please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

gemsmom of8
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please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby gemsmom of8 » Fri Apr 11, 2014 9:40 pm

I never in my life had to worry about any of children being taken and now they have and the now ss want to take legal proceeding to take my baby when she born is there anythink I can do to stop this im so scared I just don't know what to do please help me any1
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Re: please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby gemsmom of8 » Sun Apr 13, 2014 9:58 pm

can i change my social worker as she not giving me a fair chance in getting my children back they wont do nothing for me I've had no meeting in regard to my children no care plan in getti
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Re: please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby ange301126 » Mon Apr 14, 2014 4:25 am

Dear gemsmom,
You have made the right choice coming to the FRG website. They are the experts in family rights and will give you all the advice and help you are going to need especially if your rights are being insulted in any way.Other parents will also be able to give you advice based on their own experiences.

Suzie, the professional at the FRG will contact you in a day or so but in the meantime you can chill a little. You are in the right place and believe me, you are not the first to have your rights abused.

So, please tell us if your man ( now your ex) has been convicted or not?

When we know the answer to that question,,we will know how to begin advising you.

Exactly how many children have you got and are they in residential homes or foster-care?

What are their ages?

When is your new baby due?

Yes, you do have a better chance now you have moved area so that is one positive for you. Keep in touch now you are here.What a shame you never found the FRG when it all began. Did your social worker tell you all about the advocacy services available right at the start? They should do by law.

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Re: please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby gemsmom of8 » Mon Apr 14, 2014 6:27 am

no he hasn't yet but I am :cry: still on bail for this with condition's not to have contact with my 1yrs 2yrs 4yrs 5yrs 8yrs 10yrs 12yrs
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Re: please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby ange301126 » Mon Apr 14, 2014 7:30 am

Dear gemsmom, Based on experience, unless you are convicted in the criminal court of whatever you are charged with, you are to be treated as innocent.
What are you accused of?

It is rare that a court sets such strict bail conditions so it must be a very serious charge. It sounds like the social workers have had no choice but to take the children into care but it depends. The Law says children are always better placed with extended family if possible . Have they considered it?

As I said before you are in the right place and Suzie of the FRG will give you advice either later today or on Tuesday.

I can say that if you have been on a child protection plan for so long and it is you who asked for help in the first place ,it sounds daft to say that you have failed the children.

If your ex is guilty of harming them ( he is also innocent until proven guilty) then until five weeks ago,all the professionals are just as much to blame as you.Is it one of the children who have made the allegations? It isn't unusual for children to invent stories and even when there is some truth to them, social workers are prone to blowing them up out of all proportion

All these are possibilities and we can talk about them if tou tell us more.

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Re: please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby gemsmom of8 » Mon Apr 14, 2014 8:00 am

they say I've neglect my children which I haven't I have make sure they eat well I've clothed them I treat them
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Re: please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby ange301126 » Mon Apr 14, 2014 9:14 am

Dear gemsmom, have the children accused him of hitting them or is it more serious than that? Has he been charged or is he just bailed like you?

At first sight, if it is true that you haven't been charged then the social workers must have removed the children under a court order. Children cannot be removed without one. The Police cannot set bail conditions to say you can't have contact with them and the social worker can't advise it either. You should get your solicitor to contact the children's Guardian and demand your rights to contact immediately even if it has to be suoervised.
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Do they have an Interim Care Order or an Emergency Protection Order?

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Re: please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby Suzie, FRG Adviser » Mon Apr 14, 2014 3:19 pm

Dear gemsmom of8,

I am really sorry to hear about the very difficult time you and your family are having. I know it must be extremely difficult for you not having contact with your children and not knowing whether they might be returned to you.

I can see from your post that Children services (social services) are very worried that your children have been hurt by your partner and that they believe you must have known what was happening but did not take steps to protect them. Your exe was also domestically abusive to you-you say he mind controlled you. If you suffered domestic violence, then your children would have also suffered-by witnessing the effects of the domestic abuse on you. It is a massive step (and no doubt frightening step) that you have taken to now separate from your partner and to engage with womens aid and the freedom programme. This will all go in your favour when decisions are being made about your children.

Care proceedings
- Please have a look at our advice sheet about care and related court proceedings. This sets out the court process and what happens at each hearing. It also stressed the importance of working with your solicitor and what powers the court has during the proceedings.
Children services have interim care orders which give them parental responsibility in respect of your children. This allows them to make decisions about where your children live and who they see.
As there are court proceedings, you need the help of a solicitor. If you have not got a solicitor, you can find one, who specialises in children law and who is on the Children Panel or accredited by the Law Society at law society-find a solicitor


By the end of the court proceedings, the court will want to know where your children will be living permanently.
They will want to know whether:
• You as Mum can provide “good enough” and safe parenting to all or some of your children; if that is the case there will be a plan for your children to return home to you.
• Whether the children’s father can provide good enough parenting.
To make this decision, there will be assessments of you.

Has the assessment been completed or are you still being assessed. If you are still being assessed, the fact that you are undertaking the freedom programme and working with Womens Aid will be very important-it will show that you are now seeking the support you need to help you leave your exe and not return to him. Make sure that you cooperate with the assessment of you. If you have any questions do not hesitate to contact your solicitor.

If the court decides that you (or dad) cannot care for your children, then the court will want to know whether
• there are any family or friends or people connected to your children-who could care for your children until they are 18 years old,
• If there is no friend or family member the court will want the children to be placed with adopters or for your children to stay in long term foster care.

Do you have any family and friends who would be willing to be assessed to care for any of your children? If so make sure you give their name and contact details to your solicitor.

Has there been a family group conference?
family group conference to look for family and friends who could care for your children.

Contact with your children
Here is our advice sheet about contact with children who are subject to a care order (or interim care order).
Contact with children in care.

It sets out the law and procedure around contact when children are subject to a care or interim care order.
Children services must allow “reasonable contact” between you and your children unless a court says otherwise.
Is there a court order stopping contact on a temporary basis? If so, when will this be reviewed? At the next court hearing or before? Have you agreed for contact to stop until the police have made a decision about whether they are going to prosecute you? When can it start again?

Can you have contact by letter or supervised contact in a contact centre? Are your children seeing any relatives? Are they seeing each other?

I know I have only touched on things so please post back with any further questions. I don’t know whether any other parents might also have suggestions for you.

In the meantime, keep working with your solicitor, carry on with the freedom programme and please work with your social worker-even though this might seem difficult.

Best wishes
Suzie

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Re: please help i want my 7 babys back they are my world

Postby ange301126 » Mon Apr 14, 2014 7:05 pm

Dear gemsmom, I know that you are going to fight to get your seven babies back but you are facing a life-or-death situation; the enormity of it should not be possible in a civilised country but you have to accept for the next eight months at least they are parted from you You must quit your fight,relax as best you can and put your unborn first until the baby is safely delivered and nurtured.This is probably the hardest decision you'll ever have to take in your life but from one parent to another you have to get your priorities right.
At least the children are alive. You have to concentrate on the new baby right now.
The stressess you are under are massive and dangerous so I advise you to tell your consultant and midwife about it as soon as you can. They might be able to arrange some shelter or respite.They might even take you into hospital early.
Stress seriously harms expectant mothers and can seriously damage babies in the womb.I've seen it.It can bring on premature birth. Concentrate on that priority.


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