My child's father had findings made agaisnt him nai...taking me to court now for supervision order.
Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2017 2:38 am
Hello I posted a couple of weeks back about my situation in relation to my now ex partner who was accused of hurting a child...he says he didn't and I did belive him. But I also know his version does not make sense and I have to use my common sense but I am in a hard position because the 4 years we have been together he has been so good and my rock when I was at my absolute lowest. So basiclly they put my son on a cpp and today they showed me the judgement well she actually read it and would not allow me to read it even though she scribbled out the names is this right as I feel now I have a child to this man I deserve to know the truth with my own eyes...I know if a finding of fact has been made then I have to accept that fact but it makes it hard when I can't read it with my own eyes aswell...he still protests he is innocent but as I said I know deep down his version does not make sense....so now they want to take us both to court for a supervision order. What confuses me is if he was such a high risk why was he allowed at the birth? Also why was he not put on a register? I saw someones post about there partner being on a list where he is not allowed around any children under the age of 18 my son's dad does not have this....I have kept him away and today stopped telephone contact as my mind is all over the place my other worker has now started to ask me how I feel about him having contact and tbh I don't know they have made out I've minimilised concern but so have they considering it has taken them 8 months to show me this judgment. As previous worker never followed it on he had no concerns but they won't mention that because it will be on there heads then....I knew of some of the info but have not been able to hear the actual judgment until.today and I am still.not happy as I could not read it.....I am upset because my son is 3 months old now and has bonded with his dad and he has bonded with his son I feel if I take that away I am being cruel but I feel if I say I want him to have supervised contact they will still say I am not seeing the risk when I do....remember when I spoke about having a finding made agaisnt you can this force you to never see your children again? Half of me wants to stop contact to show them I am a protective factor in my son's life but the other half makes me feel sorry for my son and dad I am so confused....looking on paper he does sound like a monster but 4 years we have been great it's harder because they allowed him to move back home and then everything was going good I was wary so made sure I was watching his every move and I will give him credit he was brilliant.....is there a way to move forward atall? The relationship is over but he is still a part of my son's life I don't no what is best anymore I was thinking should I ask them to assess him still and do courses to.prove to.them and.me.that he.is no longer a risk but can they even do this is it even worth it? I know sex offenders have been able to see there children and even some unsupervised now they want to take me to court and will use this fact finding but is it true they can't say my son is at risk because of the finding made agaisnt him? If he was considered to be the perpotrator or does that rule only apply to people in the pool? I say this because of a previous post you commented on suzi but that was if they were issuing care proceedings and so far they are not...can I request for him to prove himself so he can be safe? I would be happy to supervise but considering they have tried to say I have minimilised the risk which I haven't I only heard the proper judgement today and prior to that I was told in 2014 he was the perp read from caffcass and then ss recently said he was in the pool then he was likely to have done it but they have lied about me so I needed actual facts not there version of the truth and even today she still didn't show it to me....what should I do please help is it worth him proving he isn't a risk should I ask for him to do this or would it be better coming from his as he is the one who needs to prove himself to me and to them I trusted him but have also been wary and my head Is just so stressed out because a child was injuried and I understand that. But what do I do now to the person who has been good in the 4 years I've known him I feel evil taking a dad away from his son