Boyfriend with a caution
Posted: Mon Feb 24, 2020 11:12 am
Hi
My ex partner and I separated 7 years ago and we have shared care, my 2 boys were put on a cpp last week for physical abuse after he assaulted them. There is an ongoing police investigation and evidence as well as my eldest disclosing to school.
I have an emergency court hearing this week to try & vary the court order to sole residency as it currently says shared care and he’s only allowed supervised contact at the discretion of children’s services.
I am racked with worry to the point it’s affecting my appetite, my boys were on a cpp 5 years ago for emotional when they were in my sole care because i was classed as being obstructive in allowing contact between the boys & dad but I was just trying to protect them. The SW at the time ignored all mentions of domestic abuse & recommended they reside with dad & he got residency. I took it back to court & got shared care 2 years ago. I’m worried that this will all be used against me now in court despite children’s services identifying me as the safe parent and they’re currently with my full time.
Another thing, I met someone a few months ago who is becoming quite special. He was very upfront with me and told me he had a caution for beating up the man his ex wife cheated on him with. I’m really scared children’s services will be concerned about this. I haven’t introduced him to my boys yet as it’s only been a few months but I would like to in the future and I’m worried children’s services may be preventative. As I have the boys full time we can only see each other on an evening when they’re in bed, we’re very discreet and I know they never come downstairs even if they did wake up they’d just call out to me & id ask him to leave. Would children’s services have a problem with this?
My children are cpp through no fault of my own & there’s no concerns surrounding my parenting & im worried that I’ll have to give up my boyfriend. If I had any niggles about him I wouldn’t let him anywhere near me let alone my children. I had been single for almost 2 years & I’ve done the freedom program & varying other courses so I’m more than confident at spotting any potential risks.
My ex partner and I separated 7 years ago and we have shared care, my 2 boys were put on a cpp last week for physical abuse after he assaulted them. There is an ongoing police investigation and evidence as well as my eldest disclosing to school.
I have an emergency court hearing this week to try & vary the court order to sole residency as it currently says shared care and he’s only allowed supervised contact at the discretion of children’s services.
I am racked with worry to the point it’s affecting my appetite, my boys were on a cpp 5 years ago for emotional when they were in my sole care because i was classed as being obstructive in allowing contact between the boys & dad but I was just trying to protect them. The SW at the time ignored all mentions of domestic abuse & recommended they reside with dad & he got residency. I took it back to court & got shared care 2 years ago. I’m worried that this will all be used against me now in court despite children’s services identifying me as the safe parent and they’re currently with my full time.
Another thing, I met someone a few months ago who is becoming quite special. He was very upfront with me and told me he had a caution for beating up the man his ex wife cheated on him with. I’m really scared children’s services will be concerned about this. I haven’t introduced him to my boys yet as it’s only been a few months but I would like to in the future and I’m worried children’s services may be preventative. As I have the boys full time we can only see each other on an evening when they’re in bed, we’re very discreet and I know they never come downstairs even if they did wake up they’d just call out to me & id ask him to leave. Would children’s services have a problem with this?
My children are cpp through no fault of my own & there’s no concerns surrounding my parenting & im worried that I’ll have to give up my boyfriend. If I had any niggles about him I wouldn’t let him anywhere near me let alone my children. I had been single for almost 2 years & I’ve done the freedom program & varying other courses so I’m more than confident at spotting any potential risks.