Worried confused and still in love..social services
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2017 12:47 pm
Hello all.
I am a mother of one. He's 6 years old and brilliant. ..I love him to bits. I split with his dad a couple of years ago and got a new partner and fell deeply in love. He's always been great with my son and took him out swimming and on his bike and had lots of fun and buit a good bond.
Unfortunately we have had a stress full year with court cases ..one where I had to take a criminal to court and one where he was applying for contact for his kids. When I got with him..his ex stopped him from seeing them as I met them too soon I admit.
There were a couple or small incidents where I called the police as at one point when we broke up as he kept turning up and another where he pushed me. Then he broke something and shouted in front of my son. My son and I then left to stay at my parents and he changed the locks as he was angry and I had thrown him out before. He admits it was immature and he was very sorry and is getting different types of counselling ...he has issues because of his dad ect
that was 3 months ago. ..we worked on it and talked a lot..a lot and more! He had more counselling ...we have fallen back in love and moved back in together
All this was great and picture perfect family playing ect...then social services met with me.
Obviously that has changed it all. They've said they can't tell us what to do but said they need to be involved and take steps if we continue to live together. ..I was upset and crying and said I was worried about them taking my son off me and she did state that she didn't ever say that.
So now my son and I have moved into my parents until he moves out so we can move back in.
I've been talking to him but my son hasn't seen him.since the meeting. It's all really sad and we were all eventually extremely happy. They have torn our family apart that we have worked really hard to develop.
My ex/would be partner is really trying to better himself all the time. ..neither of us were ever hurt!
Now I am in bits worrying and stressed about all the moving around. He's at the house for another week or 2 until he moves into his new place ...
I think I'm doing everything right. I still love hI'm deeply. I hope we can have contact at least ..if we don't live together and he doesn't see my son yet.... I'm not sure what's next. Do I really need to choose between my beautiful child and the love of my life? He's not perfect but is extremely loving and we have many happy times.
I am a mother of one. He's 6 years old and brilliant. ..I love him to bits. I split with his dad a couple of years ago and got a new partner and fell deeply in love. He's always been great with my son and took him out swimming and on his bike and had lots of fun and buit a good bond.
Unfortunately we have had a stress full year with court cases ..one where I had to take a criminal to court and one where he was applying for contact for his kids. When I got with him..his ex stopped him from seeing them as I met them too soon I admit.
There were a couple or small incidents where I called the police as at one point when we broke up as he kept turning up and another where he pushed me. Then he broke something and shouted in front of my son. My son and I then left to stay at my parents and he changed the locks as he was angry and I had thrown him out before. He admits it was immature and he was very sorry and is getting different types of counselling ...he has issues because of his dad ect
that was 3 months ago. ..we worked on it and talked a lot..a lot and more! He had more counselling ...we have fallen back in love and moved back in together
All this was great and picture perfect family playing ect...then social services met with me.
Obviously that has changed it all. They've said they can't tell us what to do but said they need to be involved and take steps if we continue to live together. ..I was upset and crying and said I was worried about them taking my son off me and she did state that she didn't ever say that.
So now my son and I have moved into my parents until he moves out so we can move back in.
I've been talking to him but my son hasn't seen him.since the meeting. It's all really sad and we were all eventually extremely happy. They have torn our family apart that we have worked really hard to develop.
My ex/would be partner is really trying to better himself all the time. ..neither of us were ever hurt!
Now I am in bits worrying and stressed about all the moving around. He's at the house for another week or 2 until he moves into his new place ...
I think I'm doing everything right. I still love hI'm deeply. I hope we can have contact at least ..if we don't live together and he doesn't see my son yet.... I'm not sure what's next. Do I really need to choose between my beautiful child and the love of my life? He's not perfect but is extremely loving and we have many happy times.