Absolutly I feel there should be a better support group for victims of this addiction xxDesperateDad wrote:My children's Mum has been hauled over the coals because she believes in moving forwards and doesn't want our friendship or relationship to end. For stating that she believes in me and trusts me, she has been accused of being unfit to safeguard, and therefore we now find ourselves on a CP Plan, with the prospect of even worse. I've seen how the social workers have tried really hard to force her to be horrified over and over again, to express distrust, to cut herself away from her children's father. It's terribly cruel and short-sighted, when actually what we should be doing is looking for a way to provide love and rehabilitation.
They openly accused me of failing to safeguard my children because I made the conscious decision to stay with my partner and to work through those issues together, weekly counselling sessions (together and individually) for so long now, and making excellent progress in terms of self-understanding, self-forgiveness etc. Yet, this is all disregarded because they have a view on what it all means before they even walk in the room, and they'll fit every bit of evidence they can around it so that they achieve the outcome they want. My children aren't better off because of their mistakes and venom, my children are far worse off, as are all our relationships as we struggle to try to move forward positively.
Totally agree. i also don't understand how can be good for the children to break a family instead of help them to get back together. There so many criminal examples where they help. To be honest i think is because is the easy route for them. but are they really thinking on the children?
I’ve come to realise through all my anger that social services have to see everything as worse case scenario. They see a man who enjoys looking at pictures of children and automatically makes them a risk to any and all children. They then go on the scentence and do risk assessments and work backwards. I know it doesn’t make our lives any easier but the other thing I’ve come to realise is how well my husband is at lying and hiding things. I don’t believe for one second my husband had hurt my daughter but social services don’t know our husbands, they have to do what they have to do xxxx
totally agree. that's why i think our best option is work with them and once our husband are clear after done the curses and sentence and so on fight to get the family together. In the mean time make sure he doesn't lose contact with the kids.