I guess this is where I start??
Posted: Thu Apr 11, 2019 11:35 am
Hello All.
I've been married for 18 years 3 girls (8) (9) (16).
All same biological father.
Both full time workers, no previous CS contact.
Eldest daughter gets involved with a boyf, to which Dad disagrees. This boyf has an older sister who had her father removed by CS due to sexual abuse.
Being a rebelious teen and thinking her boyf is the be all and end all, our daughter, persuaded by the boyf (Jan 2019) decided to tell her teacher that her own 'Dad touches her up'
Husband was arrested but bailed because he is deaf and they could not find a sign language interpreter. (He was held in custody for 24 hours without even knowing why he'd been arrested) I was called in to release him and sign to him the reason for his arrest.
Our daughter spoke to the police again and said she thinks she made a mistake.
They found an interpreter a month later but due to communication breakdown the interview was cancelled and all charges were dropped against him, under the terms 'No evidence to say he did this and No evidence to say he didn't'. CS advised he stays away from the family home.
Our daughter told SW that she was confused by her boyf and made a mistake but she said the SW replied by saying she was 'sticking up for her mum' and so in fear that I would get in trouble aswell she just decided to go along with it and stay quiet.
It took 7 weeks to get supervised contact in place also because of sign language interpreter issues.
Finally after charges dropped CS agreed him to see the children with me and my mum as supervisors and said they could see him as and when he wants as long as we were there.
An initial CP meeting was booked for 20th March but was cancelled on the 18th of March due to.... you guessed it, no correct interpreter booked, they have moved the date now to 24th April and we just feel like we've been held up in the air for so long.
Husband feels discriminated against even the SW said "if he was normal, the meeting would have gone ahead as planned"
The 2 youngest are distraught, don't understand why Daddy just left one night and cannot come home. They were perfectly fine before and now are emotionally disturbed by all of this.
I guess what I am now asking is...
Can they really force me and my husband to split over a false allegation?
Will he ever get to come home again?
Can they really justify making the younger 2 suffer?
Are they treating him fairly under the discrimination act?
Can I fit all these meetings and new contact rules in around a normal working family life?
I've done my best to give you all the info, however if you need me to clarify anything else so you can assist me, please do... I'm just way above my head and none of this makes any sense.
I've been married for 18 years 3 girls (8) (9) (16).
All same biological father.
Both full time workers, no previous CS contact.
Eldest daughter gets involved with a boyf, to which Dad disagrees. This boyf has an older sister who had her father removed by CS due to sexual abuse.
Being a rebelious teen and thinking her boyf is the be all and end all, our daughter, persuaded by the boyf (Jan 2019) decided to tell her teacher that her own 'Dad touches her up'
Husband was arrested but bailed because he is deaf and they could not find a sign language interpreter. (He was held in custody for 24 hours without even knowing why he'd been arrested) I was called in to release him and sign to him the reason for his arrest.
Our daughter spoke to the police again and said she thinks she made a mistake.
They found an interpreter a month later but due to communication breakdown the interview was cancelled and all charges were dropped against him, under the terms 'No evidence to say he did this and No evidence to say he didn't'. CS advised he stays away from the family home.
Our daughter told SW that she was confused by her boyf and made a mistake but she said the SW replied by saying she was 'sticking up for her mum' and so in fear that I would get in trouble aswell she just decided to go along with it and stay quiet.
It took 7 weeks to get supervised contact in place also because of sign language interpreter issues.
Finally after charges dropped CS agreed him to see the children with me and my mum as supervisors and said they could see him as and when he wants as long as we were there.
An initial CP meeting was booked for 20th March but was cancelled on the 18th of March due to.... you guessed it, no correct interpreter booked, they have moved the date now to 24th April and we just feel like we've been held up in the air for so long.
Husband feels discriminated against even the SW said "if he was normal, the meeting would have gone ahead as planned"
The 2 youngest are distraught, don't understand why Daddy just left one night and cannot come home. They were perfectly fine before and now are emotionally disturbed by all of this.
I guess what I am now asking is...
Can they really force me and my husband to split over a false allegation?
Will he ever get to come home again?
Can they really justify making the younger 2 suffer?
Are they treating him fairly under the discrimination act?
Can I fit all these meetings and new contact rules in around a normal working family life?
I've done my best to give you all the info, however if you need me to clarify anything else so you can assist me, please do... I'm just way above my head and none of this makes any sense.