Confused and distraught
Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2017 6:55 pm
Hello, I could do with some advice please.
My ex husband has been hell bent on 'making me pay' since I started a new relationship. He has used the social services by making constant complaints about myself and my partner by pretending he is doing so out of concern for our 3 children. I have since had a child by my new partner, and our second child due in two weeks.
My ex husband has been using my partners past history of domestic violence agains us, had been making claims about the children witnessing fight between us and even stated that my partner and myself have hit the children.
Two weeks ago all children were taken from me and put in care, the 3 by my ex have gone to live with him whilst the remaining are in the care of social services.
My children have been questioned throughout the assesment and have never once said that they are hurt by my partner or myself. They have all confirmed that they have never been witnesses of any fights, but have mentioned hearing raised voices a couple of times in the past.
They have all stated how they adore my new partner, claim they have fun with him and are not scared of him.
They have always said that they wanted to stay as they were, with their mother(myself) and my partner.
There has been questioning in the past in regards to accusations the children once made against me, one was 'that I had hit my child in the stomach'. When that child was questioned he said to the social worker that he had said this 'because his father told him to do so', and this was backed up by his two brothers.
We were recently in court and were horrified to hear the social workers final statement that was presented to the judge. Three quarters of this statement was lies.
He had made claim's to me by saying I was telling my children what to say, things that made it appear to be a vendetta by my husband. He also said that the children had confirmed to seeing us fight, and said they wanted to be with their father and not me.
It all came to a head when my children were taken from me because of this statement made. There were even parts of this statement that differed to all other statements made during the assessment, and full of contradictions throughout.
I don't believe I will ever be free of my ex husband, he has always said that he would make my life hell. The social services must investigate a complaint made, so this is what he's always done, knowing they will stick around because of that one incident that my partner held his hands up to.
I don't understand how this could have happened, and what were they thinking by putting our 3 kids in his care.
My ex has a long string of violence offences, hammer attack, once when we were woken by him having broken in and dragging the children from their beds with a knife in his hand, alsorts. How has this happened? Will I ever get my baby's back? And what will happen when my baby is born in less than a months time?
Where's the justice in any of this. My children have a right to be heard, yet the social worker has his ears covered and making it all up as he goes along. My children should never have been put in such a situation, clearly my ex does not give a damb about them. I desparetly need help, I must save my children. I feel so hopeless
My ex husband has been hell bent on 'making me pay' since I started a new relationship. He has used the social services by making constant complaints about myself and my partner by pretending he is doing so out of concern for our 3 children. I have since had a child by my new partner, and our second child due in two weeks.
My ex husband has been using my partners past history of domestic violence agains us, had been making claims about the children witnessing fight between us and even stated that my partner and myself have hit the children.
Two weeks ago all children were taken from me and put in care, the 3 by my ex have gone to live with him whilst the remaining are in the care of social services.
My children have been questioned throughout the assesment and have never once said that they are hurt by my partner or myself. They have all confirmed that they have never been witnesses of any fights, but have mentioned hearing raised voices a couple of times in the past.
They have all stated how they adore my new partner, claim they have fun with him and are not scared of him.
They have always said that they wanted to stay as they were, with their mother(myself) and my partner.
There has been questioning in the past in regards to accusations the children once made against me, one was 'that I had hit my child in the stomach'. When that child was questioned he said to the social worker that he had said this 'because his father told him to do so', and this was backed up by his two brothers.
We were recently in court and were horrified to hear the social workers final statement that was presented to the judge. Three quarters of this statement was lies.
He had made claim's to me by saying I was telling my children what to say, things that made it appear to be a vendetta by my husband. He also said that the children had confirmed to seeing us fight, and said they wanted to be with their father and not me.
It all came to a head when my children were taken from me because of this statement made. There were even parts of this statement that differed to all other statements made during the assessment, and full of contradictions throughout.
I don't believe I will ever be free of my ex husband, he has always said that he would make my life hell. The social services must investigate a complaint made, so this is what he's always done, knowing they will stick around because of that one incident that my partner held his hands up to.
I don't understand how this could have happened, and what were they thinking by putting our 3 kids in his care.
My ex has a long string of violence offences, hammer attack, once when we were woken by him having broken in and dragging the children from their beds with a knife in his hand, alsorts. How has this happened? Will I ever get my baby's back? And what will happen when my baby is born in less than a months time?
Where's the justice in any of this. My children have a right to be heard, yet the social worker has his ears covered and making it all up as he goes along. My children should never have been put in such a situation, clearly my ex does not give a damb about them. I desparetly need help, I must save my children. I feel so hopeless