst he accepted my diary, photos and videos as supporting evidence he didn't want the recordings. If the CPS does decide to take the case to court then hopefully these recordings would be admissible as evidence, the conversations are incontrovertible.
Hopefully the recordings will also be useful in dispelling the misconception CS have of me and if this is the end of the beginning, we can get a family conference organised, put our sons well being ahead of everything else and get him back into the care of his family where he belongs.