Relative on SOR about to be released imminently - CS and my kids

Post Reply
Posts: 1
Joined: Thu Jan 21, 2016 12:49 am

Relative on SOR about to be released imminently - CS and my kids

Post by Lancsman » Wed Jan 27, 2016 1:48 pm

My father in law is due to be released from prison shortly having served 3/6 years for 5 cases of historical sexual assault on child aged 13-15. The judge said he would be on SOR for life.

We have been advised that if our children wish to see him we need to liaise with children's [social] services first.

My children are 17, 14 and 9. My 9 year old has Down's Syndrome and therefore some learning disability.

I am concerned about what this may involve for the children and our family and am apprehensive about the whole situation.

Can Suzie or anyone else with knowledge or experience please give me an idea of what to expect I would be grateful and less fearful of making the call.

I hope this is an appropriate forum for this request, I've struggled to find any info otherwise.

Thank you.

User avatar
Suzie, FRG Adviser
Posts: 2680
Joined: Mon Jul 04, 2011 2:57 pm

Re: Relative on SOR about to be released imminently - CS and my kids

Post by Suzie, FRG Adviser » Tue Feb 02, 2016 1:10 pm

Dear Lancsman,

Welcome to the Parents Forum.

I am sorry to hear about your difficulties.

In these circumstances, your father in law would be considered to be a potential risk to your children. Until children services had carried out an assessment, his risk would be unknown. Children services might insist that either no contact takes place or that contact is supervised by someone who is aware of his convictions and can protect your children. You could ask that a family member,( such as yourself) be assessed to supervise contact.

An assessment should take up to 45 days and will involve assessing your children’s different needs and your parenting ability including your ability to protect your children from their grandparents risk, the environment you live in and family and friend support.

The social worker will also liaise with professionals working with your father in law to finds out the outcome of any specialist risk assessment.

The Lucy Faithfull Foundation , who advise families about sexual abuse, can give detailed advice about these specialist risk assessments as well as self-protection work that might be available to your family.

A family group conference might be another way of accessing support within the family. Have a look at our advice sheet which explains how these are managed.
If you have any questions, please post again.

Best wishes,


Post Reply