Partner of sex offender
Posted: Tue Nov 28, 2017 5:29 pm
I am the partner of a sex offender and we have been together nearly 2 years. I have twin girls the same age as his victim and a 5 year old girl as well as 3 older sons. I am pregnant with his child (a boy so no concerns from social services as his victim was female and my son was not at risk or on child protection when he was under 16). His offence was with 1 girl age 14 it was before i met him and he served time in prison.
We have worked well with ss for nearly 2 years now and although we have made some progress it does not seem to be moving very quick. I have been assessed by them as being a protective figure and capable of protecting my children and although he is not assessed as low risk as he is still on licence, therefore his probation officer wont state he is low risk, he was assessed as medium risk which is the lowest he can be until off licence. I have older children (boys) living with me age 23, 18 and 16. My partner has contact with my children outside the home but isnt allowed in the home yet even when the children are not home! (Incase they come home) when the baby is born (in 10 week) we want to live as a family or at least for him to be allowed to come to visit his son and bond with him and be a hands on father. My 23 year old son and my dad have been assessed as appropriate protective adults too. The children are off child protection and now child in need. It has come to a stand still recently with no one from social services taking responsibility to move forwards. When the children where taken of child protection it was agreed that we could move to home visits by october after work was done with my son and my dad and a safety plan done with the girls. This has dragged on so long due to my social worker being 'busy with other cases' it was also stated the case would close by december if contact goes well. Every child action meeting a new date is given for contact at home as work hasnt been done by the social worker and the case being closed by december is definately not going to happen now. Nothing has gone wrong and contact has gone well with no concerns yet it isnt moving forwards. What can we do to push it forward before the baby is born without looking like we are not cooperating?? They have moved the goal post so many times with no reason why yet we have stuck to our side of the plan exactly. The prebirth assessment has gone really well with the social worker actually saying he will make a good dad. She has already stated to me she has more important cases that need priority but i feel that isnt fair on us to leave us waiting. It has took us so long to get to this point i dont want to cause trouble or be uncooperative but i want to be a family with my baby having a dad around. We are not sire what we are allowed to do for christmas as it was suppose to be sorted by then for him to visit the home so we may have to pay a lot of money to eat out in a public place on christmas day so we can be a family. Any advice??
We have worked well with ss for nearly 2 years now and although we have made some progress it does not seem to be moving very quick. I have been assessed by them as being a protective figure and capable of protecting my children and although he is not assessed as low risk as he is still on licence, therefore his probation officer wont state he is low risk, he was assessed as medium risk which is the lowest he can be until off licence. I have older children (boys) living with me age 23, 18 and 16. My partner has contact with my children outside the home but isnt allowed in the home yet even when the children are not home! (Incase they come home) when the baby is born (in 10 week) we want to live as a family or at least for him to be allowed to come to visit his son and bond with him and be a hands on father. My 23 year old son and my dad have been assessed as appropriate protective adults too. The children are off child protection and now child in need. It has come to a stand still recently with no one from social services taking responsibility to move forwards. When the children where taken of child protection it was agreed that we could move to home visits by october after work was done with my son and my dad and a safety plan done with the girls. This has dragged on so long due to my social worker being 'busy with other cases' it was also stated the case would close by december if contact goes well. Every child action meeting a new date is given for contact at home as work hasnt been done by the social worker and the case being closed by december is definately not going to happen now. Nothing has gone wrong and contact has gone well with no concerns yet it isnt moving forwards. What can we do to push it forward before the baby is born without looking like we are not cooperating?? They have moved the goal post so many times with no reason why yet we have stuck to our side of the plan exactly. The prebirth assessment has gone really well with the social worker actually saying he will make a good dad. She has already stated to me she has more important cases that need priority but i feel that isnt fair on us to leave us waiting. It has took us so long to get to this point i dont want to cause trouble or be uncooperative but i want to be a family with my baby having a dad around. We are not sire what we are allowed to do for christmas as it was suppose to be sorted by then for him to visit the home so we may have to pay a lot of money to eat out in a public place on christmas day so we can be a family. Any advice??