Police and social services
Posted: Wed Jun 28, 2017 6:27 pm
Hi,
I am looking for some advice please as I have never been through such a thing and I do not know what to do.
I have been with my partner for 6 years and lived together with him, my 2 children and my mum in my house. My mum never ever liked him for different reasons. Firstly because he has 2 children under his care who we always wanted to bring them here in UK with us. She never wanted this as she never wanted to leave me and my kids. She thinks I owe her everything I have and did and it's my fault for everything that's happening to her. She's always tried to control me and the house and she had a big input in my 2 previous divorces.
With my partner she has been very rude, always accusing him for being with me for money (he earns a very decent salary), being with me for UK papers, for the house, or to have a mother to his kids. She became verbally violent from start, physically too with me. She also tried on few occasions to turn the kids against me or him. We always hoped this shall pass and she'll accept our relation.
However since we took the decision to finally build our life together this summer she's made allegations of sexual abuse towards my 10 years old daughter, saying that she saw my partner one morning coming out of her room while she was asleep. My partner denies it. She's told my daughter very often that he goes in her room and uncovers her. My daughter doesn't believe her as her relationship with my partner is very father/daughter relationship as she says he's more of a father than her biological dad and she's always felt safe around him. My mother involved my daughter's dad, whom she saw maybe 10 times in 8 years.
Last Monday my daughters dad called the police to talk about the things my mum said and police interrogated my daughter at school. A social worker called me to inform me after the interrogation that my daughter said she feels safe around my partner but my mother seems to be the problem.
I haven't heard back since last week and don't know where to turn. School also interrogated her and they feel granny is the problem. I have always seen my daughter happy and she was looking forward to our marriage this year and being all a big family. My daughter says that granny always told her things about my partner and that she shouldn't play with him and keep away from him. My daughter's dad called the police because we didn't send him a father's day message but my daughter didn't want to. My mother than called him and said that I taught my daughter not to send one, which is a lie. I asked my daughter to text him but her answer was no, why should I? He didn't text me happy children's day!
What do I do? What shall I expect next? I am so lost!!
I am looking for some advice please as I have never been through such a thing and I do not know what to do.
I have been with my partner for 6 years and lived together with him, my 2 children and my mum in my house. My mum never ever liked him for different reasons. Firstly because he has 2 children under his care who we always wanted to bring them here in UK with us. She never wanted this as she never wanted to leave me and my kids. She thinks I owe her everything I have and did and it's my fault for everything that's happening to her. She's always tried to control me and the house and she had a big input in my 2 previous divorces.
With my partner she has been very rude, always accusing him for being with me for money (he earns a very decent salary), being with me for UK papers, for the house, or to have a mother to his kids. She became verbally violent from start, physically too with me. She also tried on few occasions to turn the kids against me or him. We always hoped this shall pass and she'll accept our relation.
However since we took the decision to finally build our life together this summer she's made allegations of sexual abuse towards my 10 years old daughter, saying that she saw my partner one morning coming out of her room while she was asleep. My partner denies it. She's told my daughter very often that he goes in her room and uncovers her. My daughter doesn't believe her as her relationship with my partner is very father/daughter relationship as she says he's more of a father than her biological dad and she's always felt safe around him. My mother involved my daughter's dad, whom she saw maybe 10 times in 8 years.
Last Monday my daughters dad called the police to talk about the things my mum said and police interrogated my daughter at school. A social worker called me to inform me after the interrogation that my daughter said she feels safe around my partner but my mother seems to be the problem.
I haven't heard back since last week and don't know where to turn. School also interrogated her and they feel granny is the problem. I have always seen my daughter happy and she was looking forward to our marriage this year and being all a big family. My daughter says that granny always told her things about my partner and that she shouldn't play with him and keep away from him. My daughter's dad called the police because we didn't send him a father's day message but my daughter didn't want to. My mother than called him and said that I taught my daughter not to send one, which is a lie. I asked my daughter to text him but her answer was no, why should I? He didn't text me happy children's day!
What do I do? What shall I expect next? I am so lost!!