Re: I am a sex offender father please help me
Posted: Sat Apr 01, 2017 10:27 pm
I think the reason better educated well off individuals get harder hit is because they are expected to be above this kind of behaviour.
Before you jump on me, my partner is a RSO, who served a custodial sentence, 3years on licence, and 15 years-on the register.
The problem is the pervasive attitude that somehow looking at a video isn't the same as actually doing it.
But somebody did didn't they. Somebody's child was raped and brutalized so someone could satisfy some urge.
If it wasn't there you wouldn't look?
If people didn't look there would be no market?
I don't know what the answer is.
What I do know is I would take safe over sorry every time.
My partner and I were very very honest and humble in the face of the services. We asked questions, requested advice.
Right from the beginning I admitted my partner was a risk and requested courses that would help me identify the warning signs in his behaviour.
I was involved in his healthy sexual function course work.
I requested advice from his support group supervisor. It is a group for offenders, that looks at behaviours and how they can be changed or managed.
But this course is optional.
You would have to ask.
You will always lose with anger against these people.
Also I would like to say I have found most of the advice here to be neutral but clear on what you can expect from the services.
Suzie often says it's Th CS job to look to protecting the child. That's not biased it's just fact.
Their agenda has 0,zip,nothing to do with the police or court or your final sentence.
They need to wait for a verdict before they can decide on a course of action. But outside of that they only care about if the child is at risk.
And what will happen if they make the wrong call.
I am sure none of us wld want that kind of responsibility.
A lot of child welfare workers are, out of touch and out of line.
On here I have read more horror stories than I care to imagine.
The one thing, well two things a lot, not all, but a lot these stories have in common is that both the perpetrator and their partner believe there to be no risk, or reluctantly accept a small risk.
This is another area my partner and I differed from most couples is that he was very straightforward in admitting he couldn't say he would never offend or want to again. And with that in mind he takes constant measures to help with his behaviour. And it is frequently discussed with both his SW and my family social worker.
Sexual preferences cannot be changed, only managed. This is a absolutely essential step for any sexual offender to recognise.
I am truly very sorry you have found yourself where you are..
And to anyone else I faced with this situation I strongly advise humility in the face of the services,because they have your future in their hands.
All the best for the future. Take care.
Before you jump on me, my partner is a RSO, who served a custodial sentence, 3years on licence, and 15 years-on the register.
The problem is the pervasive attitude that somehow looking at a video isn't the same as actually doing it.
But somebody did didn't they. Somebody's child was raped and brutalized so someone could satisfy some urge.
If it wasn't there you wouldn't look?
If people didn't look there would be no market?
I don't know what the answer is.
What I do know is I would take safe over sorry every time.
My partner and I were very very honest and humble in the face of the services. We asked questions, requested advice.
Right from the beginning I admitted my partner was a risk and requested courses that would help me identify the warning signs in his behaviour.
I was involved in his healthy sexual function course work.
I requested advice from his support group supervisor. It is a group for offenders, that looks at behaviours and how they can be changed or managed.
But this course is optional.
You would have to ask.
You will always lose with anger against these people.
Also I would like to say I have found most of the advice here to be neutral but clear on what you can expect from the services.
Suzie often says it's Th CS job to look to protecting the child. That's not biased it's just fact.
Their agenda has 0,zip,nothing to do with the police or court or your final sentence.
They need to wait for a verdict before they can decide on a course of action. But outside of that they only care about if the child is at risk.
And what will happen if they make the wrong call.
I am sure none of us wld want that kind of responsibility.
A lot of child welfare workers are, out of touch and out of line.
On here I have read more horror stories than I care to imagine.
The one thing, well two things a lot, not all, but a lot these stories have in common is that both the perpetrator and their partner believe there to be no risk, or reluctantly accept a small risk.
This is another area my partner and I differed from most couples is that he was very straightforward in admitting he couldn't say he would never offend or want to again. And with that in mind he takes constant measures to help with his behaviour. And it is frequently discussed with both his SW and my family social worker.
Sexual preferences cannot be changed, only managed. This is a absolutely essential step for any sexual offender to recognise.
I am truly very sorry you have found yourself where you are..
And to anyone else I faced with this situation I strongly advise humility in the face of the services,because they have your future in their hands.
All the best for the future. Take care.