Forte wrote:I was referred by someone who I confided in about my ex and his behaviour in the past. I am due to leave the country soon, why are they creating more problems?
What are they going to ask him? I'm so scared.
Welcome to the parents’ discussion board and thank you for your post.
You have not given any indication of what was confided so it is difficult to give you any advice regarding why, as you say, they are creating problems or what questions might be asked of your ex partner.
Children’s services would normally make contact with a parent or person looking after a child where they have received a referral which gives rise to safeguarding concerns. Please read our advice sheet An introductory guide to Children’s Services for detailed information of what happens when children’s services receive a referral.
In response to the posts from Miserylovescompany you have given a little more information but still not enough to know the concerns that children’s services has in respect of your child or any safeguarding issues.
Becoming worried or paranoid because of what you read online is not helpful to you or your situation. People who have good outcomes are not complaining so do not post. Of those who post online and give what could sometimes be described as ‘horror stories’ do not always give the full picture of what happened in their cases. Usually, it is all what the social worker has done but no indication of what led to the concerns in the first place and whether they properly engaged. That is not to say that social workers are infallible and do not make mistakes but I think you should not judge your circumstances by those stories.
You mentioned in your post that you are about to leave the country, does this have anything to do with your ex-partner and the disclosure you made? Are children’s services concerned about your plans and safeguarding issues for your child in relation to this proposed move?
Depending on the nature of the disclosure children’s services will want to speak with your child’s father to find out more about the disclosure. It will of course be up to him if he engages with children’s services and I suppose, this may depend on any issues he has about you and his child. His failure to engage will not necessarily mean that the case will be closed. It will depend on the concerns that children’s services has in respect of any safeguarding issues.
Should you wish to speak to an adviser, you can telephone our advice line on 0808 801 0366. The advice line is open from 9.30am to 3pm.
I hope this is helpful