Unsure and in need of advice being partner of an offender.
Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2016 4:10 pm
I apologise if this is in the wrong place I wasn't quite sure where to post it but I could really use some advice. I have recently started seeing a guy. We have known each other for a couple of years but neither was interested in a relationship, but eventually it just went that way.
The problems are this, he has 2 previous convictions for rape of his partner ( now ex). He was sentenced to 7 years custodial and 3 years on license. I am aware this is a heavy sentence, and we have talked long and hard about how to proceed. He has always followed the guidelines. He informed me fully of his offences. Explained the courses and pocedures he has to go through. He informed his SW as soon as our situation even looked like it would become more than casual friends.
He is very afraid of doing anything wrong and going back to jail, and has asked me to ensure I keep ,myself safe and aware.
So that brings me to here, I have four children aged 19, 15, 11 and 10. The older two are girls the younger two are boys. He has NO convictions against minors, and he had been in a long term relationship with the woman he assaulted. He has never assaulted any other partners before, and has been to afraid to get involved since. I believe they consider him a medium risk of reoffending at the moment.
What I would like to know is what to expect once he declares to his SW that we would like to take things futher and more seriously.
I am not naive, I understand very well that this is something that may have to continue being addressed for the entirety of his sexually active life. That whilst he may not be a direct risk to my younger children,the boys, that by hurting me he would be putting my children at risk. I also understand that my older two girls Would be at risk should this become something more serious and we take it futher.
There has been no contact with the kids and there won't be unless we decide to make a commitment to our relationship. But I have discussed it with my eldest and she has been amazing. But I could use some extra support and advice on what to expect from the authorities.
Are there any support groups for partners of sex offenders, in particular , partner rapists.
The problems are this, he has 2 previous convictions for rape of his partner ( now ex). He was sentenced to 7 years custodial and 3 years on license. I am aware this is a heavy sentence, and we have talked long and hard about how to proceed. He has always followed the guidelines. He informed me fully of his offences. Explained the courses and pocedures he has to go through. He informed his SW as soon as our situation even looked like it would become more than casual friends.
He is very afraid of doing anything wrong and going back to jail, and has asked me to ensure I keep ,myself safe and aware.
So that brings me to here, I have four children aged 19, 15, 11 and 10. The older two are girls the younger two are boys. He has NO convictions against minors, and he had been in a long term relationship with the woman he assaulted. He has never assaulted any other partners before, and has been to afraid to get involved since. I believe they consider him a medium risk of reoffending at the moment.
What I would like to know is what to expect once he declares to his SW that we would like to take things futher and more seriously.
I am not naive, I understand very well that this is something that may have to continue being addressed for the entirety of his sexually active life. That whilst he may not be a direct risk to my younger children,the boys, that by hurting me he would be putting my children at risk. I also understand that my older two girls Would be at risk should this become something more serious and we take it futher.
There has been no contact with the kids and there won't be unless we decide to make a commitment to our relationship. But I have discussed it with my eldest and she has been amazing. But I could use some extra support and advice on what to expect from the authorities.
Are there any support groups for partners of sex offenders, in particular , partner rapists.