Ex partner in relationship with a sex offender
Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2019 5:16 pm
Hi,
My ex partner is in a relation ship with a convicted sex offender who served two years in prison for sex with an underage girl.
Can anyone offer any advice as I am at a total loss on what to do.
The whole situation is quite a long story.
Her new partner who she is talking about moving in with her and my 11 year old daughter (account according to my ex) is a 27 year old who served 2 years of a 4 year sentence for sex with and grooming a 15 year old girl. Sex between people of thst age doesn't initially seem. Like it would cause concern but they haven't long met and all I have to go on is what my partner is telling me and I'm slightly concerned she may not be telling me the whole truth. There are other factors at play.
The first is that my ex partner was abused as a child herself by an older Foster brother. This has kind of warped her view on child abuse as she would never say anything negative about her attacker or about peadophiles in general and always spoke about what happened with an almost romantic undertone. Which does make me concerned that this guys convictions almost make him more appealing. He told her on their first date and I would imagine at this point the majority of parents would turn and walk immediately? I know I would.
Secondly my daughter is 11 but over the last two years has shown an interest in sex. A friend told her to Google people ***** when she was 9 and since then we have had intermittent issues with her use of online chat rooms and alike. Including talking to boys of an age around 16/17 pretending to be the same age talking about sex. Not directly talking about actions and whenever they have asked for photos she has refused but I feel she is in a very vulnerable situation. My ex spoke to her new partner about this and when I suggested she used more tact she couldn't understand why talking to a convicted sex offender about that would cause concern.
At the moment myself and her mum have a healthy Co parenting relationship where we always talk about our daughter and seek to resolve issues together but I feel at the moment this is a dangerous situation she has put my daughter in. I'm worried that by being friendly I am neglecting opportunities to raise concerns but also if I keep raising concerns I won't be spoken to about anything and if something did happen I would be less aware because I've created a rift?
Can anyone offer any advice on how best to handle this? I'm. Really at a loss.
Thanks in advance.
My ex partner is in a relation ship with a convicted sex offender who served two years in prison for sex with an underage girl.
Can anyone offer any advice as I am at a total loss on what to do.
The whole situation is quite a long story.
Her new partner who she is talking about moving in with her and my 11 year old daughter (account according to my ex) is a 27 year old who served 2 years of a 4 year sentence for sex with and grooming a 15 year old girl. Sex between people of thst age doesn't initially seem. Like it would cause concern but they haven't long met and all I have to go on is what my partner is telling me and I'm slightly concerned she may not be telling me the whole truth. There are other factors at play.
The first is that my ex partner was abused as a child herself by an older Foster brother. This has kind of warped her view on child abuse as she would never say anything negative about her attacker or about peadophiles in general and always spoke about what happened with an almost romantic undertone. Which does make me concerned that this guys convictions almost make him more appealing. He told her on their first date and I would imagine at this point the majority of parents would turn and walk immediately? I know I would.
Secondly my daughter is 11 but over the last two years has shown an interest in sex. A friend told her to Google people ***** when she was 9 and since then we have had intermittent issues with her use of online chat rooms and alike. Including talking to boys of an age around 16/17 pretending to be the same age talking about sex. Not directly talking about actions and whenever they have asked for photos she has refused but I feel she is in a very vulnerable situation. My ex spoke to her new partner about this and when I suggested she used more tact she couldn't understand why talking to a convicted sex offender about that would cause concern.
At the moment myself and her mum have a healthy Co parenting relationship where we always talk about our daughter and seek to resolve issues together but I feel at the moment this is a dangerous situation she has put my daughter in. I'm worried that by being friendly I am neglecting opportunities to raise concerns but also if I keep raising concerns I won't be spoken to about anything and if something did happen I would be less aware because I've created a rift?
Can anyone offer any advice on how best to handle this? I'm. Really at a loss.
Thanks in advance.