A123 wrote: ↑
Thu May 21, 2020 11:27 am
i put numerous complaints in as did my mother the social worker did not want my family to have my daughter from the time she was born this was in 2016 well fastforward 2017 no court involvement a rehab plan was put in place for my daughter to finally come home but i got i ended up being a passenger in a car accident so they issused court preceding straight away i wasnt even driving to say it was my fault they dragged me to court on a zimmer frame as i had 2 broken legs i had only just been discharged from hospital in no fit state to leave the house anyway they got what they wanted a care order i was granted 6 times a year contact by the judge but i raised issues with the way my daught was dressed her clothes were way to big her shoes simply fell off her so did her coat ect told basically to shut up 1st time id raised concerens then in 2018 my daughter said her 'father' her carer had hit her and told me where and what happened infront of the social worker in contact once contact finished she had a word with her carer and phoned me back a few days later saying the carer newe nothing about it i had to phone the social worker for something in 2019 asked her again what was said i had a different story well now she has reduced my contact down to 3 times a year apparently for lack of engagement ive never missed a contact in 4 years even when i had to be monitored for a high risk pregnancy she had my go 10 miles away for contact making me cut it fine for my hospital appointment she was a right *** but im still stuck to 3 times a year 2 different social workers later they have no issues with me as far as im aware
I see you have posted again on the parents’ discussion forum a few times 21st-23rd May 2020. I will respond to the queries you have posted in a single post.
Firstly, you posted on a thread ‘Has anyone had negative repercussions from complaining’. From what you state in the post, it appears that you believe that the concerns you raised regarding your daughter’s clothes, disclosure that she made about being hit as well as previous complaints which both you and your mother made prior to a care order being made. You mention that there were arrangements in place for your daughter to return to your care prior to the accident in which you were involved. You do not say who your daughter was living with at that time or why she needed to be away from your care. It may be that you mentioned this in previous posts.
I am responding to what you say in this post. Children’s services would not have been able to make an application for a care order only on the basis that you were in a car accident. They would need to provide the court with a lot more than the accident. Further, the court must find that the threshold criteria is met before making a final care order. Please see here
Regarding the reduction in contact, children’s services, because they have a care order can make decisions about contact on the basis of what is in the child’s best interests. If they do decide to reduce contact to a child in care then they should have a contact review meeting to discuss this decision. It maybe that children’s services had concerns about the placement being undermined. If your contact was reduced and no valid reason given to you then you should consider making a formal complaint since you did not miss contact. You can also discuss this with the independent reviewing officer (IRO). It is also possible for you to make an application to the court. Please see our advice sheet Contact with children in care
Turning now to your second post, you ask whether a person’s history with children’s services (new name for social services) follows them even if they leave the country. If children’s services become involved with a person with a history then the new local authority would be aware of the history as an investigation or enquiry would show previous involvement. Having said that, the history is not what is going to be the deciding factor in any subsequent involvement as that person would be looked at as they are at the time of the new involvement. The history would be looked at and form part of any subsequent assessment or court proceedings. Being abroad, will depend on whether a request is made for historical information regarding the person or persons in question.
Whether a person has made significant changes and have a clear understanding of what led to children’s services would also be important in any new case involving that person. Please see information
If it was decided that a court case is necessary this will be based on the evidence available to children’s services and it will always be the court that makes the final decision after considering all the evidence both written and oral.
In respect of your third post, it appears from what you say that although your mother had a special guardianship order for your two eldest children, this placement did not work out well as they were removed from her care. As a result, children’s services applied for care orders these two children and a final care order made with a plan for long term foster care. At the same time, your case relating to your baby was also ongoing.
You have had a very difficult time, with your accident and the other issues you have had to deal with in respect of your children. It is unfortunate that you have not been able to have any of your children remain in your care.
It may be that with your baby who had already been placed with adopters the court took the view that whatever you needed to do would not be done within the baby’s timescale. This is because consideration has to be given to a young child having a secure and settled placement. Meeting the proposed adopter would have been nice for you as it might have help seeing the person who would be taking care of your daughter. That decision is for that person to make. Hopefully, you will have letter box contact so you get some information about how your daughter is doing.
Although, being adopted means she is no longer legally your child, it is clear that you feel a very strong link with her and have hope that in the future she might want to know about you and her background and you have made financial provision for her.
My suggestion is that you try and maintain contact with your children who are in long term foster care and work on the changes that you have already made so, possibly at a later date you can ask to be assessed for them to return to your care. It is important that you recognise the reasons they could not be with you and work on those issues. I understand that it will be hard to forget the things you believe were incorrect on the part of children’s services but rather than focus on the negative try to maintain all the positives that you have done.
If you are not already receiving post adoption support, I think it may be helpful for you and you should ask the social worker to arrange this for you. Please see our advice sheet Adoption: what does it mean for birth parents?
I think you might also find this advice sheet useful Duties on Children’s Services when children are in the care system