need to know my next steps...
Posted: Wed May 17, 2017 8:20 am
Good morning
I'm hoping i can get some advice.
To cut a very long story short, my neighbour who up to 3 weeks ago i considered a friend too called the police on us claiming her 4 year old son had witnessed my daughter (8) had engaged in sexual activity with another neighbours girl (11). Now if for any minute i thought that this was plausible i would be addressing the situation and obtaining the help required. However, I know this incident did not take place, i know when my daughter is lying and can always get the truth from her. I have received nothing but harassment from the neighbour of the 4 year old shouting over my fence calling us disgusting for not believing her even reporting me to police for harassing her, (i can barely leave my house right now due to be being 8 months pregnant and anxiety over the situation and who she has told) I have reported her to the police also as well as her sister due to them both sending messages and basically calling my daughter a liar it was filmed her f'ing and blinding in the garden towards my husband with her baby on her hip. the police will not take the matter further.
We now have social services involved and despite the 11 year old case being dismissed by them, my daughter is not being believed, I'm being classed as mentally ill as i had a breakdown in front of the social worker (of course I'm upset I'm 8 months pregnant and dealing with all of this) asked about our finical situation (what business is that of theirs) and that i am basically in denial of the situation. I am not in denial, i am angry and frustrated that i am not being listened too, they are also incompetent, as they cancelled our appointment without telling us, i had to phone them, then after the meeting he was meant to call me back after seeing my daughter at school which he never did, so i am still in limbo. I am due this baby shortly and i can't have this hanging over my head, i no longer want to stay here but we can't afford to move, and despite continuing to fight for my daughter i know this neighbour will never accept the girls innocence. I am concerned she has told social services a pack of lies against us, and i have nothing to hide i am an open book. But i feel this is going to end up costing us as a family, because for whatever reason she has a personal vendetta on me. i have kept my mouth shut, i haven't gone and told anyone about this, i spoken to school, midwife health visitor I've played by the rules and yet I'm still the one being pursued. I don't feel like we will ever get justice for what this woman has put us all through. I have lost to much weight as i am not eating or sleeping, i weigh less no then before pregnancy, My daughter can't sleep, my husband is trying to manage us all without losing it himself, and my poor son is trying to contend with gcse's.
Please help. I need to be proactive i can't just wait it out but i fear if i pester social services i will just get labelled unstable even more.
Thanks for reading
I'm hoping i can get some advice.
To cut a very long story short, my neighbour who up to 3 weeks ago i considered a friend too called the police on us claiming her 4 year old son had witnessed my daughter (8) had engaged in sexual activity with another neighbours girl (11). Now if for any minute i thought that this was plausible i would be addressing the situation and obtaining the help required. However, I know this incident did not take place, i know when my daughter is lying and can always get the truth from her. I have received nothing but harassment from the neighbour of the 4 year old shouting over my fence calling us disgusting for not believing her even reporting me to police for harassing her, (i can barely leave my house right now due to be being 8 months pregnant and anxiety over the situation and who she has told) I have reported her to the police also as well as her sister due to them both sending messages and basically calling my daughter a liar it was filmed her f'ing and blinding in the garden towards my husband with her baby on her hip. the police will not take the matter further.
We now have social services involved and despite the 11 year old case being dismissed by them, my daughter is not being believed, I'm being classed as mentally ill as i had a breakdown in front of the social worker (of course I'm upset I'm 8 months pregnant and dealing with all of this) asked about our finical situation (what business is that of theirs) and that i am basically in denial of the situation. I am not in denial, i am angry and frustrated that i am not being listened too, they are also incompetent, as they cancelled our appointment without telling us, i had to phone them, then after the meeting he was meant to call me back after seeing my daughter at school which he never did, so i am still in limbo. I am due this baby shortly and i can't have this hanging over my head, i no longer want to stay here but we can't afford to move, and despite continuing to fight for my daughter i know this neighbour will never accept the girls innocence. I am concerned she has told social services a pack of lies against us, and i have nothing to hide i am an open book. But i feel this is going to end up costing us as a family, because for whatever reason she has a personal vendetta on me. i have kept my mouth shut, i haven't gone and told anyone about this, i spoken to school, midwife health visitor I've played by the rules and yet I'm still the one being pursued. I don't feel like we will ever get justice for what this woman has put us all through. I have lost to much weight as i am not eating or sleeping, i weigh less no then before pregnancy, My daughter can't sleep, my husband is trying to manage us all without losing it himself, and my poor son is trying to contend with gcse's.
Please help. I need to be proactive i can't just wait it out but i fear if i pester social services i will just get labelled unstable even more.
Thanks for reading