loosing the will with social services and ex husband
Posted: Wed Jan 24, 2018 4:59 pm
as with everyone my situation is complex
My children have been placed with their father by social services and i have signed a safety agreement for this to take place, I had to sign it as it would affect my job working with children.
the concerns mostly lie with my ex partner who had allegations of sexual abuse made against him by his ex wife and his girls, it was fully investigated then dropped due to lack of evidence and the effect it would have on his children.
when i first found out about the allegations and my children were on the child in need register i couldnt cope with it so i ended my relationship with my ex partner, as time went on we remained friends as we still had feelings for eachother, when the investigation was dropped i called social services to tell them i was seeing him again, to my astonishment they were still concerned about his involvement with the children and the manager told me a social worker would be in contac, they came out and saw the children a week later for all of 5 mins! we arranged another meeting and she never turned up, i text but had no reply, i thought that they werent concerned about the children.
my partner and i decided he would do a lie detector for the two allegations that the police and he passed, i know its not a legal document but it reasured me enough to let him see the children again and he did take my son to the park by himself.
my ex husband found out and made the refferal to social services.
there was an incident last year when my partner kicked my daughter and that was being investigated but nothing came of it as he was lying on the sofa because he had a bad leg and my daughter went to sit on him.. not the best response but was certainly not an agressive attack.
meanwhile my daughter is 9 and going through a pre teen stage, everthing I ask her to do is a problem and she says i am mean to her so she now wants to live with daddy.
my ex husband is manipulative and controlling, i dont want her growing up with his lies so will fight for her, but he is really capatalising on this.
the facts remain that there was no safety plan in place and i thought it was safe to continue contact.
i have put in for mediation so that i can take my ex husband to court, i have requested my data, made a complaint about social services, what can i do now? i was going to just pick them up from school one day as i have parental responsibility but how would this go down?
to be clear i have split from my partner and social services want me to complete a safeguarding asessement but they are dragging their heels, what can i do? feeling lost without them
My children have been placed with their father by social services and i have signed a safety agreement for this to take place, I had to sign it as it would affect my job working with children.
the concerns mostly lie with my ex partner who had allegations of sexual abuse made against him by his ex wife and his girls, it was fully investigated then dropped due to lack of evidence and the effect it would have on his children.
when i first found out about the allegations and my children were on the child in need register i couldnt cope with it so i ended my relationship with my ex partner, as time went on we remained friends as we still had feelings for eachother, when the investigation was dropped i called social services to tell them i was seeing him again, to my astonishment they were still concerned about his involvement with the children and the manager told me a social worker would be in contac, they came out and saw the children a week later for all of 5 mins! we arranged another meeting and she never turned up, i text but had no reply, i thought that they werent concerned about the children.
my partner and i decided he would do a lie detector for the two allegations that the police and he passed, i know its not a legal document but it reasured me enough to let him see the children again and he did take my son to the park by himself.
my ex husband found out and made the refferal to social services.
there was an incident last year when my partner kicked my daughter and that was being investigated but nothing came of it as he was lying on the sofa because he had a bad leg and my daughter went to sit on him.. not the best response but was certainly not an agressive attack.
meanwhile my daughter is 9 and going through a pre teen stage, everthing I ask her to do is a problem and she says i am mean to her so she now wants to live with daddy.
my ex husband is manipulative and controlling, i dont want her growing up with his lies so will fight for her, but he is really capatalising on this.
the facts remain that there was no safety plan in place and i thought it was safe to continue contact.
i have put in for mediation so that i can take my ex husband to court, i have requested my data, made a complaint about social services, what can i do now? i was going to just pick them up from school one day as i have parental responsibility but how would this go down?
to be clear i have split from my partner and social services want me to complete a safeguarding asessement but they are dragging their heels, what can i do? feeling lost without them