Feeling intimitated
Posted: Sat May 20, 2017 1:05 am
Hi
I have been assigned a social worker 3 weeks ago because my son 3 years ago met a girl while on holiday with me he was a immature 18 year old and turned out this girl was only 14 although she told him she was 16 he got charged in march for sending an indecent image to her this girl wasnt innocent in any way as just before he was arrested she had a pregnancy test not with him as he has never had sex with her, waiting for his sentencing which will be next friday as he pleaded guilty he was put on sex offenders 4 weeks ago and as i have a 13 year old daughter living at home he has moved out to his nannas who is currently in hospital very poorly. I was told by police there would be a social worker phoning me, 5 days later they just turned up at door when i was going to visit my mam in hospital i got totally stressed out as i have been caring for my mam who has been really poorly since january and my house was totally neglected as my husband works away from home and only comes home twice a month for 2 days. i admit it was a mess. I started pulling rooms apart as they did say if no improvements were made then they would look at other care for my daughter im 53 year old and have brought 4 kids up my eldest being 27 never before had anything to do with social workers, i feel humiliated and intimidated by them, after 1st visit i have waited 3 weeks for them to show up and i was out but daughter was in, when she opened door they asked if they could enter she didnt know what to do so said yes then asked if they could look round house went into her room as the 1st time it was a typical teenagers bedroom wires clothes and rubbish, they said they wouldnt go into my room as that was invading my privacy when i wasnt there (too late for that) they asked her questions have you had contact with your brother have you seen your brother when did you last have contact with him all of which since we were told no contact that is what we have kept to, they could have phoned me to ask permission as they keep saying she is only 13 she cant do housework or keep her own bedroom tidy as she is 13 and its up to me. The next day they showed up to see me and brought assistant manager with her, she had done a contract which im to sign and were supposed to pick it up today at 4 pm i sat and waited an hour and half waiting then went out to visit my mam. The contract is saying my daughter cant go to her nannas where he is residing,hes not allowed to enter my home and she cant have any contact with him, i was told by police that he could come to see us as long as daughter was at school or sleeping out. I have to make sure all rooms are improved which is fair enough but all this is through trying to get some contact with brother and sister . One point on the contract was daughters emotional state she was always so happy smiling and full of joy and since this she is worried she is going to get took into care my daughter and i are really close best friends and she can see im stressed out over everything thats going on and worried they are going into her school the only emotional state is due to them. I feel as though my privacy has been invaded my house is not my home anymore im constantly cleaning (which isnt a bad thing) daughter is hoovering her bedroom twice a day any advice very much appreciated
I have been assigned a social worker 3 weeks ago because my son 3 years ago met a girl while on holiday with me he was a immature 18 year old and turned out this girl was only 14 although she told him she was 16 he got charged in march for sending an indecent image to her this girl wasnt innocent in any way as just before he was arrested she had a pregnancy test not with him as he has never had sex with her, waiting for his sentencing which will be next friday as he pleaded guilty he was put on sex offenders 4 weeks ago and as i have a 13 year old daughter living at home he has moved out to his nannas who is currently in hospital very poorly. I was told by police there would be a social worker phoning me, 5 days later they just turned up at door when i was going to visit my mam in hospital i got totally stressed out as i have been caring for my mam who has been really poorly since january and my house was totally neglected as my husband works away from home and only comes home twice a month for 2 days. i admit it was a mess. I started pulling rooms apart as they did say if no improvements were made then they would look at other care for my daughter im 53 year old and have brought 4 kids up my eldest being 27 never before had anything to do with social workers, i feel humiliated and intimidated by them, after 1st visit i have waited 3 weeks for them to show up and i was out but daughter was in, when she opened door they asked if they could enter she didnt know what to do so said yes then asked if they could look round house went into her room as the 1st time it was a typical teenagers bedroom wires clothes and rubbish, they said they wouldnt go into my room as that was invading my privacy when i wasnt there (too late for that) they asked her questions have you had contact with your brother have you seen your brother when did you last have contact with him all of which since we were told no contact that is what we have kept to, they could have phoned me to ask permission as they keep saying she is only 13 she cant do housework or keep her own bedroom tidy as she is 13 and its up to me. The next day they showed up to see me and brought assistant manager with her, she had done a contract which im to sign and were supposed to pick it up today at 4 pm i sat and waited an hour and half waiting then went out to visit my mam. The contract is saying my daughter cant go to her nannas where he is residing,hes not allowed to enter my home and she cant have any contact with him, i was told by police that he could come to see us as long as daughter was at school or sleeping out. I have to make sure all rooms are improved which is fair enough but all this is through trying to get some contact with brother and sister . One point on the contract was daughters emotional state she was always so happy smiling and full of joy and since this she is worried she is going to get took into care my daughter and i are really close best friends and she can see im stressed out over everything thats going on and worried they are going into her school the only emotional state is due to them. I feel as though my privacy has been invaded my house is not my home anymore im constantly cleaning (which isnt a bad thing) daughter is hoovering her bedroom twice a day any advice very much appreciated