Need advice, please.
Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2017 9:42 pm
My situation right now:
1. My son, ** came home from school and he was fine, i picked him up all normal. I was cooking and he was playing with his younger sibblings in the living room play area.
2. After i finish doing the prep for dinner, i went to check up on them when i noticed a red mark on his face. The mark stretch from under his eyes, down his cheeks and stop at around his nose.
3. I questioned him about where and how he got the mark, he was surprise at the question and said what mark? Then he went back to play time.
4. My husband arrive home from work and immediately noticed the mark on [son's] face. He spoke to me about it and we both confront him about the mark. [Son] said he did not know what caused it and he said it does not hurt.
5. The next morning, my husband wash [son's] face, to get him ready for school. [Son] still said it doesnt hurt. My husband drop him off at school and waved good bye.
Now the problems starts
6. At 1:30 in the afternoon, i received a call from Social Services, telling me to go to school immediately.
7. I arrived at the school and met 2 Social Workers along with teachers and police officers.
8. They are suspicious about the nature of the mark on [son's] face. They took all 3 kids and me to Hospital.
9. I was interviewed, doctor check up and more interviews with police, NHS doctors and SW.
10. I was very adamant that I never hit my kids, at all. But the doctor said that he will put this down as a non accidental injury. Police were also very vague, they send us home without any information, no letters, no notice. Just: "Hand us the kids voluntarily, we will call you tomorrow. If you dont hand them over tonight, we will take them away one way or another"
11. They decided to keep the kids under police protection for 72 hours. We went home after.
A few days later.
12. After various interviews over the course of two days. I attended court today.
13. I found out from my solicitors that my son told them that [son's] was being hit me. This was his interviewed on the day.
14. His second interview with the police, he told them both me and my husband hit him.
15. Police said his interviews were very vague and does not fit properly.
16. My daughter, ** did not reply to the police at all.
After court.
17. After court, our solicitors advice us that we will be able to see the kids tomorrow, at an arranged time.
18. The kids are still under foster care after 4 days.
19. We have aunties and close friends listed under potential people that our kids could live with. We would rather have our family or close friends in charge of the kids than foster care
Thank you for taking your time to read. Please please send me any advice. I can't sleep, can't eat. My husband started smoking again. We need all the help we can. We would really appreciate any help you can provide.
Edited by Suzie in accordance with our rules to maintain confidentiality
1. My son, ** came home from school and he was fine, i picked him up all normal. I was cooking and he was playing with his younger sibblings in the living room play area.
2. After i finish doing the prep for dinner, i went to check up on them when i noticed a red mark on his face. The mark stretch from under his eyes, down his cheeks and stop at around his nose.
3. I questioned him about where and how he got the mark, he was surprise at the question and said what mark? Then he went back to play time.
4. My husband arrive home from work and immediately noticed the mark on [son's] face. He spoke to me about it and we both confront him about the mark. [Son] said he did not know what caused it and he said it does not hurt.
5. The next morning, my husband wash [son's] face, to get him ready for school. [Son] still said it doesnt hurt. My husband drop him off at school and waved good bye.
Now the problems starts
6. At 1:30 in the afternoon, i received a call from Social Services, telling me to go to school immediately.
7. I arrived at the school and met 2 Social Workers along with teachers and police officers.
8. They are suspicious about the nature of the mark on [son's] face. They took all 3 kids and me to Hospital.
9. I was interviewed, doctor check up and more interviews with police, NHS doctors and SW.
10. I was very adamant that I never hit my kids, at all. But the doctor said that he will put this down as a non accidental injury. Police were also very vague, they send us home without any information, no letters, no notice. Just: "Hand us the kids voluntarily, we will call you tomorrow. If you dont hand them over tonight, we will take them away one way or another"
11. They decided to keep the kids under police protection for 72 hours. We went home after.
A few days later.
12. After various interviews over the course of two days. I attended court today.
13. I found out from my solicitors that my son told them that [son's] was being hit me. This was his interviewed on the day.
14. His second interview with the police, he told them both me and my husband hit him.
15. Police said his interviews were very vague and does not fit properly.
16. My daughter, ** did not reply to the police at all.
After court.
17. After court, our solicitors advice us that we will be able to see the kids tomorrow, at an arranged time.
18. The kids are still under foster care after 4 days.
19. We have aunties and close friends listed under potential people that our kids could live with. We would rather have our family or close friends in charge of the kids than foster care
Thank you for taking your time to read. Please please send me any advice. I can't sleep, can't eat. My husband started smoking again. We need all the help we can. We would really appreciate any help you can provide.
Edited by Suzie in accordance with our rules to maintain confidentiality