Bf rso child protection and court
Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2017 4:34 pm
Hi sorry I'm looking for someone who is going through or been through something similar.
So basically 19 months ago I started dating my current bf who is a rso he was charged for ioc. The girl he meet online on a dating site back in 2010/11 she claimed to be 19 but was 15 he owned upto to talking to her and exchanging images but obviously didn't know her real age until the end when he stopped talking to her. A few weeks before police investigation.
Long and short is we broke up and then have decided to resume our relationship. What's baffled us is social have obvious concerns around my background because I left my children's father due to dv and him abusing children. I then ended up with a guy or abused me only lasted 6 months as last 2 months the abuse started so I left. My bf is allowed around his nieces and nephews but now social have told me he isn't allowed around any children we live in 2 different counties is this why there's a conflict there?
Now a few weeks ago my parents who me and children are currently staying with kicked me and the children out but are now lying to social claiming I ran away to be with my boyfriend even though we had been over for 5 months this is why we decided to get back together because I have no other family or friends because when i moved in with my parents i was told to delete all my friends and with it being a weekend when they kicked us out we had no where to go they also rang my boyfriend to tell him that I was being kicked out. Social now believe that I will run away with the children back to my boyfriend because of their lies.
Social are looking at court because obviously thanks to what happened 4 weeks ago I'm convinced that I will lose my kids. Had my parents not have kicked us out 2 things could have happened between me and my boyfriend 1 we would have stayed as over or 2 spoken to social services to make an informed decision about whether or not we could somehow resume our relationship with their approval.
This obviously hasn't happened so far my words fall on deaf ears social don't listen and believe that I'm not stable enough to stay in one area because I've had to move several times due to childrens day following us, stalking us and harassing us. I left my own home in March to come to family because after months of stalking from their dad and being scared to leave my own house I decided we needed to be somewhere safe. I'm now being accused by social of not putting the kids needs first and putting my relationship with my bf first. We only decided to try again because being around each other remembering all the good times and having no support and him helping us by sleeping outside while me and kids had his bed and he slept in a tent until the Monday morning when he took us to the council offices showed me he cared. What happened after that when we couldn't be offered anywhere we went to his manager and social and informed them straight away. It was only then my parents decided to accept us back. Because of how I was forced out I decided that the first night when social asked to take the kids back to my mums I said I would stay with my bf he'd had a fit that day and I had to ring and ambulance so I wanted to 1 make sure he was ok and 2 I was scared incase I got back to have either verbal or physical abuse from my parents.
All I'd like to know is what can I expect because I love my kids and I've done my best yes not always the greatest of choices but I've always tried to do what I can to help them not to be too affected by whatever situation arises.
My parents claim social might be looking at temporary removal but I believe that it's going to be permanent. I lost my kids 3 yrs ago due to children's father kidnapping us and again because my parents claimed I ran away with him in lost my children for 6 months.
I didn't run away 3 yrs ago and I didn't run away 4 weeks ago.
My parents have said to me that they will not have their reputation tarnished because they do not wish to look bad because they have my sister and her child here which if social see the truth they will remove them also.
Like I say just a bit of advice on what I can expect because atm my health is being affected and I've had to start taking medication to help myou breathing which I have never had problems with until recently.
So basically 19 months ago I started dating my current bf who is a rso he was charged for ioc. The girl he meet online on a dating site back in 2010/11 she claimed to be 19 but was 15 he owned upto to talking to her and exchanging images but obviously didn't know her real age until the end when he stopped talking to her. A few weeks before police investigation.
Long and short is we broke up and then have decided to resume our relationship. What's baffled us is social have obvious concerns around my background because I left my children's father due to dv and him abusing children. I then ended up with a guy or abused me only lasted 6 months as last 2 months the abuse started so I left. My bf is allowed around his nieces and nephews but now social have told me he isn't allowed around any children we live in 2 different counties is this why there's a conflict there?
Now a few weeks ago my parents who me and children are currently staying with kicked me and the children out but are now lying to social claiming I ran away to be with my boyfriend even though we had been over for 5 months this is why we decided to get back together because I have no other family or friends because when i moved in with my parents i was told to delete all my friends and with it being a weekend when they kicked us out we had no where to go they also rang my boyfriend to tell him that I was being kicked out. Social now believe that I will run away with the children back to my boyfriend because of their lies.
Social are looking at court because obviously thanks to what happened 4 weeks ago I'm convinced that I will lose my kids. Had my parents not have kicked us out 2 things could have happened between me and my boyfriend 1 we would have stayed as over or 2 spoken to social services to make an informed decision about whether or not we could somehow resume our relationship with their approval.
This obviously hasn't happened so far my words fall on deaf ears social don't listen and believe that I'm not stable enough to stay in one area because I've had to move several times due to childrens day following us, stalking us and harassing us. I left my own home in March to come to family because after months of stalking from their dad and being scared to leave my own house I decided we needed to be somewhere safe. I'm now being accused by social of not putting the kids needs first and putting my relationship with my bf first. We only decided to try again because being around each other remembering all the good times and having no support and him helping us by sleeping outside while me and kids had his bed and he slept in a tent until the Monday morning when he took us to the council offices showed me he cared. What happened after that when we couldn't be offered anywhere we went to his manager and social and informed them straight away. It was only then my parents decided to accept us back. Because of how I was forced out I decided that the first night when social asked to take the kids back to my mums I said I would stay with my bf he'd had a fit that day and I had to ring and ambulance so I wanted to 1 make sure he was ok and 2 I was scared incase I got back to have either verbal or physical abuse from my parents.
All I'd like to know is what can I expect because I love my kids and I've done my best yes not always the greatest of choices but I've always tried to do what I can to help them not to be too affected by whatever situation arises.
My parents claim social might be looking at temporary removal but I believe that it's going to be permanent. I lost my kids 3 yrs ago due to children's father kidnapping us and again because my parents claimed I ran away with him in lost my children for 6 months.
I didn't run away 3 yrs ago and I didn't run away 4 weeks ago.
My parents have said to me that they will not have their reputation tarnished because they do not wish to look bad because they have my sister and her child here which if social see the truth they will remove them also.
Like I say just a bit of advice on what I can expect because atm my health is being affected and I've had to start taking medication to help myou breathing which I have never had problems with until recently.