Some advice needed on this weird case
Posted: Wed May 30, 2018 5:22 pm
Where do I start. This is a mess. Even solicitors don't know what to do.
We are in emergency accommodation due to becoming homeless in 2015
In September last year my eldest child at home ‘E’ became emotionally depressed, distant and quite rude. At the same time a second daughter ‘Z’ became suicidal because ‘Z’ is autistic and we were about to move and she doesn’t like change. ‘E’ and ‘Z’ had a big bust up and ‘Z’ tried to kill herself with my partners medication (which we keep in a safe) as my partner is disabled. We did not know the trigger at this point.
Both children were triggering each other and social services became involved as 'Z' tried killing herself. We were actually happy for some assistance as round the clock monitoring was tiring. ‘E’ was rude to the SW and the SW said that we had reached a threshold. It has since been accepted that ‘Z’s suicidal ideation is functional and not because of depression and her behavior is linked to change and her sister goading her to kill herself...We complied with SW and we actually disposed of all medication immediately. SW said "we had done all we can".
In Nov 2017 it became clear that ‘E’ was being groomed by a pedophile and we immediately removed internet access for her and took away her phone as well as tell the SW. SW wrote it in a document and gave us a copy.
We went to our first core group meeting and from that point things actually went downhill. The SW actually was defending us in the meeting because he said the emotional abuse the children were suffering wasn’t necessarily us. I mentioned the paedophile again and again nothing was done. ‘E’ was put on a CIN plan because of her age and ‘Z’ was put on a CPA plan.
At the second meeting both mum and myself were instructed by ‘E’s therapist to return the phone. The therapist is/was part of the core group. We did, but we left the filters on (no social media), that week the therapist told us to remove restrictions as stopping a teen from social interactions were emotional abuse. Told if we did not comply then we could get children removed. We gave unfiltered phone back.
‘E’ went on to distribute pictures of herself naked to the paedophile. We complained to new SW (old one left) who did nothing and in the proceeding 5 meetings the paedophile was not discussed or added to minutes or plan.
We got told to go to family therapy, which we initially rejected, but went to eventually and we were told that they only help dysfunctional families and they cannot help us. They told us to go to the police to get help with the paedophile and if we did not, they would. We complained about ‘E’s therapist but SW is not giving NHS information they need so complaint went nowhere.
We got a 3rd social worker who was hostile and quite the bully. As neither the core group nor child services were doing anything we disengaged. But not after telling the new SW about the C.S.E. & paedophile. She also did nothing.
We got solicitors.
We had a PLO meeting which was halted half way through after we mentioned the paedophile and now we are demanding court as we feel we cannot interact with a core group that has done so much damage. It has been 45 days since the PLO and nothing. The complaint against the newest SW is going nowhere. The police have interviewed ‘E’ and the SW that is lead of the core group is the CSE.
The LA also has not provided all the core group meeting notes or minutes to us and we have been requesting them since Nov 2017 (we have got some up to Feb now).
I had a last minute meeting with SW manager who told me I should not have given the phone back. I explained i have over 60 emails complaining about this and he recommended i sue the NHS. I denied voluntarily giving it back.
Any advice how to proceed. The solicitors are in disbelief.
What can I expect to happen at court now?
Is there a way I can get this investigated properly?
We are in emergency accommodation due to becoming homeless in 2015
In September last year my eldest child at home ‘E’ became emotionally depressed, distant and quite rude. At the same time a second daughter ‘Z’ became suicidal because ‘Z’ is autistic and we were about to move and she doesn’t like change. ‘E’ and ‘Z’ had a big bust up and ‘Z’ tried to kill herself with my partners medication (which we keep in a safe) as my partner is disabled. We did not know the trigger at this point.
Both children were triggering each other and social services became involved as 'Z' tried killing herself. We were actually happy for some assistance as round the clock monitoring was tiring. ‘E’ was rude to the SW and the SW said that we had reached a threshold. It has since been accepted that ‘Z’s suicidal ideation is functional and not because of depression and her behavior is linked to change and her sister goading her to kill herself...We complied with SW and we actually disposed of all medication immediately. SW said "we had done all we can".
In Nov 2017 it became clear that ‘E’ was being groomed by a pedophile and we immediately removed internet access for her and took away her phone as well as tell the SW. SW wrote it in a document and gave us a copy.
We went to our first core group meeting and from that point things actually went downhill. The SW actually was defending us in the meeting because he said the emotional abuse the children were suffering wasn’t necessarily us. I mentioned the paedophile again and again nothing was done. ‘E’ was put on a CIN plan because of her age and ‘Z’ was put on a CPA plan.
At the second meeting both mum and myself were instructed by ‘E’s therapist to return the phone. The therapist is/was part of the core group. We did, but we left the filters on (no social media), that week the therapist told us to remove restrictions as stopping a teen from social interactions were emotional abuse. Told if we did not comply then we could get children removed. We gave unfiltered phone back.
‘E’ went on to distribute pictures of herself naked to the paedophile. We complained to new SW (old one left) who did nothing and in the proceeding 5 meetings the paedophile was not discussed or added to minutes or plan.
We got told to go to family therapy, which we initially rejected, but went to eventually and we were told that they only help dysfunctional families and they cannot help us. They told us to go to the police to get help with the paedophile and if we did not, they would. We complained about ‘E’s therapist but SW is not giving NHS information they need so complaint went nowhere.
We got a 3rd social worker who was hostile and quite the bully. As neither the core group nor child services were doing anything we disengaged. But not after telling the new SW about the C.S.E. & paedophile. She also did nothing.
We got solicitors.
We had a PLO meeting which was halted half way through after we mentioned the paedophile and now we are demanding court as we feel we cannot interact with a core group that has done so much damage. It has been 45 days since the PLO and nothing. The complaint against the newest SW is going nowhere. The police have interviewed ‘E’ and the SW that is lead of the core group is the CSE.
The LA also has not provided all the core group meeting notes or minutes to us and we have been requesting them since Nov 2017 (we have got some up to Feb now).
I had a last minute meeting with SW manager who told me I should not have given the phone back. I explained i have over 60 emails complaining about this and he recommended i sue the NHS. I denied voluntarily giving it back.
Any advice how to proceed. The solicitors are in disbelief.
What can I expect to happen at court now?
Is there a way I can get this investigated properly?