Please Advise or give your thoughts
Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2017 7:17 pm
Hello all,
I really need some views on my case.
My son of 2 1/2 was removed from my care in June *** this year.
I had accidently taken too many tablets which were not prescribed for me. I became very unwell and my next memory was waking up in intensive care.
My Mum was at my home and was keeping an eye on my son.
my boyfriend (he isn't the father) came home after 2am as he works in security. He ended up calling 999 as my breathing started to get really bad.
i have no recollection of what happened from 6pm onwards.
When I woke up in intensive care I was told that childrens service wanted to speak to me.
i ended up seeing them and they said that if I didn't sign a paper for my son to go into voluntary care that they would get the police to remove him.
I was extremely distressed.
i called the legal aid department and they were busy trying to find me a lawyer.
i ended up signing the paper and my sister took my son to her home.
I was informed that they were concerned by the state of my home. I did not understand what they were talking about.
i found out that medication was all over my living room.
My Mum who had stayed that night didn't realise how ill I was.
As I slipped in and out of conciousness she was pouring water over my head to keep me awake, this caused my carpets in my hallway to be soaked.
When my boyfriend called 999 the paramedics arrived and reported me to social services.
I do understand why they intervened then.
Anyway, the social worker I was allocated has caused so much hassle.
She has literally fabricated lots of things. She even said my son had tried to insert his fingers into his 6 year old cousins vagina.
This is a lie, all he did was prodded her near her crotch when she was fully clothed.
The social worker tried to say that he had maybe been subjected to sexual abuse.
My sister was horrified by this and wrote a statement saying it wasn't true.
The social worker got information about the father of my son from facebook. She blurted out during a meeting that he had a daughter six weeks younger than my son.
This is false, she went on a profile on facebook and just assumed that a man with the same name and who is black (my son is mixed race) was the father. This piece of information has gone down as fact.
She has made up so many things that even my sister has told me that she does not trust her.
My son now is still with my sister but is moving next week to a foster home. A lot of this is due to the rubbish that the social worker came out with and also the fact that my sister did not get enough support.
I admit that they are being really positive about me but this whole ordeal has made me so ill.
I have a dependance on codeine and they have said i don't need to be medication free but just on a safe amount.
We are due the last court case at the end of february but the social worker has said that it doesn't mean that my son can't come home until then.
They have increased my contact by half an hour and seem to be singing my praises.
However, none of this changes the fact that so many lies and false information about my son has been given.
The social worker said 'I shouldn't say this as I am a social worker, but my job is to find evidence of why your son can't come home, but you are not giving me anything' my lawyer said she should not have said this. My sister gave evidence proving this was said as she was present.
She did say in 8 years of being a social worker that she has never seen someone work so hard to get their child back.
My question is what do I do about this? She has lied a lot and has lied to the judge too.
Surely something can be done? It isn't right that someone in such an important job about having a child returned to a family can get so much wrong.
Please advise me as I can't take much more.
thanks
***edited to maintain confidentiality
I really need some views on my case.
My son of 2 1/2 was removed from my care in June *** this year.
I had accidently taken too many tablets which were not prescribed for me. I became very unwell and my next memory was waking up in intensive care.
My Mum was at my home and was keeping an eye on my son.
my boyfriend (he isn't the father) came home after 2am as he works in security. He ended up calling 999 as my breathing started to get really bad.
i have no recollection of what happened from 6pm onwards.
When I woke up in intensive care I was told that childrens service wanted to speak to me.
i ended up seeing them and they said that if I didn't sign a paper for my son to go into voluntary care that they would get the police to remove him.
I was extremely distressed.
i called the legal aid department and they were busy trying to find me a lawyer.
i ended up signing the paper and my sister took my son to her home.
I was informed that they were concerned by the state of my home. I did not understand what they were talking about.
i found out that medication was all over my living room.
My Mum who had stayed that night didn't realise how ill I was.
As I slipped in and out of conciousness she was pouring water over my head to keep me awake, this caused my carpets in my hallway to be soaked.
When my boyfriend called 999 the paramedics arrived and reported me to social services.
I do understand why they intervened then.
Anyway, the social worker I was allocated has caused so much hassle.
She has literally fabricated lots of things. She even said my son had tried to insert his fingers into his 6 year old cousins vagina.
This is a lie, all he did was prodded her near her crotch when she was fully clothed.
The social worker tried to say that he had maybe been subjected to sexual abuse.
My sister was horrified by this and wrote a statement saying it wasn't true.
The social worker got information about the father of my son from facebook. She blurted out during a meeting that he had a daughter six weeks younger than my son.
This is false, she went on a profile on facebook and just assumed that a man with the same name and who is black (my son is mixed race) was the father. This piece of information has gone down as fact.
She has made up so many things that even my sister has told me that she does not trust her.
My son now is still with my sister but is moving next week to a foster home. A lot of this is due to the rubbish that the social worker came out with and also the fact that my sister did not get enough support.
I admit that they are being really positive about me but this whole ordeal has made me so ill.
I have a dependance on codeine and they have said i don't need to be medication free but just on a safe amount.
We are due the last court case at the end of february but the social worker has said that it doesn't mean that my son can't come home until then.
They have increased my contact by half an hour and seem to be singing my praises.
However, none of this changes the fact that so many lies and false information about my son has been given.
The social worker said 'I shouldn't say this as I am a social worker, but my job is to find evidence of why your son can't come home, but you are not giving me anything' my lawyer said she should not have said this. My sister gave evidence proving this was said as she was present.
She did say in 8 years of being a social worker that she has never seen someone work so hard to get their child back.
My question is what do I do about this? She has lied a lot and has lied to the judge too.
Surely something can be done? It isn't right that someone in such an important job about having a child returned to a family can get so much wrong.
Please advise me as I can't take much more.
thanks
***edited to maintain confidentiality