advice needed
Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2017 2:46 pm
Hi all,
My husband and I split almost 3 years. We live separately I have the children.
We split following an incident of Domestic Abuse he was prosecuted.
We have a son with an illness that requires extra supervision and care.
Recently, I've been having issues with a frozen shoulder, so my ex has been coming to stay over night occasionally. This has allowed me to take my medication and get some rest.
We started getting along a lot better and I agreed to go on a holiday too support him with the children.
A couple of nights before the holiday we argued and police were called. He's left the house no arrest etc ( no violence ) I called the police as he refused to leave and the children were upset by this.
We also had an argument while away on holiday.
On returning from hol, SS advised they needed to come and do an assessment and speak to the children alone.
This was done approx 1 week ago. My child advised me " the lady asked me if you and daddy had a fight mommy "
I have no concerns about SS coming out after all they are safeguarding my children.
My child told her that she felt safe 10 on a scale of 1-10 and 5 when we have argued.
She told the SS bits about the incident 3 years previous, an argument about 2 years ago and the row we had in holiday.
The SS said she needs to consult her manager and will complete a report.
What should I expect in terms of timescales and expectations of SS ??
Any advice welcomed.
I don't need to know about the impact of children over hearing / witnessing arguments. I'm aware of the impact of this and feel deeply saddened that my daughter recalls it. Never had any involvement with them before.
My husband and I split almost 3 years. We live separately I have the children.
We split following an incident of Domestic Abuse he was prosecuted.
We have a son with an illness that requires extra supervision and care.
Recently, I've been having issues with a frozen shoulder, so my ex has been coming to stay over night occasionally. This has allowed me to take my medication and get some rest.
We started getting along a lot better and I agreed to go on a holiday too support him with the children.
A couple of nights before the holiday we argued and police were called. He's left the house no arrest etc ( no violence ) I called the police as he refused to leave and the children were upset by this.
We also had an argument while away on holiday.
On returning from hol, SS advised they needed to come and do an assessment and speak to the children alone.
This was done approx 1 week ago. My child advised me " the lady asked me if you and daddy had a fight mommy "
I have no concerns about SS coming out after all they are safeguarding my children.
My child told her that she felt safe 10 on a scale of 1-10 and 5 when we have argued.
She told the SS bits about the incident 3 years previous, an argument about 2 years ago and the row we had in holiday.
The SS said she needs to consult her manager and will complete a report.
What should I expect in terms of timescales and expectations of SS ??
Any advice welcomed.
I don't need to know about the impact of children over hearing / witnessing arguments. I'm aware of the impact of this and feel deeply saddened that my daughter recalls it. Never had any involvement with them before.