section 20 request
Posted: Sat Jan 27, 2018 2:32 am
i will start with the current situation and give some historical background
On 1st November 2017 the police were called to my address by a neighbour because they heard an argument taking place in my house. My 14 year old son had been told that my husband had withdrawn permission for him to go on an extra circular trip, don't think the reasons are relevant but his school report said that he needed improvement and more effort and he had taken something from his brother and hidden it so that would cause upset to him bit more complicated than that but a parental decision had been made. He attacked my husband from behind three times and my husband restrained him to stop him doing damage to himself or my husband. I did not see anything and neither did any other member of the household. After the restraining my husband left to allow the situation to calm down and not escalate further. The police arrived and ran up the stairs immediately to find my son lieing in his bed holding a bag of frozen peas to the side of his head. My 11 year old daughter had brought them to him as he was alledging that he had been hit by my husband. The argument that the neighbour heard was in actual fact myself and my daughter downstairs just raised voices difference of opinion as my daughter felt it unfair to be asked to contribute to our household 75 pounds per week she is 23 and has full time job having paid no rent up until now as has been at university. Police asked what I had seen nothing nor my daughter nor my other daughter aged 11 who had got peas for her brother he had told her that he had been hit but she had not seen anything. Police officer described my house as being of concern in his report he had been into my teenage sons bedroom only. One room in our house was full of clutter and I accepted that this was a problem but as both my husband and I work full time and have had to administer 6 children this had not been a priority. Our family had been under pressure at this point my husbands brother died suddenly and we were experiencing a few financial pressures. So there was a crisis point in the family. My husband was arrested as he was called by a police officer and voluntarily attended the police station. He was released without charge and returned to the family home some 2 days later. Section 47 enquiries were made I was asked to wake my son up in the morning after the event to speak to the police officer he said there had been an argument and that he had got angry and he had been restrained by my husband. The police asked me to stay at home to be questioned and my three school aged children were questioned at school independently. Social services noted that my daughter said she had been told that my husband hit her brother. Also that my children worried about me working hard for the family and they would like a clear home. I took this on board and took time to decluttering totally. So my husband returned home and we tried to speak to our son and I had politely asked him to leave his woodworking equipment in the shed a precaution as there had been an incident. He told me he was leaving and he left my house. I have not spoken to my parents in many years I was abused as a child by my father and there is an acrimonious relationship because my eldest son now 24 chose to go to my parents if I said no undermining my parenting. I said no to his friends group as they were a bad influence and my mother said yes and this resulted in him being arrested and band from a football ground. I have tried to maintain a relationship for my children as I felt this was important, however my father is70 frail with Parkinson's and my mother 70 also an insulin dependant diabetic who recently was involved in a horrific car accident. So my father came to collect my son and he has remained in their care ever since. They informed the school on th Monday morning that following the event of 1st November in the family home that h would now be living with them and he needed a bus pass to get to school. This was issued by th school with no consultation with me or my husband who have parental responsibility. 22nd November we attended a child protection conference and the decision to place my 3 youngest children on a child protection plan had already been taken a plan was already drawn up and delivered. The plan had two points on it home needed to be decluttered and my husband to stress management. A key worker was allocated. I requested that the suitability of my parents looking after my son be looked at and requested section 20 as a place of safety. This request has been denied. The social workers have lied to say they visited me and I refused entry but I was in and nobody came yo door. They say they rang but my phone records indicate differently. The plan contained 105 factual errors and I have not had contact with my son now since November. He requires medication and I text my father but he replies talk to the social worker or police. Social worker does not return my calls what can I do. I requested section 20 but they have said in writing that they will support my son staying with maternal grandparents despite me sharing my own abuse what can I do please. To complicate matters there was a domestic abuse allegation in 2000 but it was sorted out we have had relationship counselling and no incidents since then. As a mother I feel helpless I have complained to social services as no support of value been added to my family and my two younger children's views or wishes don't count
On 1st November 2017 the police were called to my address by a neighbour because they heard an argument taking place in my house. My 14 year old son had been told that my husband had withdrawn permission for him to go on an extra circular trip, don't think the reasons are relevant but his school report said that he needed improvement and more effort and he had taken something from his brother and hidden it so that would cause upset to him bit more complicated than that but a parental decision had been made. He attacked my husband from behind three times and my husband restrained him to stop him doing damage to himself or my husband. I did not see anything and neither did any other member of the household. After the restraining my husband left to allow the situation to calm down and not escalate further. The police arrived and ran up the stairs immediately to find my son lieing in his bed holding a bag of frozen peas to the side of his head. My 11 year old daughter had brought them to him as he was alledging that he had been hit by my husband. The argument that the neighbour heard was in actual fact myself and my daughter downstairs just raised voices difference of opinion as my daughter felt it unfair to be asked to contribute to our household 75 pounds per week she is 23 and has full time job having paid no rent up until now as has been at university. Police asked what I had seen nothing nor my daughter nor my other daughter aged 11 who had got peas for her brother he had told her that he had been hit but she had not seen anything. Police officer described my house as being of concern in his report he had been into my teenage sons bedroom only. One room in our house was full of clutter and I accepted that this was a problem but as both my husband and I work full time and have had to administer 6 children this had not been a priority. Our family had been under pressure at this point my husbands brother died suddenly and we were experiencing a few financial pressures. So there was a crisis point in the family. My husband was arrested as he was called by a police officer and voluntarily attended the police station. He was released without charge and returned to the family home some 2 days later. Section 47 enquiries were made I was asked to wake my son up in the morning after the event to speak to the police officer he said there had been an argument and that he had got angry and he had been restrained by my husband. The police asked me to stay at home to be questioned and my three school aged children were questioned at school independently. Social services noted that my daughter said she had been told that my husband hit her brother. Also that my children worried about me working hard for the family and they would like a clear home. I took this on board and took time to decluttering totally. So my husband returned home and we tried to speak to our son and I had politely asked him to leave his woodworking equipment in the shed a precaution as there had been an incident. He told me he was leaving and he left my house. I have not spoken to my parents in many years I was abused as a child by my father and there is an acrimonious relationship because my eldest son now 24 chose to go to my parents if I said no undermining my parenting. I said no to his friends group as they were a bad influence and my mother said yes and this resulted in him being arrested and band from a football ground. I have tried to maintain a relationship for my children as I felt this was important, however my father is70 frail with Parkinson's and my mother 70 also an insulin dependant diabetic who recently was involved in a horrific car accident. So my father came to collect my son and he has remained in their care ever since. They informed the school on th Monday morning that following the event of 1st November in the family home that h would now be living with them and he needed a bus pass to get to school. This was issued by th school with no consultation with me or my husband who have parental responsibility. 22nd November we attended a child protection conference and the decision to place my 3 youngest children on a child protection plan had already been taken a plan was already drawn up and delivered. The plan had two points on it home needed to be decluttered and my husband to stress management. A key worker was allocated. I requested that the suitability of my parents looking after my son be looked at and requested section 20 as a place of safety. This request has been denied. The social workers have lied to say they visited me and I refused entry but I was in and nobody came yo door. They say they rang but my phone records indicate differently. The plan contained 105 factual errors and I have not had contact with my son now since November. He requires medication and I text my father but he replies talk to the social worker or police. Social worker does not return my calls what can I do. I requested section 20 but they have said in writing that they will support my son staying with maternal grandparents despite me sharing my own abuse what can I do please. To complicate matters there was a domestic abuse allegation in 2000 but it was sorted out we have had relationship counselling and no incidents since then. As a mother I feel helpless I have complained to social services as no support of value been added to my family and my two younger children's views or wishes don't count