Social services involvement
Posted: Thu Jul 28, 2016 2:24 pm
Hello I am a 29 year old mother of 3 children .
I have known my partner a while and have been with him 4 months I was aware of his past as he had a volatile relationship with his ex and he was prosecuted of common assault on her 3 times and breaking a non molestation order numerous times ! im waiting to receive the information through Claire's law myself ! He told me it was for pushes shoving and a slap when they would get into fights ! He has no domestic violent insidents since this was all 5 years ago
I was shocked to hear of this and he reassured me that he is remorseful he knows he didn't handle the situation as he should of he has done a building better relationships programme with probation which he did very well in as I have seen a letter off his probation worker !
I do believe in second chances and he has never shown me any form of aggression !
If he did he would be out quicker than the trash !
His ex gf has phones cs on me as she has done with all his gf with children !
Social actually stopped me near my sons school as I walked him home infront of the mums and kids got out and were quite aggressively telling me that I need to get rid of him ! I asked them numerous times if we could go to my home and they finally agreed !
They basically told me to end it and made me call him infront of them immediately I was told quite aggressively dump him or we are taking your kids away !
I was shocked heartbroken and still am ! They wouldn't even let me be alone with him to say goodbye as he came to get a few items I had to have a male family member and the children had to leave the home ! There reason for this was that he was going to hurt me ! Well he didn't he was heartbroken and we just cried in each others arms we love each other so much !
I have since spoke with my support worker who was one of the people who visited I have told him I haven't and will not let him near the home nor my children and I want to see him in my spare time ! I love him and I want to give him a chance ! He said he would have to escalate things then ! This was a week ago and I haven't heard a thing since !
What will happen now ? I have kept him away From my home and children ! I miss him so much he was so amaiZing with us ! My cousin was present and when my support worker was here he asked her what she thought ! She told him she has never seen us so happy and secure and she knows I have been through so much ! I have a support worker by the way as I called and asked for help as my 5 year old sons behaviour was quite bad but he has turned it around ! I actually showed him his school report this day he was really pleased ! My eldest has managed to get out of a school for challenging kids and starts mainstream September ! Things at home have been better than ever !
I haven't been made to sign anything ! I showed him my partners probation letter and made it clear that my kids safety is paramount to me and they will come first but I would like to try and make it possible for us to be together as a family one day ! I told him my partener has agreed he will do anything to prove he isn't a risk ?in the mean time he will not be aloud near my kids His letter from his building better relationships programme actually said on it ! I have no doubt you will go on to have a loving family and be loved as a dad !
What do I do ! Is there a chance of us being able to prove we can make this work !
Or will I have to maintain a seperate relationship with him for good ????
I have known my partner a while and have been with him 4 months I was aware of his past as he had a volatile relationship with his ex and he was prosecuted of common assault on her 3 times and breaking a non molestation order numerous times ! im waiting to receive the information through Claire's law myself ! He told me it was for pushes shoving and a slap when they would get into fights ! He has no domestic violent insidents since this was all 5 years ago
I was shocked to hear of this and he reassured me that he is remorseful he knows he didn't handle the situation as he should of he has done a building better relationships programme with probation which he did very well in as I have seen a letter off his probation worker !
I do believe in second chances and he has never shown me any form of aggression !
If he did he would be out quicker than the trash !
His ex gf has phones cs on me as she has done with all his gf with children !
Social actually stopped me near my sons school as I walked him home infront of the mums and kids got out and were quite aggressively telling me that I need to get rid of him ! I asked them numerous times if we could go to my home and they finally agreed !
They basically told me to end it and made me call him infront of them immediately I was told quite aggressively dump him or we are taking your kids away !
I was shocked heartbroken and still am ! They wouldn't even let me be alone with him to say goodbye as he came to get a few items I had to have a male family member and the children had to leave the home ! There reason for this was that he was going to hurt me ! Well he didn't he was heartbroken and we just cried in each others arms we love each other so much !
I have since spoke with my support worker who was one of the people who visited I have told him I haven't and will not let him near the home nor my children and I want to see him in my spare time ! I love him and I want to give him a chance ! He said he would have to escalate things then ! This was a week ago and I haven't heard a thing since !
What will happen now ? I have kept him away From my home and children ! I miss him so much he was so amaiZing with us ! My cousin was present and when my support worker was here he asked her what she thought ! She told him she has never seen us so happy and secure and she knows I have been through so much ! I have a support worker by the way as I called and asked for help as my 5 year old sons behaviour was quite bad but he has turned it around ! I actually showed him his school report this day he was really pleased ! My eldest has managed to get out of a school for challenging kids and starts mainstream September ! Things at home have been better than ever !
I haven't been made to sign anything ! I showed him my partners probation letter and made it clear that my kids safety is paramount to me and they will come first but I would like to try and make it possible for us to be together as a family one day ! I told him my partener has agreed he will do anything to prove he isn't a risk ?in the mean time he will not be aloud near my kids His letter from his building better relationships programme actually said on it ! I have no doubt you will go on to have a loving family and be loved as a dad !
What do I do ! Is there a chance of us being able to prove we can make this work !
Or will I have to maintain a seperate relationship with him for good ????