Advice please
Posted: Fri Nov 03, 2017 10:08 am
Hi i am just after some advice i will explain the situation.
I was with my ex partner for 6 years we have a son who is now 2.
My ex partner used to enjoy a drink and my son stayed with his Nan on saturday night which would allow us to go out and enjoy the night.
There we 3 occasions where my partner got silly and we argued which resulted in the police being called he was arrested once for being abusive
I was arrested the second time for us arguing in the street and a witness said i had attacked him but it was more he was trying to get me home in the car and i was drunk and and i pushed him away from me when the police came i got a bit lippy
The 3rd we were both arrested he had accused me of drink driving after the breath test i was found under the limit i said hed kicked me in my leg so he was arrested to. We were both realesed the next day. I expected childrens services to be phoning although my son was not present during these inncidents
They came out and said they wanted to do and assessment which they did i was honest with them and said we had seperated and id decided to have no contact. They wanted to speak to my sons nursery and a check which came back fine. Im the report they had said they had closed the case due to me and my partner being split. To be honest they were really nice and just said if i needed anything to call. It was obvious my son had a good relationship with us both. Nothing was put in place to stop my sons dad seeing him i had even said to the lady i hoped we would be able to talk again one day but as everything was so heated i would just speak to him through his mum at the moment. This was 5 months ago. Since then we have got on really well his dad is attending a drink prgramme and had decided he will cut drink out of his life he has been in touch with respect and is doing a dv course which i do feel is quite sad for him as although it says he was domestically abusive he is in no way a man with a volient hsitory on women and anyone who knows him will say what a genuine person he is but he feels he should do this to help. He has been to the gp and had been diagnosed with deppression which it seems he has been suffering with for a long time. We have since taken my son out together and we plan to do the co parenting at his mums for christmas. It does state on the report that all these incidents were alcohol related. I do understand that being physical to each other in anyway is wrong and i am not taking that factor away. It did also say on the report that if we were to resume our relationship they would be worried about any potential inncidents affecting my sons emotional well being whicb again i fully understand i wanted to see how things went with us and i was then planning to be intouch with childrens services to ask if they would come out and re assess on the actions of whats been done between my and my ex partner. I do feel worried they will say we cannot have a realtionship and beilive me if they did they did say that i would not be having one. I was hoping they may be able to support us as a family in some way instead of that. What are your thoughts?
I was with my ex partner for 6 years we have a son who is now 2.
My ex partner used to enjoy a drink and my son stayed with his Nan on saturday night which would allow us to go out and enjoy the night.
There we 3 occasions where my partner got silly and we argued which resulted in the police being called he was arrested once for being abusive
I was arrested the second time for us arguing in the street and a witness said i had attacked him but it was more he was trying to get me home in the car and i was drunk and and i pushed him away from me when the police came i got a bit lippy
The 3rd we were both arrested he had accused me of drink driving after the breath test i was found under the limit i said hed kicked me in my leg so he was arrested to. We were both realesed the next day. I expected childrens services to be phoning although my son was not present during these inncidents
They came out and said they wanted to do and assessment which they did i was honest with them and said we had seperated and id decided to have no contact. They wanted to speak to my sons nursery and a check which came back fine. Im the report they had said they had closed the case due to me and my partner being split. To be honest they were really nice and just said if i needed anything to call. It was obvious my son had a good relationship with us both. Nothing was put in place to stop my sons dad seeing him i had even said to the lady i hoped we would be able to talk again one day but as everything was so heated i would just speak to him through his mum at the moment. This was 5 months ago. Since then we have got on really well his dad is attending a drink prgramme and had decided he will cut drink out of his life he has been in touch with respect and is doing a dv course which i do feel is quite sad for him as although it says he was domestically abusive he is in no way a man with a volient hsitory on women and anyone who knows him will say what a genuine person he is but he feels he should do this to help. He has been to the gp and had been diagnosed with deppression which it seems he has been suffering with for a long time. We have since taken my son out together and we plan to do the co parenting at his mums for christmas. It does state on the report that all these incidents were alcohol related. I do understand that being physical to each other in anyway is wrong and i am not taking that factor away. It did also say on the report that if we were to resume our relationship they would be worried about any potential inncidents affecting my sons emotional well being whicb again i fully understand i wanted to see how things went with us and i was then planning to be intouch with childrens services to ask if they would come out and re assess on the actions of whats been done between my and my ex partner. I do feel worried they will say we cannot have a realtionship and beilive me if they did they did say that i would not be having one. I was hoping they may be able to support us as a family in some way instead of that. What are your thoughts?