court ordering a section 37, need advice
Posted: Thu May 17, 2018 12:42 pm
hello, just to give a brief overview of where i am, i have two children 10 (girl) and a boy who is 7,
*my ex partner is only biological father of one of the children
*in 2015 he made false allegations to social services these claims were never substantiated,
*order was issued in 2016 for 2 nights a week
* since then his partner contacted me in oct 2017 to highlight that she was concenred for the safety of the children, she reported him to the police for harming one of her children. she told me he was volatile, he breaks their things, locks them in rooms, questions them for hours on end, lets them play 18 rated games, allowed my 9 year old to go to the shop alone,allowed both children to go to the beach alone, he allowed my 9 year old to use whatsapp , he asked and forced the children to lie,they have been forced to lead a double life for fear of "getting dad into trouble" ( their words). he has told them i dont love them and that i dont want them and that i am evil and want to keep them away fromhim, and they must not tell me things.
i ceased contact and took my concerns to the police, i took my concens to social services, i then made an applicaton to the court to dissolve the current court order and also remove the parental responsability that had been awarded to him in the first court order for my daughter
he admitted to everything above,
caffacsss completed the section 7 and the recommendation is that the children return to him for two nights per week,report was littered with factual inaccuracies,in one paragraph she states the childrens emotional wellbeing needs to be considered and the next recommends two nights of unsupervised contact.
the cafcasss docusment also dismisses the things said by his partner as "bitter dispute" even though children have cooberated what has happened. also dismisses the issues above as difference in parenting style. said that because he has never physically harmed the children and they do not fear him that they should go back.
i refused to agree to contact other than letters and the case has now been upgraded to a district judge ,the judge has recommended a section 37 be carried out aswell as a pshycological assessment of my daughter, and said to me that i am abusing the children emotionally by not letting them see thier father, and potentially will look remove them from my care.
my concern is
1, the fact the court do not appear to have addressed the issues they children faced in my ex partners care,
2, the court have not indicated how we resolve said issues and simply want me to hang them back to him,
so i feel stuck between a rock and a hard place,
any advice is appreicated,
thanks
*my ex partner is only biological father of one of the children
*in 2015 he made false allegations to social services these claims were never substantiated,
*order was issued in 2016 for 2 nights a week
* since then his partner contacted me in oct 2017 to highlight that she was concenred for the safety of the children, she reported him to the police for harming one of her children. she told me he was volatile, he breaks their things, locks them in rooms, questions them for hours on end, lets them play 18 rated games, allowed my 9 year old to go to the shop alone,allowed both children to go to the beach alone, he allowed my 9 year old to use whatsapp , he asked and forced the children to lie,they have been forced to lead a double life for fear of "getting dad into trouble" ( their words). he has told them i dont love them and that i dont want them and that i am evil and want to keep them away fromhim, and they must not tell me things.
i ceased contact and took my concerns to the police, i took my concens to social services, i then made an applicaton to the court to dissolve the current court order and also remove the parental responsability that had been awarded to him in the first court order for my daughter
he admitted to everything above,
caffacsss completed the section 7 and the recommendation is that the children return to him for two nights per week,report was littered with factual inaccuracies,in one paragraph she states the childrens emotional wellbeing needs to be considered and the next recommends two nights of unsupervised contact.
the cafcasss docusment also dismisses the things said by his partner as "bitter dispute" even though children have cooberated what has happened. also dismisses the issues above as difference in parenting style. said that because he has never physically harmed the children and they do not fear him that they should go back.
i refused to agree to contact other than letters and the case has now been upgraded to a district judge ,the judge has recommended a section 37 be carried out aswell as a pshycological assessment of my daughter, and said to me that i am abusing the children emotionally by not letting them see thier father, and potentially will look remove them from my care.
my concern is
1, the fact the court do not appear to have addressed the issues they children faced in my ex partners care,
2, the court have not indicated how we resolve said issues and simply want me to hang them back to him,
so i feel stuck between a rock and a hard place,
any advice is appreicated,
thanks