Dear LD66LD66 wrote: ↑Thu Nov 15, 2018 12:48 pm Thank you for your response Suzie.
I am no longer with the partner. He has 're offended in the past I am aware of all his convictions now. He has mental health issues and now I have taken a step back I can see that he has in fact groomed me to a certain extent. He had turned the tables on me totally. Has shown his true colours. And been violent towards me. When i have done nothing wrong. Also him being there to pick up the pieces made me more emotionally attached to him.
I was in too deep and couldn't see it.
I believe him to be a narcissistic personality also.
My job was only a few hours a week and was ending in a months time due to lack of funding. My employer is happy to keep my job open should I wish to return. I just needed a break and could not handle the shame and embarrassment. In the meantime I have another job lined up. Am just getting this meeting out of the way then I can concentrate on getting mine and my son's life back on track!
Just to add there is no way I will ever get back with this partner now. I have promised my children and myself. He will not be able to hurt us anymore.
Thank you for you updating post.
I am pleased that you have been able to take a step back and look at your situation and now understand the true nature of your ex-partner and how it impacted on you and your son. Your have gained insight to the circumstances you find yourself in to the extent that you accept there was grooming by your ex-partner on you so perhaps it would be possible for him to have done the same to your son. Children's services will, I believe, be pleased that you say you have reached this point. They may be cautious in their response because sometimes people can say all the right things but do not always follow through.
It is possible that it could be seen as you wishing to stop child protection procedures continuing. It is possible that it could be seen as you wishing to stop child protection procedures continuing. Please read our advice sheet Child protection procedures
With time and positive engagement from you with children's services it is likely they will get to the point where they accept that you mean what you are saying about not being with your former partner anymore.
It is really good that you are now ready to move forward to rebuild your life with your son. I wish you the very best of luck as you go forward.
Best wishes
Suzie