pre birth assessment
Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 9:49 pm
Well to be honest I don't really know where to start. 28weeks ago I had a one night stand with a man who previously had his children removed. I am now 28weeks pregnant with his baby. I have had NO contact with this man since the one night stand. I phoned ss myself at 18weeks pregnant and told them I was concerned about what him and his history would mean for my baby. They decided not to do anything until 24weeks when a social worker came out and said a core assessment needs to be done. So I am currently in the process of that, up to date she has said they have no plans for a pre birth assessment and may close the case with support from homestart and a caf. I also signed an agreement saying I will allow this man to have no contact with my baby when born or my 4 year old daughter. The thing that worries me is that guidelines state that a pre birth assess$ent and cpc HAVE to be done if either parent has had children removed and that the cpc should be held at least 10weeks before birth. So why are they not doing this in my case? I have also sent the sw a message today asking her this although she won't get back in touch until after the new year. Are they not doing a pre birth assessment because he is not involved or what? She has visited my home twice and said she has no concerns about my living conditions, no concerns about my daughter and has been in touch with nursery and health visitor who have also said they have no concerns and are very supportive of me. I also explained the situation to my midwife on thursday as the sw was suppose to get in touch with her but hasn't up to now. She is also supportive, and said they can't possibly consider removing my children when he is not a part of their lifes, he doesn't even know I'm pregnant. She said she has no concerns and I have attended all of my apps which are quite often, I see a consultant and have a scan every 4weeks due to my daughter being very premature. Anyway the social worker text me on friday to say the midwife left her a voicemail. I have shown the sw all the baby stuff and asked if there is anything else I need to buy she has said no and that the baby stuff I do have is lovely. She asked me how I afforded it all I told her I have been putting money away since very early in my pregnancy. She is also saying she is worried about how anxious and worried I am about everything, but obviously I am going to be worried these are my children not just something I can replace. Was just wondering if anyone had any advice on my situation and what the likely outcome will be???? I am very very worried and have not been able to enjoy this pregnancy at all also the stress has made day to day life difficult for me and my daughter as I'm so scared of losing her. The social worker said as long as I'm not having contact with this man and they have no concerns about my parenting then my little boy will be coming home with me is this right????