Advice needed long and complicated story
Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2017 1:28 am
I was convicted in 2007 of 2x sexual assault on a child.
I was given a 18 month sentence.
And Sopo that reads ..... not to be on my own with any female under the age of 16.... end of restrictions.
I have fathered 2 more children since by 2 partners,
First partner I was with between 2008 and 2012 , female daughter was born in 2000.
My then partner was asked by social services to sign a document stating that I will not be on my own with our daughter .
Relationship ended in 2012.
2013 I met my wonderful new partner who I am still in a loving relationship with.
My partner had a 2 year old daughter from her previous relationship when we got together.
I inform PPU that I will be on occasions sleeping at new partners home and that she has a 2 yr old daughter.
PPU pay new partner a visit and tell her about my past (which she already knew) then said that social services will be in touch.
We heard nothing from social services.
Partner then moves house and we decided to move in together, I then informed PPU who paid us another visit and again said that social services will be coming to see us.
We at this point inform PPU that social has had no contact at all as yet.
Another 14 month passes with no contact at all from social services, we were living together as a normal happy family, with the usual ups n downs.
My partner has had and continues to have issues with alcohol, but she has now been dry for nearly 2 months and goes to a regular help group.
Social services only became active in our life after our son was born recently *****.
Social services admit that PPU have made contact but somehow it's not been acted upon.
My partner was advised by social services to do a house move mainly to get away from a alcoholic who lives next door.
My partner and I planned on signing the tenancy agreement together on the new home but social services are now kicking up an almighty stink and say I am not allowed to sign as a joint tenant.
My partner moves on saturday , the social worker has had 2 weeks to come up with a risk assessment for me in respect of partners now 5 yr old daughter and or our new born son.
My partner and I feel it is pretty awful that we are being made to live separately, our family and my partners support from me, is being ordered to stay away.
We will not know the outcome of the risk assessment until next Tuesday and then no doubt my partner will be asked to sign some awful bit of paper that is going to rip our family apart.
I went to crown court in January 2016 to try to get a end date put on my Sopo, the judge eased the terms of the Sopo by saying if the other parent agreed then I could have unsupervised access to our child
Or where I was not the father then as long as mother agreed and social agreed I could also have unsupervised access.
The judge told me I could bring it back in a few years to ask it to be considered again .
My partner and I are dreading the reality of the outcome of the risk assessment on Tuesday
Please if you feel you can offer any useful advice then please do respond.
Many thanks
******Post edited by Suzie for reasons of confidentiality.
I was given a 18 month sentence.
And Sopo that reads ..... not to be on my own with any female under the age of 16.... end of restrictions.
I have fathered 2 more children since by 2 partners,
First partner I was with between 2008 and 2012 , female daughter was born in 2000.
My then partner was asked by social services to sign a document stating that I will not be on my own with our daughter .
Relationship ended in 2012.
2013 I met my wonderful new partner who I am still in a loving relationship with.
My partner had a 2 year old daughter from her previous relationship when we got together.
I inform PPU that I will be on occasions sleeping at new partners home and that she has a 2 yr old daughter.
PPU pay new partner a visit and tell her about my past (which she already knew) then said that social services will be in touch.
We heard nothing from social services.
Partner then moves house and we decided to move in together, I then informed PPU who paid us another visit and again said that social services will be coming to see us.
We at this point inform PPU that social has had no contact at all as yet.
Another 14 month passes with no contact at all from social services, we were living together as a normal happy family, with the usual ups n downs.
My partner has had and continues to have issues with alcohol, but she has now been dry for nearly 2 months and goes to a regular help group.
Social services only became active in our life after our son was born recently *****.
Social services admit that PPU have made contact but somehow it's not been acted upon.
My partner was advised by social services to do a house move mainly to get away from a alcoholic who lives next door.
My partner and I planned on signing the tenancy agreement together on the new home but social services are now kicking up an almighty stink and say I am not allowed to sign as a joint tenant.
My partner moves on saturday , the social worker has had 2 weeks to come up with a risk assessment for me in respect of partners now 5 yr old daughter and or our new born son.
My partner and I feel it is pretty awful that we are being made to live separately, our family and my partners support from me, is being ordered to stay away.
We will not know the outcome of the risk assessment until next Tuesday and then no doubt my partner will be asked to sign some awful bit of paper that is going to rip our family apart.
I went to crown court in January 2016 to try to get a end date put on my Sopo, the judge eased the terms of the Sopo by saying if the other parent agreed then I could have unsupervised access to our child
Or where I was not the father then as long as mother agreed and social agreed I could also have unsupervised access.
The judge told me I could bring it back in a few years to ask it to be considered again .
My partner and I are dreading the reality of the outcome of the risk assessment on Tuesday
Please if you feel you can offer any useful advice then please do respond.
Many thanks
******Post edited by Suzie for reasons of confidentiality.